Little update

[E_05]

Saw my IVF nurse today and signed all the paper work ready for my fresh transfer. Aiming for transfer to be at the end of March as long as my body plays ball! 🙄

Also is it only me that didn’t realise once you inform your clinic of a positive pregnancy test you then go down as a ‘success’ in statistics. So both my pregnancies are now positive statistics for IVF yet I have no living children 🤔 another reason why I don’t go by all the statistics that are given!

Emotionally I feel like I’m struggling a bit at the mo but Il continue to battle on, hope everyone else is doing well x

[Tugsgirl]

Really? That’s a bit naughty of them. Personally I never even thought to check that, I always looked at the live birth statistics because as we all know, that’s a completely different outcome.

I think we all struggle emotionally at times don’t we? Although we’re strong we can’t be strong all the time, no one can. Wishing you lots of luck for your new round 🍀 xx

[E_05 in reply to Tugsgirl]

I know tbh I’ve never looked into the statistics for the same reasons but I was shocked when she told me that today.

Definitely do, how are you doing? Thank you, lots of of luck for your transfer 🤞xx

[Tugsgirl in reply to E_05]

A bit guilty for my pity party today but sometimes it can’t be helped. Good thing we all have each other and this place xx

[E_05 in reply to Tugsgirl]

Definitely! Don’t feel guilty that’s what we’re all here for to support each other through it all xx

[Hidden]

That's really shocking that they can record a positive test as a success in their stats; totally misleading as far as I'm concerned, so thanks for informing us. Here's wishing you lots of luck and good things for the end of March. Keep fighting, and keep checking in here, particularly on those down days when you need an extra boost xxx

[E_05 in reply to Hidden]

I know that’s exactly what I thought, I said to the nurse how can that be right and she said in their eyes the IVF had worked in getting me pregnant it’s not down to the IVF I miscarried. Thank you , how are you doing? Xx

[Hidden in reply to E_05]

I've been coping ok recently. I've survived a few knocks which would usually have floored me recently. I had it confirmed that I won't get any fertility referral (both pregnancies occurred naturally, although both took nearly a year) and no m/c investigation because there has to be a minimum of 3. So despite 2 1/2 years ttc, no children and a history of m/c I won't get any treatment. The GP was actually very sympathetic which I haven't had before. It just helps to know that someone listens and understands, even though I'm not getting any further! It's just not easy, is it? Thanks for checking in though xxx

[E_05 in reply to Hidden]

Definitely isn’t easy, so sorry that you can’t be referred for any further tests you must feel like your going round in circles. Would you be able to have a fertility referral if you don’t fall pregnant again in a certain amount of time? Xx

[Hidden in reply to E_05]

Yes that's exactly how I feel. It feels like my pain and suffering isn't "enough" to warrant any help at all. I think the fertility referral will probably be after 6 months of TTC. More waiting, more time passing, more hair being torn out xxx

[AllWeNeedIsluv]

That sounds bizarre. It's false information really when you think about it. I don't know how it all works but that doesn't sound right to me.

Good luck lovely I hope this one is your time hun with your much loved bundle of joy at the end. Your bound to be going through the motions. Us women go through enough of them you'd think we'd be used to it by now, but these emotions do take their toll on us. You know we're here for you hun every step of the way

💗🤗😘

[E_05 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

I know, I’d never looked into stats but was shocked when she told me.

Thank you, they definitely do I feel so up and down atm but know it’s only natural. Hope your doing okay? Xx

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to E_05]

I'm same as you lovely very up and down. Big hugs 💗🤗😘

[Fredaflintstone]

You’re bound to feel nervous but hopefully when the time gets closer you’ll get into the right headspace and be ready.

Really wishing you all the very best. I wish I was good with words to say something better. Am here if there is anything I can do to support you. Xxx

Yes that’s really naughty re the stats. They present them as if they are the ones we should be looking at when it’s pretty misleading! Grr!!

Xxxx

[E_05 in reply to Fredaflintstone]

Thank you, I would be lost without all the support from here. Hope your okay and your pregnancy’s going well? Xx

[Fredaflintstone in reply to E_05]

Hello, yes thank you all going well. Am looking forward to stopping work at Easter. Xx

[Lou7744]

Hi there, I’ve checked the stats for the hospital that I received treatment at and they have two columns - one for pregnancies and another one breaking it down further to live births, which is a truer picture really.

Wishing you lots of luck for your next round 💕 xx

[E_05 in reply to Lou7744]

Oh right, I don’t look at the stats tbh as not like they give any guarantees just shocked me when she told me. Thank you xx

[Lou7744 in reply to E_05]

I know, it sounds like they are fudging the figures! I always think I’ve got a 50/50 chance - it works or it doesn’t! xx

[Dunla]

Oh dear, it’s important then to exercise a bit of caution as far as statistics are concerned 😧

Wishing you lots of luck as you get started. We’re all behind you xx

[E_05 in reply to Dunla]

Yeah definitely, not that I look at them lol

Thank you, how are you doing? Xx

[Dunla in reply to E_05]

I’m not too bad thanks. Some good days and bad days, you know yourself 🤦🏼‍♀️ Review on Friday, will hopefully know more about what happens next following that xx

[Anna00]

It’s really shocking that they can record a positive test as their success! It doesn’t sound right! Please Look after yourself stay calm.

Wishing you all the very best xxx

[E_05 in reply to Anna00]

I know sounded crazy to me to! Thank you, How are you doing? Xx

[Anna00 in reply to E_05]

I’m doing ok feel much better thank you xxx

[smithy1986]

Hi Hun, youre absolutely right, you cannot rely on advertise clinic statistics! they are based on pregnancies, chemical pregnancies, ectopics and all sorts! if their statistics were based on live births it would be so much better!! PLUS they should have statistics for each age range! A 40yr old woman is NOT going to have the same result as a 30 year old woman so its unfair to give them the same statistic rate. This is something that really annoys me I'm so pleased you've posted about it. Best of luck on your transfer, I hope everything works out for you as youre such a helpful member of this community and you've been nothing if not supportive of everybody else xxx

[E_05 in reply to smithy1986]

Ah thank you so much! Although I don’t look at stats your right it’s unfair to women who do go by them that it’s false info. Hope your doing okay? xx

[smithy1986 in reply to E_05]

I'm doing alright, official test day on Tuesday, I cant wait but I'm still so nervous! xx

[E_05 in reply to smithy1986]

Finger crossed for Tuesday! Well done for waiting till OTD xx

[Amanda86]

Great news that transfer is looking to be end of March, everything crossed for you 🤞 can totally understand the struggles you’ll be feeling emotionally, you’ve been through so much, I totally admire your strength.

I didn’t realise they classed a positive as success - that’s completely wrong as it definitely gives false information.

Xxx

[E_05 in reply to Amanda86]

Thank you so much, hope your pregnancy’s going well xx

[Positive2022]

Wishing you every success with your next cycle and I have everything crossed for you. I didn't realise that about the statistics, interesting. I do hope you are doing ok and sending you BIG hugs xxx

[E_05 in reply to Positive2022]

Thank you, how are you doing? Xx

[Positive2022]

I'm doing better thanks, we had our scan yesterday and all ok so far... Just taking each day as it comes for the moment. How are you doing??

[E_05 in reply to Positive2022]

Glad your scan went well! I’m up and down tbh, I feel like my emotions are really out of my control at the moment xx

[Positive2022 in reply to E_05]

Bless you lovely, you've been through so much loss and bereavement, this combined with the stress of this journey makes it so much harder. You've been incredibly strong. Have you got support around you? Are you seeing a Counsellor? I'm here if you ever need to talk. Please message me any time if you need to offload or just fancy a chat. BIG hugs and stay strong xxx

[E_05 in reply to Positive2022]

I have support around me but the counselling didn’t go well they agreed I needed CBT but it’s a years waiting list 🙄 thank you, appreciate that xx

[Positive2022 in reply to E_05]

The waiting times make me so cross, i'm really sorry to hear there is such a lengthy wait and that counselling didn't go too well for you. Have you had a chat with your GP recently?

[E_05 in reply to Positive2022]

Yeah I spoke to him and he’s really good just his hands are tied as the counselling they refer to is the years wait 🙄x

[Positive2022 in reply to E_05]

It may be worth asking for a cancellation to get in quicker or the other option could be to make a complaint about the waiting times and this will usually help speed things along xxx

[Tezzabell86]

That’s naughty. And it’s perfectly normal to feel nervous about the treatment I certainly felt nervous and scared when I started the process xxx

[Cinderella5]

Glad to hear that things are moving forward for you!! You're doing great to be battling on hun!😚

Yes I think we have to be careful when looking at the stats that....some give 7 week scan confirmation and some give pregnancy positives....can be quite misleading best to look a bit further in at the live birth rates.xx

[E_05 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you, how are you doing?

That’s true, I never realised as don’t bother looking at them lol I just think they don’t provide any guarantees but I know I’ve got a 50% chance it’ll work or it won’t xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to E_05]

Im good thanks! Have a bit of a plan in place now for our next trip to Athens. I always feel much calmer with a plan.....total control freak I must confess! Ha ha ha At least I have a proper countdown now!

I just feel like im playing a blooming gambling game....sometimes feel like I'd probably have better chances on roulette in Vegas! Lol xx

[E_05 in reply to Cinderella5]

Haha I’m exactly the same, I LOVE having a plan! Are you having your transfer while your there? Xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to E_05]

I LOVE a plan too and that was the plan....blown out of the water this afternoon. Got prolactin results back and they're far too high.....wahhhh not happy, what next!!😣xx

[E_05 in reply to Cinderella5]

Oh no how frustrating for you! Have they said what you should do? Xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to E_05]

Yes, just a tad. GP wasnts me to be retested in 4 weeks so more flipping waiting....! I havent heard back from my clinic but suspect they will want to see the retest results (to see if they have gone back to normal or I have something wrong that needs meds etc) before they allow me to proceed with treatment. In fairness I dont want to set myself up for another bfn so just need to bide my time till my body is ready I guess. Just feel like Im living in limbo land and I aint getting any younger either!xx

[E_05 in reply to Cinderella5]

I think the limboing is one of the hardest part and definitely get your frustrated but like you say best for your body to be as ready as possible. Just majorly sucks it’s more waiting, hope you hear back from your clinic soon xx

[Hidden]

Hey. I'm glad you are progressing and will be keeping my fingers crossed that all goes according to plan. Interesting information about the stats - feel silly for feeling hopeful with my 45% chance of it working!

Hope you're having a better day today xx

[7AVA]

Hope you’re ok E_05 - everything crossed for March for you. Xxx

[E_05 in reply to 7AVA]

I’m up and down but doing okay thanks, how are you? Xx

[7AVA in reply to E_05]

The same - up and down. Hope you have some nice things to look forward to in March to distract you while you’re waiting xxx