Fet help please

[vic77]

So about to do our first natural fet this month. Got smiley face on ovulation sticks this morning so phoned hospital and went in for bloods early. Just had a call from the nurse to say it hasn't been a good surge and they won't do transfer this month as my progesterone is too high. I really don't understand all this and am wondering now might this be the reason I can't fall pregnant naturally as I never have good surges😯I am so upset as geared myself up for this month and now feel like it be the longest wait ever. Also I was told the endo scratch only valid for 3 months so assume I need to go for another one of them but that surely would delay things another month😢😢😢I am so so fed up now with the whole thing and just feel like my life been on hold for years now xx

[Tugsgirl]

I thought it was valid for three months too but the clinic said only the one after. I thought my last miscarriage would mean I didn’t need a scratch but they said I’d only be really fertile the month after that too, so I had another scratch! (Then the hospital tells you not to try for three months. Such conflicting advice we’re given!

I feel your frustrations. I know you just want to get on with it, the longer you leave it the harder it gets. But I guess we just have to trust in the “experts” as they don’t want us to fail either, it’s not good for their stats. Thinking of you xx

[vic77 in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thanks hun for replying. ..I found the scratch so sore and now looking like it best to delay till after Xmas. .have a significant birthday coming up too so just feeling thoroughly passed off😢how you doing?I think of you loads xxx

[Tugsgirl in reply to vic77]

Thoroughly pee’d off too. Emotional. Back at work today and getting all the silly questions like “Are you sure you should put yourself through it again?” and “And you definitely won’t adopt?” And “Perhaps you should just be happy with each other” Im so fed up of trying to get people to understand. It’s such a difficult journey isn’t it? Xx

[7AVA in reply to Tugsgirl]

So sorry to hear you’ve had to put up with these comments today. People really should try to walk in another person’s shoes before they make a comment xxx

[Tugsgirl in reply to 7AVA]

I’m going to be getting them all week until I’ve seen all my clients. I’m going to have a sore tongue from biting it xx

[vic77 in reply to Tugsgirl]

What a day Mrs. .others will never understand our pain..I am telling less and less folk as this goes on as can't stand all the questions. .roll on Friday xx

[Tugsgirl in reply to vic77]

So true! Mind you I’m getting Otto neutered on Friday so I’m very nervous about that too.. not had much luck with my buns in the last 6 months either 😞 xx

[vic77 in reply to Tugsgirl]

Sending hugs to you and otto xx

[7AVA in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thinking of you this week xxx

[Nyko1]

I’m on my first Frozen cycle but I’m not using ovulation sticks i was told I had to buy the drugs and do the cycle that way , I don’t understand the difference . Are you paying for the cycle or is it nhs. I’m paying for mine but my friend did it the same way as you on nhs so I was wondering if they are only using drugs with me coz I’m paying . I had my scratch on 11th after having an injection on the 9th then Im Back in on 23rd for a scan and to start some tablets then I will be on to the progesterone pessaries for transfer . Good luck with yours x

[vic77 in reply to Nyko1]

Hey Mrs so hope this is your time. I just find it so strange that not one cycle on here is the same. There is so much variation. .I guess we just have to trust the doctors however I do sometimes wonder how thorough they are all being😯sadly we are paying for this now. We paid for our last cycle and got frozen embies for the first time so this is us now using them however totally unchartered territory xx

[Cinderella5]

Awww Vic this is rubbish news, what a massive disappointment for you! Know how it feels to get all geared to then be told "next time". Grrrrrr! I cant offered any advice re the progesterone thing but I guess its a bit like my clinic postponing my transfer due to the thin lining. They'll want the absolute best for chance of pregnancy and of course their own success rates so I guess we just need to listen to the experts. I would check with the clinic to see if they would want you to have another scratch. Ive had 3 done in total and my last one was for my fresh cycle. When I asked my clinic, they said in normal circumstances they would recommend but done too often was not a good idea so advised me against it! Thinking of you!xx

[vic77 in reply to Cinderella5]

Hey Mrs thanks for message..any updates for you yet?I am gutted to be honest as now the way I look at it is it be the new year now..just feeling fat, old, infertile and overall rubbish today. I don't understand what the nurse was talking about on the phone as fet all unchartered territory for us...I now wonder if there is a problem with me ovulating or not and this why we are in this message oh I just don't know..another set of bloody hurdles..sick of all this and feel like just quitting it all today 😢😢xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to vic77]

What about ringing the clinic back and ask the nurse to explain the rationale behind their decision, maybe write down some questions that you want answered, I would! You're paying for your treatment so don't feel bad about it! You'll maybe feel better if you know why its been cancelled rather than just cancelled.

Perhaps DianeArnold can shed some light on the matter?

My latest is I went for a scan on Friday past and was a bit disheartened too as my lining was the same measurements as last time however clinic so hubby was having a strop and I was very grumpy on Friday night but clinic came back and said images were much better this time and was much earlier in my cycle so to continue meds and rescan tomorrow so felt a bit better but will have to see what happens tomorrow.

You're just having one of those cr*ppy days lovely! I think we all probably have them now and then doing all of this. I too feel fat, old and infertile with the big 40 just around the corner and cant plan anything nice to do cause I just cant plan anything just now....the flippin joys eh!!xx

[vic77 in reply to Cinderella5]

Yeah the big 40 looming is not helping 😢clinic just rang and nurse said she spoke to consultant and going ahead with fet on Saturday. .I can't figure this whole thing out..sometimes think the nurses are clueless or even that they shouldn't tell you stuff till ran past consultant. Seems like I likely surged yesterday so they going with Saturday for transfer. .don't even know how they work that out as been such an emotional day I am so tired I couldn't even bring myself to ask..so Saturday it is😯hope scan goes ok for tomorrow. .here hopefully we be celebrating our 40ths with a non alcoholic beverage🍷🍷xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to vic77]

Oh what a stressful day for you hun! I'm glad that it's going ahead but it's annoying that you've been put through all that stress for nothing! Try to take the next few days to get in the zone so you're calm for the weekend! Here's to 🍸🍸 Virgin cocktails for birthdays!!😘 Oh and thanks for the luck for tomorrow!xx

[LauraGU]

I had the static smiley face but when my bloods came back it didn't show ovulation. They're now going to scan me day 12-14 to see if I have a follicle and if not they will change to a medicated one xxx

[vic77 in reply to LauraGU]

I can't figure this fet business out..they just called me to say we going ahead with transfer Saturday now..wishing you luck xx

[7AVA in reply to vic77]

Good news that transfer going ahead Saturday. Seems an awful lot easier than a medicated FET cycle. Everything crossed for you 🤞🤞🤞 xxx

[Tugsgirl in reply to 7AVA]

Yes good luck vic77 xx

[vic77 in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thanks Tugsgirl ..feel drained today and not very hopeful..tomorrow a new day xx

[vic77 in reply to 7AVA]

Thanks Mrs xx