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First box ✔ on donor egg journey

So I booked a appointment at a private clinic to hear what there thoughts were on possibly been able to get us a baby through treatment.

He said although I'm young ( 37 don't feel it) he thought donor eggs would be our best option, I knew that was coming really so had accepted it in my own head.

He advised us to go to their councling session asap even though we don't want to start treatment till July/ Aug time as I want to get weight off.

So we go to our councling appointment 5tg Feb eeeek!

Not sure weather to be scared or excited but praying we get better luck with this journey .

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Hey :) wishing u all the best, it's good uv got the ball rolling! Good luck with ur weight loss, its not easy but u can do if 💞 x

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Thank you , weight seems to go on quicker than it comes off that's for sure 🤣.

How's your 2ww going ? X

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It rly does, so much harder to lose than gain! Have u a diet plan ur going to follow? Its hard to find 1 that works for u. Its going ok, cramping has settled. Jus hoping we get a good result. Have moments of full belief and moments thinking it will never happen. All standard 2ww stress lol xx

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I'm not following slimming world or anything I'm just really cutting down on bad stuff, we have also set up a " gym" in the garage lol ok we have a treadmill and a exersise bike but me and my husband are taking turns in there. I have lost 10lbs since start of January 😊.

Awww bless you 2ww is the worst 😕 it's just so cruel. I hope you get your BFP xx

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Thats amazing go u!!!!! Love a garage gym, no risk of bumping into ppl lol. I lost a stone before ivf too its not easy but hopefully its worth us for us both xx

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Yeah there is definatly no worry of what I look like , I got some primark gym gear that i wouldnt of dared wear to a public gym 🤣 lovely bright leggings totally unflattering but comfy.

Wow loosing a stone is great too, yes hopefully our hard work will pay off for us xx

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Haha love it! Youve got this 💗

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Such a positive step for you today, it really is such a mixture of fear and excitement though. It’s great to have your implications counselling session so quickly, I think you’ll get a lot out of it. We had two appointments and found it really beneficial. Have you had a look at the Donor Conception Network yet?

I feel excited for you 🤩 xx

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Yeah I was shocked at how quickly they could fit us in, the said we could have 2 councling appointments free, so will probably see how we feel after 1st one 😊.

I've got alsorts of things buzzing round my head at the moment 🤣, it just feels like a hole new world.

No I haven't looked at the donor conception website I will give it a Google later.

How's your 2ww going ? Xx

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Can highly recommend looking up DCN. Their volunteers have been through Donor Conception and will speak to you really honestly and helpfully about their own experiences. They’ll also match you up with people of similar circumstances to yourself and you can connect with them via email or phone. It helped answer a lot of questions for me and helped us reach a treatment option we felt was right for us both.

Two week wait is going good so far. I’ve been taking it a lot easier than I would have normally, letting hubby take up the slack for me. He’s been great. I’ve a day out tomorrow I’ve been looking forward to which has kept me going so far xx

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Awww great thank you i will definatly have a look, it sounds like it would be a great help 😊.

It sounds like you have a good hubby there 😊. I hope you enjoy your day out tomorrow.

I hope you get your BFP xx

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Good luck 🙂 I think it’s probably very normal to feel both scared and excited.

Lots of people on the forum who’ve went down the egg donour route so I’m sure they’ll be able to offer lots of support 😀

Good luck xxx

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Thank you, yes I feel like I'm starting all over again with ivf, probably a bit too optimistic at this point, there is always a down point with the ivf journey.

Some of the lovely ladies on here have already been a huge help as I'm going to the same clinic as them 😊

How are you doing ? X

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Congratulations on making this big step. Be proud you have come this far and good luck in your counselling; it’s worthwhile for you both. X

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Thank you, it's strange feeling as all we have know is ivf for the last 3 years lol.

I'm not really one for councling normally but I'm sort of curious and feeling postive about it.

How are you feeling? Xx

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Counselling was a tick box exercise for us we’d read so much, joined the Donor Conception Network and started reading Having your baby through egg donation.

I also asked 101 million questions to women on here.

All good here. It’s all moving very fast again! X

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I'm going to look at the donor conception web site tonight.

Lol I've also bugged some of the ladies on here as they have gone threw the same clinic.

Yeah once you have a plan time just seems to zip away from you doesn't it.

Good luck when you start again xx

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Wishing you so much luck for your counselling and on this next bit of your journey, id think it’s normal to be feeling a mix of emotions. So glad things have got moving for you xx

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Thank you 😊. It' strange all we have know for last 3 years is Ivf , now just feels like we are starting over again

How are you doing? Xx

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I can understand that, each step is one closer to getting your baby though!

I’m okay thanks, trying to keep positive but finding it hard. Il get there though xx

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Thinking of you. I found accepting DE the most difficult decision I've ever had to make. It's wasn't an easy journey, I was so disappointed that my own eggs didn't work. I also had to accept DE was going to be the only was way I'd get the family I've so longed for. I'm pleased to say I'm now pregnant. Take care x

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Love a good result story. DE is an additional heart wrenching decision. I love to hear success stories!

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Hampshiregal lovely to hear you got your BFP, how far along are you.

I don't expect this to be a easy journey as no matter how you are doing ivf it's a very tough journey where we are all praying for a positive outcome xx

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Hiya I'm 31 weeks. I had DE in the UK - having to have at least one counselling session is normal before the clinic will go ahead with treatment. I think it's in the guidelines. The counsellor has a check list to cover and you get a copy. They advise being honest with your child is best and suggest you join the DCN etc.

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Wow you don't have long to wait then till you get to meet your baby 😊 .

They have already mentioned been honest with any child ect.

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Awww that's great news!! I guess if you get that out of the way then you can crack on with your weight loss mission looking forward with a positive mind!!xx

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Thank you, I'm just so relived that they were nice and seemed to sit and listen.

Yes he was keen for us to do the councling first before anything else, at least if it brings up any doubts we have plenty of time to get answers to questions ect.

How are you feeling ? Xx

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Yeah, i think thats a great idea. Onwards and upwards!!

I'm ok thanks! Recovered from the hysteroscopy and back to work today. Was nice having a few days to to relax in the sun afterwards. Just need to wait for my results and go from there but looking at transfer April time now!xx

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Fingers crossed for April for you then x

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Well done for making the next step on this chaenging journey. Don't give up. Good luck x

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Thank you 😊 xx

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