Hello again - my other project this year is to create a shift in the way couples who experience miscarriage and infertility are treated by clinicians and care-givers.
I've written to my local hospital (where I suffered my first miscarriage and was turned away from A&E in agony and bleeding heavily. I was carried back in about twenty minutes later, unable to stand, delirious with pain and severely low blood pressure from the blood loss). I've also written to my GP surgery to complain about the fact that despite telling a doctor and the midwife of ongoing, light, brown bleeding during my second pregnancy, plus the added complication of severe anxiety following the first m/c, that no early pregnancy care was offered. I ended up having to pay for a scan to confirm my worst fears.
The idea is that I want as many people as possible to be aware of how their actions can impact the psychological well-being of someone suffering a trauma such as miscarriage. I'm certain I'm not alone in feeling dismissed and let down by my local care providers. I believe it's a nationwide problem, and comes down to attitudes which need to be changed.
I found this article very helpful and am going to send it to my GP - perhaps others on here might find it useful (and cathartic) to do the same.
Lots of love to everyone for the coming year. Let's hope it's a good one xxx