Nervous

[Lind16]

Hello I haven't written anything for a while. Last year my hubby and I went through our 1st ivf it failed and I blame some of it due to me going back to work and the stress. But now we are starting a second round. They managed to freeze 2 eggs from the first round but I'm so scared that I will take all the drugs and when it comes to the egg being defrosted it won't happen due to it dying or being only a class c egg .

This is our last chance as we can Not afford another round . Any tips on what to eat or not to. I just feel it's my fault last time it didn't work .

[Bluemoon1983]

Hey, I also had a failed ivf last year and had 2 frozen embryos as a result of that. I was petrified and negative going into the frozen round last month, I was convinced it wouldn’t work and that because I had not treated my body well over Christmas and new year that it would inevitably fail. I started healthy eating a week before transfer and made sure I tried not to stress at work. I also elected to have the transfer on a Friday so I could have the weekend to chill out. It worked and I’m now 5 weeks pregnant. My advice would just be nice to yourself and rest. Bet of luck sweetie xx

[Lind16 in reply to Bluemoon1983]

Congratulations and thankyou x

[JULIETJAM]

Hey Lind16, please just to say that it is not your fault that it did not work. This whole procedure is out of our control. On my ET day, I never had bed rest though I was off work. I carried on with life though I took it easy and listened to my body and rested when I felt I needed to but carried on as normal as possible. D2pt, I went Shopping, yes grocery shopping and pulled and pushed the trolley though gently, carried my shopping in the car by myself and offloaded the car. I made sure I did not over pack the bags but still they were not very light. D3pt, drove to my Mother in law’s an hour to and fro and she is poorly. Her house was in a state i vacuumed for her despite having been scared to use a vacuum in my own house. I could not face living her in such a state yet she was unwell. D4pt, I carried on as normal but also went for a drive with my friend but also carried on with housework, lifting not so heavy stuff but still lifted. I rested on D5pt only doing housework and cooking but that was only because I was going back to work the following day and I needed to chill. I went for a walk every morning because my nurse with using Crinone gel, I needed to go for a walk immediately after for 15-20 minutes but I did longer than that because I love walking. No major side effects from crinon gel and I think that helped. With regards to what I ate, I ate healthy for though I had a naughty snack from time to time. But prior to EC and ET I drank over 2ltrs of water(I love water, sometimes I have 4ltrs) + a litre of milk. It was semi skimmed milk for me, though I cut down to 1ltr after ET. 3 -4 Brazil nuts every day, 1/5 of Pineapple core from Transfer day for five days, Eggs, seeds, especially milled flaxseeds mixed with goji berries( sprinkled them on cereal, oatmeal and vegetables, 1/2 avocado 🥑 everyday. I am not going to say that’s what helped me to get a BFP because I do genuinely believe God blessed me. It was not luck and not the diet for me but it was God’s mercy and love. It was a miracle.

Above all that, I had faith. So please however difficult it is, have faith and keep a positive mind. I pray your eggs thaw ok and I pray this is your time and you will have good news.

Sorry about this long message but I just wanted you to see that not resting didnot have any impact on the failure last treatment. It was just not God’s time. So please don’t blame yourself because it’s not your fault at all. I never rested but got a BFP. The 2ww was very stressful too but again the ladies on here are amazing. And the experiences keep one going. I wish you all the best. Now get yourself a drink because you must be exhausted from reading all this haha 😘 x

[Lind16 in reply to JULIETJAM]

Thankyou very much for your message this has helped. Xx

[Hidden]

Please don’t blame yourself sweetie. This whole process is difficult and cruel and sometimes wonderful. What will be will be. I had a scan which showed everything perfect with perfect hcg and perfect progesterone and estrogen within 24 hours it was all gone. I blamed myself fir sneezing for coughing but in reality these things just happen. The process is so fragile. Imposing all of the guilt on you is unfair. Think of all the good you have done getting that far xx

[Lind16 in reply to Hidden]

Thankyou I'm trying to stay positive. X