We had our first round of IVF/ICSI earlier this year, which sadly resulted in a late miscarriage of twin boys from severe TTTS. I was labelled a 'poor responder' in the first round of treatment as only 4 eggs were collected (this was secondary to our problem which saw us go for IVF as my husband has a very low sperm count), so I had a 3-day transfer, which got me pregnant. There were no embryos for freezing.
At our recent follow-up appointment (the first after the miscarriage) we were told by the consultant that as I had responded poorly to treatment the next round of IVF/ICSI would need to be through "egg batching" where I would need to do two simultaneous months of stimming/taking eggs in between, the eggs would then be frozen as they would want to grow them to a 5-day transfer (as "5-day transfers are more likely to work than 3-day transfers"). There would be no guarantee throughout that any of our eggs would grow to 5-day embryos, and we wouldn't "be allowed a 3-day transfer" so would have to be aware that this was the risk we were taking.
This procedure would cost us over £20,000. I asked for statistics, which the embryologist then sent me. This procedure has been performed so few times by the clinic over the last few years and the statistics aren't a lot better than their statistics for normal rounds.
Are clinics now routinely refusing 3-day transfers? Is it even right to let the embryos all die off if it looks to the embryologists as though they won't make it past 3 days so the patient has nothing to transfer?
We were just so surprised by the consultant's reasoning (especially as I had got pregnant on a 3-day transfer the first time around).
Has anybody been in this position before? In all honesty, my husband and I were very shaken up as we felt that our position was being taken advantage of (especially as we were coming from this second round from a very vulnerable place having had a very traumatic miscarriage).
We have put in a complaint with the clinic (the embryologist herself was surprised that this was the only option being offered to us as the clinic should agree to do what we wanted even if it meant a 3-day transfer and I don't know why Natural IVF couldn't have been offered to me as an option - the clinic also has this on their treatment plans) and will raise it with the HFEA but we are feeling awful that we are now in the process of starting everything again with another clinic.
A miscarriage after IVF is just so horrendous in any case because of everything you have to go through to get there and now it just feels as though we are back to square one (but worse than that).
Is there any hope for me now being a poor responder for any future IVF rounds? The way the consultant was speaking, and offering such an expensive and stressful procedure, just knocked me for six.