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Poor responder and low reserve - feeling hopeless

Anyone else have low ovarian reserve and going through ivf? I’m just feeling helpless After 6 th round of ivf only one follicle and one egg this time (that didn’t fertilise).

I’m doing embryo freezing where fertilised egg is frozen on day one. I know I should stay hopeful but it seems so much to go through each time for one or 2 eggs. Just looking for other ladies that might be going through similar journey and have words of encouragement

Love to all xx

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Hi lovely. I've had one failed round and currently on waiting list til June for next cycle. I stimmed for 15 days on high dose and got 8 eggs and only two fertilised. I was gutted when we found out. Both were put back in at Day three as they weren't good enough to freeze. No surprise that it didn't work. We are currently trying a monitored cycle this month with clomid which, if anything, should give the drs more idea of what's going on. The dr has suggested a more gentle approach for next time and will give me lower dose of stims. I'm sure you've already tried but if not, what about trying different drug combinations/protocols? Maybe a change might help x

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Thank you. Previous cycles we had more luck with fertilisation but on a lower dose of meds, but this time for some reason nothing happened much until a high dose was given. Think that you are right - high dose doesnt seem to work for me. Just wishing you lots of luck with your next round xxx

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Have you tried the estrogen priming protocol? It might make sense to switch doctors to one that will try this method. It’s supposed to be great for women with low egg reserve... research it!! Good luck :)

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Thank you I've heard of it but not researched it yet - certainly worth a try

best wishes

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Hi dear I can totally understand u . Im in a similar situation . Last cycle I ended up with no collection. Completely devastated is an understatement . And after 5 failed cycles d dream seems of having a baby is gradually slipping out of my hands I feel . But I know we can't give up . So stay strong my dear .

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Thanks Tiger-cub - its such a tough journey - I feel the same and not ready to give up. So sorry to hear you had no collection on your last cycle - I had that also a few months ago too and there are no words - best of luck and stay strong too xx

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It is just so so hard..I find it getting harder as I now head towards round 5. My amh was tested over a year ago and was low so dread to think what it is now..we are using our last two frozen and if unsuccessful not sure about psychological and financial cost of another fresh round.it is all so hard..sending you love xxx

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it seems to get harder the more rounds doesn't it? its good you have two frozen to focus on and really wish you the best of luck there

hugs xxx

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thanks hun..it does get harder 😢take care and good luck for next round xx

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Hi, I had multiple oe cycles. Only got one embryo and got pregnant but miscarried.

So I moved on to donor eggs and I now have 3 wonderful children. I wouldn't swap them for any oe children. They are mine and I love them so much it hurts.

I am of the view you get the children you were meant to have. Just sometimes you need someone elses help to get those children who are meant to be in your life.

My partner was v anti donor eggs but I couldn't keep putting myself through all the drugs and trauma, never mind the financial cost, when I felt the chances were so low. Yes, you might get that golden egg, but you might not.

Good luck to all. X

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That's really good to hear as I've been told my best chance is donor eggs which I'm not sure how to feel about. So many questions, but I know I'm ready to be a mum and have all the love in the world to give so I can't see it being an issue but did U worry about your children not looking like you? And will u tell them when they are older? I'm sorry to bombard you with questions thanks X

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Hi, no problem. Glad I can help.

Re telling they already know. My oldest are 7 year old twins and I have a nearly 3 year old. They know all about the fact that the endometriosis damaged my ovary so it didn't have any eggs so a lady gave me her eggs that were put together with Daddy's sperm to make embryos that were put into my uterus and grew into them. My son hasn't shown much interest so far, my daughter asks occasional questions. My 3 year old isn't really aware yet but she's been told and it is discussed. I think it important that it is never something that they don't know, iykwim.

Re looking like me I remember being v worried when I was pregnant with my twins about what they would look like. Now - they are them. Other people see what they want to see and assume they are from my genetics - even when I have told them about donor eggs ( I am very open - doing my bit to reduce the stigma ) people tend to forget

I do occasionally get a bit sad when I see a Mum with a mini me that I'll never have that. I won't see my dad's eyes or my grandma's nose. But that is separate from my children and doesn't mean I love them any less or would swap them. They are there own people.

Good luck with your journey. X

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thank you your message has given me hope that one day I'll have my family, I like the way you are honest and open it feels like the right way to Handel it, I pray I am lucky enough for Egg donation to work for me and am so happy that it did for you thank you again X

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You're welcome. And keeping fingers crossed it works for you. While noone would say it is their first choice to go down the route of donor eggs I wouldn't change my journey at all. I am lying here listening to dd2 snoring and all is right with the world :-)

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Hi Mierran , I love how open and honest you have been with your children , I too am going through a tough journey and been told that donor would give me highest chances ( low AMH 6 abandoned cycles, on average one egg collected none ever fertilized ) I'm 37 - can I ask you how old you were when u decided to go for de ? Did you conceice all 3 from the same donor ? And do you find your kids look like your partner does that make you feel better ? Sorry I feel am being so intrusive but so helpful to talk to people who have been through it as I find nobody really understands unless they have experienced first hand ..

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Hi,

I was 37 when I had my twins. They do look quite like their Dad but mainly they look like them. They are their own people with their own personalities.

My singleton is from a different donor at a different clinic as I had a bfn from frosties from my twins cycle. So genetically they are not full siblings. But they are brother and sisters.

No problem. Glad to help. :-)

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Thanks so much mierran,there was a typo in my message I’m actually 39

I love reading that you connect so well with your children and your love for them is unmistakable. I worry so much about how my husband and I might feel in the future but so comforting to see that most ladies who have gone down that route would never trade their final choice, your support is so so appreciated :)

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Hi

Thanks so much for your reply. Its lovely to hear of your happy ending and that things can work out in the end - appreciate you sharing

I certainly am thinking of the donor route and can understand its not good to keep putting yourself through all the trauma of ivf for such a low chance

best wishes

xx

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I’m considering donating my eggs in the next few weeks and having IVF myself - I’m at risk of ectopic and my tubes are slow and no joy yet :( I had a baby 5 years ago healthy and perfect with no help. I feel that anyone who tries this hard for a baby and is sick of seeing bfn’s and seeing all the other easy conceptions they are surrounded by all the time (I’ve been there) should have the chance to be a Mum if that’s what they truly want. A mother carries her baby, nurtures them in the womb and raises their children to be good people. That’s all I would want for my eggs. X

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Thats amazing if you can donate your eggs and give someone else a chance for their miracle. wishing you lots of luck for your next cycle dear

XX

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Thank you so much, fingers crossed all around xx

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What a beautiful description of why u want to donate it's made me cry you are inspiring X

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