Saw my IVF nurse today and signed all the paper work ready for my fresh transfer. Aiming for transfer to be at the end of March as long as my body plays ball! 🙄
Also is it only me that didn’t realise once you inform your clinic of a positive pregnancy test you then go down as a ‘success’ in statistics. So both my pregnancies are now positive statistics for IVF yet I have no living children 🤔 another reason why I don’t go by all the statistics that are given!
Emotionally I feel like I’m struggling a bit at the mo but Il continue to battle on, hope everyone else is doing well x
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Really? That’s a bit naughty of them. Personally I never even thought to check that, I always looked at the live birth statistics because as we all know, that’s a completely different outcome.
I think we all struggle emotionally at times don’t we? Although we’re strong we can’t be strong all the time, no one can. Wishing you lots of luck for your new round 🍀 xx
Definitely! Don’t feel guilty that’s what we’re all here for to support each other through it all xx
That's really shocking that they can record a positive test as a success in their stats; totally misleading as far as I'm concerned, so thanks for informing us. Here's wishing you lots of luck and good things for the end of March. Keep fighting, and keep checking in here, particularly on those down days when you need an extra boost xxx
I know that’s exactly what I thought, I said to the nurse how can that be right and she said in their eyes the IVF had worked in getting me pregnant it’s not down to the IVF I miscarried. Thank you , how are you doing? Xx
I've been coping ok recently. I've survived a few knocks which would usually have floored me recently. I had it confirmed that I won't get any fertility referral (both pregnancies occurred naturally, although both took nearly a year) and no m/c investigation because there has to be a minimum of 3. So despite 2 1/2 years ttc, no children and a history of m/c I won't get any treatment. The GP was actually very sympathetic which I haven't had before. It just helps to know that someone listens and understands, even though I'm not getting any further! It's just not easy, is it? Thanks for checking in though xxx
Definitely isn’t easy, so sorry that you can’t be referred for any further tests you must feel like your going round in circles. Would you be able to have a fertility referral if you don’t fall pregnant again in a certain amount of time? Xx
Yes that's exactly how I feel. It feels like my pain and suffering isn't "enough" to warrant any help at all. I think the fertility referral will probably be after 6 months of TTC. More waiting, more time passing, more hair being torn out xxx
That sounds bizarre. It's false information really when you think about it. I don't know how it all works but that doesn't sound right to me.
Good luck lovely I hope this one is your time hun with your much loved bundle of joy at the end. Your bound to be going through the motions. Us women go through enough of them you'd think we'd be used to it by now, but these emotions do take their toll on us. You know we're here for you hun every step of the way
Hi there, I’ve checked the stats for the hospital that I received treatment at and they have two columns - one for pregnancies and another one breaking it down further to live births, which is a truer picture really.
I’m not too bad thanks. Some good days and bad days, you know yourself 🤦🏼♀️ Review on Friday, will hopefully know more about what happens next following that xx
Hi Hun, youre absolutely right, you cannot rely on advertise clinic statistics! they are based on pregnancies, chemical pregnancies, ectopics and all sorts! if their statistics were based on live births it would be so much better!! PLUS they should have statistics for each age range! A 40yr old woman is NOT going to have the same result as a 30 year old woman so its unfair to give them the same statistic rate. This is something that really annoys me I'm so pleased you've posted about it. Best of luck on your transfer, I hope everything works out for you as youre such a helpful member of this community and you've been nothing if not supportive of everybody else xxx
Great news that transfer is looking to be end of March, everything crossed for you 🤞 can totally understand the struggles you’ll be feeling emotionally, you’ve been through so much, I totally admire your strength.
I didn’t realise they classed a positive as success - that’s completely wrong as it definitely gives false information.
Wishing you every success with your next cycle and I have everything crossed for you. I didn't realise that about the statistics, interesting. I do hope you are doing ok and sending you BIG hugs xxx
Bless you lovely, you've been through so much loss and bereavement, this combined with the stress of this journey makes it so much harder. You've been incredibly strong. Have you got support around you? Are you seeing a Counsellor? I'm here if you ever need to talk. Please message me any time if you need to offload or just fancy a chat. BIG hugs and stay strong xxx
The waiting times make me so cross, i'm really sorry to hear there is such a lengthy wait and that counselling didn't go too well for you. Have you had a chat with your GP recently?
It may be worth asking for a cancellation to get in quicker or the other option could be to make a complaint about the waiting times and this will usually help speed things along xxx
Glad to hear that things are moving forward for you!! You're doing great to be battling on hun!😚
Yes I think we have to be careful when looking at the stats that....some give 7 week scan confirmation and some give pregnancy positives....can be quite misleading best to look a bit further in at the live birth rates.xx
That’s true, I never realised as don’t bother looking at them lol I just think they don’t provide any guarantees but I know I’ve got a 50% chance it’ll work or it won’t xx
Im good thanks! Have a bit of a plan in place now for our next trip to Athens. I always feel much calmer with a plan.....total control freak I must confess! Ha ha ha At least I have a proper countdown now!
I just feel like im playing a blooming gambling game....sometimes feel like I'd probably have better chances on roulette in Vegas! Lol xx
I LOVE a plan too and that was the plan....blown out of the water this afternoon. Got prolactin results back and they're far too high.....wahhhh not happy, what next!!😣xx
Yes, just a tad. GP wasnts me to be retested in 4 weeks so more flipping waiting....! I havent heard back from my clinic but suspect they will want to see the retest results (to see if they have gone back to normal or I have something wrong that needs meds etc) before they allow me to proceed with treatment. In fairness I dont want to set myself up for another bfn so just need to bide my time till my body is ready I guess. Just feel like Im living in limbo land and I aint getting any younger either!xx
I think the limboing is one of the hardest part and definitely get your frustrated but like you say best for your body to be as ready as possible. Just majorly sucks it’s more waiting, hope you hear back from your clinic soon xx
Hey. I'm glad you are progressing and will be keeping my fingers crossed that all goes according to plan. Interesting information about the stats - feel silly for feeling hopeful with my 45% chance of it working!
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