Hi, I’m new to this site and it’s the first time I’ve posted. However, I’ve followed some posts and have seen what a caring & supportive community it is which I guess is what I need to be part of right now.
I’m finding this whole thing scary, confusing and lonely. I know many of you will understand and identify with that.
My OH and I have been TTC since February last year (I’m 40 and he’s 45), which I know isn’t long but for us it feels like a lifetime. He has 2 boys from his previous marriage who are about to turn 5 & 7. I’ve not had any kids or been pregnant before.
When we started TTC we used OPK and there was a question mark over whether or not I was ovulating. My GP did the day 21 test and it was inconclusive (it was 26.5 and to be conclusive it has to be 30 apparently) however this could have been for a number of reasons.
My cycles always used to be as regular as clockwork at 28 days but now they average 26 and are much lighter only 1 – 2 days which concerns me.
My GP put me on Clomid and I’ve just started my 6th cycle of it today (I switched to Clearblue OPK when I started it and it has confirmed I am ovulating) but this is my last cycle on it and it’s been unmonitored to date. She also referred us for tests / investigation but after the appointment was confirmed it was cancelled – the reason the hospital gave was that I was 40 and their cut off was 39. I spoke to the original GP who was no help and then got a 2nd opinion from another GP who I trust. She said that the NHS won’t investigate as we don’t qualify for IVF as my OH has 2 children. I can understand us not qualifying for IVF but I can’t understand why they won’t test us to see if there are any underlying issues??
I know it can take time, my concern is giving it loads of time and then discovering there is an underlying issue why we’re not conceiving which we could have dealt with before. I hope that makes sense.
We’ve been to one IVF open evening which was helpful but I found overwhelming. We had booked to have fertility tests at another clinic this Friday (my OH is a teacher and so getting time off for an appointment is a real challenge). Yesterday, as well as my period starting, the clinic cancelled the appointment (they’re too busy to fit us in) and I hit what I think is the lowest point in this journey so far. I feel totally lost and helpless and don’t know what to do… I’d really appreciate any advice, reassurance, support as I said before it feels really lonely. My OH is great and really supportive but this consumes every waking minute for me and I’m not sure he understands that.
I’ve started acupuncture and had 3 sessions and I’m on Pregnacare supplements. If there are any others people would recommend I tried please shout ;-)!