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2ww stress

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I’m stressing and getting upset and don’t feel like I can talk to anyone. I’m doing this alone so don’t have a partner to talk to, and I don’t want to burden my parents and friends just before New Year celebrations.

I’m one week into my 2ww. On Thursday I felt like AF was going to arrive, which would be early. Yesterday afternoon I felt really sick. Last night I had brown spotting when I went to the toilet and then the next time I had a brown clot. I’ve had nothing since, but I am really stressing that it’s not good. I could just sit in a corner and cry. I wish I could just wake up and it be time to test. Because my embryos were a lot better than last time, I have been more excited and more positive, but since Thursday I have just been stressing. I just really hope it has worked this time.

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I know it’s really hard but do try and stay positive for your little bean! They are a lot more resilient than you think! From reading other ladies experiences on here I think a bit if brown blood can be quite normal and may just be a bit of implantation bleeding. Unless you are having to use a pad, it’s probably not AF.

Just try and focus on looking after yourself and find activities to distract you. I found baking was quite therapeutic 😊 but I caved at 9dp5dt as I couldn’t take it any longer so I completely know how you feel!! Luckily for me it was a BFP and I’m now at 8 weeks but the waiting doesn’t get any easier after OTD I’m afraid! The wait for my 7 week viability scan was torture!

Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞😘

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I think you are so brave testing early! I don’t think I would dare. This is the first time I have been tempted to test early, because I think so far this has been my best chance. To be fair, AF usually arrives before test day, so I have never seen the point!

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I’ve got a friend who literally tests 3-4 times a day straight after she’s ovulated (she’s on Clomid rather than IVF), which I think is mental so I thought 9dp5dt was quite restrained. I also did some research which showed 9dp was the earliest it should show on a First Response test stick without getting a false positive but it won’t show for everyone and a lot of ladies wait til OTD as a result (which is absolutely the right thing to do!). There was a lady on here recently who tested early and got a negative but got a positive on her OTD.

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I think it sounds good ! I had terrible period pains about 7 days after transfer . Was convinced af was arriving . It never did and I got a BFP . Don’t lose hope xxx

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Both my BFP’s I had AF type pains around a week after transfer and that’s what made me cave in both times and test but then I worried both times it was going to be negative on OTD so can’t win really.

Good luck when you get there! Xx

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I think bright red or heavy bleeding is something to be more worried about. That sort of “old” brown blood should hopefully be implantation 🤞🏻🤞🏻Perhaps you should try and reach out to your family and friends, I’m sure they wouldn’t think of you as a burden..New Year or not!

The two week wait is agonising.

Really wishing you the very best of luck in the coming week and for your test date xx

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I had cramping in my 2ww and was convinced it hadn’t worked. I’m now pregnant with twins. Just try to keep positive and just be kind to yourself (that was the advice from my clinic) and laugh (another piece of advice from them)

Good luck xx

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Hey I have just had my 2ww which was the worst weeks of my life! About 2 days after my single embryo transfer I got a heavy cramping feeling which lasted all day and I was crying my eyes out thinking that was AF coming early but it stopped by the next day. My test date was 29th December. On 28th December the cramping came back and persisted all day so again I was devastated thinking it was all over. But I managed to wait till 3am on my test day and I did 4 first response tests which all showed positive quite strongly! However I used 2 clearblue digital and 1 clearblue normal which all malfunctioned on me and did not work so don't waste your clearblue on early tests. I have since done superdrug tests (loads) and have all come back positive too. I feel for you and wish you all the luck.

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I’ve got the clinic test and a clear Blue I’m debating whether to go out and buy more!

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I would buy a pack of first response as they were the only ones who could pick it up this early! Superdrug have them for around £10 for a 2 pack ( I did 4 but I wanted to be extra sure there were no duds). My clinic are not giving me the HCG level blood test which is annoying but I will have a scan end of January.

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I don’t think I get a blood test at the clinic either, just a pee stick.

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Every clinic is different I guess. Well if you need any support we are all here. I was distracting myself with catching up on boxsets and movies but i still got very little sleep. Also had a family party on the 28th which was an emotional struggle with lots of little ones running about x

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Hang on in there. This is definitely the hardest part but you have come so far!! Each step is a milestone! If you feel like sitting in the corner and crying...do so. Be kind to yourself xxx

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