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Another failure

On 17 October I went back to Spain for our second DE FET. This was out overall 9th go (6 with my own eggs and 3 with DE) and following a missed miscarriage early on the year.

My mind did the usual in the 2ww of yes I feel pregnant to no I don't feel pregnant.

So disappointed expecially when we have had one failed pregnancy.

I just wonder if it will ever happen. Will it ever be our time or do I need you face reality.

We have three embryos left and for that I should be thankful but when they are gone that is the end of the road.

I've had implantation tests. Receptivity tests. UNK cell tests. Immunology tests. Bacteria tests you name it before this transfer. It will be interesting to see what the clinic suggests next.

Wishing you ladies all the best with your journeys. It is nice to read so many bfp on the forum and scan pictures. Hold onto your precious cargos and ladies on the 2ww - keep the faith.

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So sorry to hear it wasn't your time this time when you've been through so much :( Can I ask have you tried having the scratch as well as taking baby aspirin and clexane in case of undiagnosed blood clots. I took all these and I swear that's how we didn't have a second miscarriage. Apologies if you're already taking all these xxx

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Hiya.

Yes I have had about three scratches and the last three times I have been on baby asprin. High dose folic acid. Clexane injections and progesterone injections. We got our first pregnancy with this recipe.

I did not have a scratch this time as I had some biopsies done and they really went for it and said it would last me. I am not so sure.

I do tend to struggle with lining thickness but good enough in their eyes and nice triphasic layers.

Thanks for your suggestions. I welcome other ideas and suggestions.

Possibly thinking vitamin e and castor oil packs before trying again.

Xx

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I'm sorry about your news. Can I ask you about the implantation test what is this?

I hope the last 3 make it and you get your bfp xxx

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I had ER mapping which looks at your receptivity window to see if need to adjust the progesterone period before transfer. It consists of a lot of DNA testing.

I also had th1 and th2 ratio tests done to see if there was an imbalance as this can lead to issues.

Bacterial testing.

Unk cell activity.

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Wow thanks how come the doctors never offer advice like this? My private clinic just fobbed me off saying it's your age despite hatching blastocyst transferred.

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I think that maybe they might not have the expertise etc. At least might help to ask some questions of your clinic

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Oh no so sorry to hear this. I hope you get here with one of your Frosties - it’s so hard though. Perhaps some time out before trying again to gather more strength? Sending you big hugs xxxxx

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Thank you. I took time out between this cycle and the last one and was feeling very positive etc. But alas no joy.

I will look again in the new year and hopefully that year might be our year.

Look after those beanies I know you have been having a tough time.

Xxx

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Yes a new year ready for new life. I’m sure you will get there hun but i know it’s heart breaking. We were going to have a break if it hadn’t worked this time to build up our strength again.

Thank you. Yes the worry doesn’t stop unfortunately but we’re thankful xxxxx look after yourself xxxxxxxx

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Hey lovely, I’m with you, we’ve just had our 3rd de Transfer fail, also had 4 own egg ivf attempts fail too. We are in the same boat.

I’m pressing pause on my last frostie and am going to speak to a Recurrent Implantation Failure specialist for another opinion, I really don’t want to waste our last embie.

I’ve found a specialist and am booking in to see him over the next couple of weeks. I can share the advice I get if that helps.

Sending you a big hug I share the desperate feeling that I’m nearing the end and it’s so bloody unfair!! I’ve thrown everything at this and it’s till doesn’t work. I’m with ya babe xxx

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Thank you and thank you fur your understanding. It is crap isn't it.

I would love to hear any information you might learn and suggestions for definite.

Will you let me know how you get on?

Wishing you all the best with your consultation.

Xxx

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It’s just the pits, I feel that nothing works! Yet I chuck money on test after test and attempt after attempt and still nothing!

Yes of course, i will share what he tells me. My clinic in spain have just recommended a natural cycle for my last go, but I just can’t get my head round that. It feels like he’s throwing our last chance away!

I will report back when I have some news.

I’m here for you if you need a rant xx

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Pm me hon. Also which clinic are you using. Wondering if same one or sane branch.

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So heartbreaking for you after so many attempts. I have two embies left and we know that’s the end of the line for us. It’s emotional to even think that we may not be parents but it is an outcome I’m trying to accept. Not without getting upset by the thought. That doesn’t mean I’ve given up on my remaining embies and I hope that you don’t give up on yours. I truly hope that one of your embies is your baby xx

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Thank you. Maybe 2018 will be the year for both of us. 2017 really has not been good for either of us.

Xxx

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That’s an understatement 😞 I look forward to seeing your good news in 2018 xx

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its always the way isn't it that everything goes wrong at the same time!

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So sorry to hear this, life is so cruel. Look after yourselves xxx

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Thank you. I hope all is going well for you.

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So sorry to hear this, sending huge hugs xx

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Thank you

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So sorry , hoping this next transfer will be the one , keep believing 🌈 your time will come xx❤️💋

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Thank you

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Sorry to hear this. It sounds like you’ve had a tough time of it. A couple of other possible suggestions, though you may have already done them. Have you had your hubby’s sperm tested for chromosome abnormalities? That doesn’t get done with the basic sperm tests. Have you ever had more than one embie transferred at once? I know it reduces the number of goes you have left but my cousin has unexplained fertility and was successful on her third round of IVF with twins and she swears that they only reason that she was successful is that she had 2 embies transferred and they needed each other to survive. I hope you manage to find some answers before your next round.

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Hiya. Yes in previous rounds I had upto 1, 2, 3 and 4 transferred. Due to autoimmune hypothyroidism and my age they only recommend one embryo transfer.

Not had husbands sperm checked but there are other issues there which means we can only go via ICSI route.

Thanks for your suggestions.

The embryos we have left are it for us.

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it stinks doesn't it when you get your hopes up and it all results in nothing.

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