How do I deal with this one?

[Jhenderson]

My husbands started to say it will happen if I just relax now. Ffs.

[Tugsgirl]

This must be so frustrating for you. The one person you need to understand you more than anyone.. Perhaps you can talk to him? Try and explain how you feel and how comments like that are not helpful from anyone especially your hubby. I’m sorry I don’t have more advice xx

[emiraven62]

Oh, this is so frustrating. He's supposed to give you his full support. Men also suffer from infertility, but we take the worst part.

When my husband and I realized that "something" was wrong, he was very helpful. At the beginning he said the same thing as your husband. I felt really bad and we had a fight. Then we talked, I explained what I thought happened and everything was fixed. We both went to the doctor.

Maybe you can do the same with him. Infertility is not easy. Men can be stupid at times. Naive. But we are the smart part of the equation. You must explain it to him. Sometimes it does not help to be gentle. My mother has always told me that strong things are spoken in a strong way. You can try and maybe things will get better.

I send you my best wishes.

A hug.

[louisear]

they come out with some classics don't they. I'd just think nothing of it. They just don't get it. They're a different species! After our miscarriage mine said do you think you've been really stressed lately. Of course I took that to mean he was blaming me. He didn't really mean it like that but you've to try not to let these things get to you xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Jhenerson. Oh dear! If only it were true, we would all be fine. How about taking him to a support group, so he can understand how everyone feels and copes who have fertility problems? You can access information about Support Groups in your area by going to our website fertilitynetworkuk.org and click on “How can we help you” – “For those trying to become parents” – support – fertility groups – England – then select the area you are looking for. Worth a try?? Diane

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Grrr, such an irritating thing to say. No advice, just sharing your annoyance.