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Anxiety and sadness, how do I move forward.

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Egg collection on Monday higher dose of medication and similar follicles to when I did it last time. But only 1 egg collected still had strong hopes but didn't fertilize. I had all my hopes being pregnant at Christmas with a slim chance it may work as only 9 percent chance of it working.,due toage . The clinic changed hands while we were in our process with a new bunch of staff kept telling me our scans were better than last time. Considering changing clinics . Have to go back in a weeks time to be told what we can do differently .This shouldn't be so hard..... keep waking up in tears .I know I should pick myself up and carry on but I chance don't feel up to it.

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DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK

Hi Georgejohn. Oh dear! So so sorry to hear this. I do hope you've got lots of support just now, as you will be grieving for the chance you thought you had. See how they can help you differently when you go next week and perhaps have a bit of a rest before picking yourselves up again. Accept some counselling too. Thinking of you. Diane

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Rumi40

Hi, i am in a similar boat to you. Ive just come back from greece after my 1 follicle stopped growing day 9. E2 was low. however since I've moved clinics from london to greece ive had two embryos frozen. each IVF round I'm getting 1 egg. Greece are so much better and encourage women to try with our own eggs. you can also try PRP, platelet rich plasma. xx

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Georgejohn in reply to Rumi40

Do you worry about your age being a factor?

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Rumi40 in reply to Georgejohn

no not really, if we can still produce eggs why worry....xx

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Georgejohn in reply to Rumi40

Each time you have medication to produce more follicles eggs , does this not reduce your eggs in total.

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Rumi40 in reply to Georgejohn

Im on a natural IVF process as i only really produce one dominant follicle per cycle. its much more natural for me

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Georgejohn in reply to Rumi40

How does that work

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Rumi40 in reply to Georgejohn

its natural. your body produces one dominant follicle per period. we just retrieve that one. its simple. no drugs except the ovitrelle.

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Pnw2020

Hi. Sorry to hear your news. Do you know your AMH / AFC? May be worth looking into natural modified IVF which certain clinics do. Even with a package costs are reasonable and much less drugs used.

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Georgejohn in reply to Pnw2020

Know they have never made a mention to them. Thought they would be doing blood scans during treatment . Place changed hands during treatment . We were told results during scans was better.

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Pnw2020

It's worth finding that out as high stims doesn't always work for low AMH or low AFC at baseline. There will be options though and may be worth signing up for some webinars for other clinics.

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Georgejohn in reply to Pnw2020

Thankyou.

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Yellow611

Hi Littlepip, I am 8dpt and started spotting last night, I got excited thinking maybe it's an implementation bleed, but having googled it and looked at the date, I am pretty certain it's my period now. I will know for certain when I test on Wednesday. This is my 8th and final attempt and the sadness is all consuming each time, but I have found counselling, taking each day as it comes, a book someone on here recommended to me "the grief recovery" book all helpful along the way. It feels unbearable right now to have to wait another 2 days but I know I just have to do it.

You will get through this too and definitely a lesser grade embryo can be successful, I know that from my friend who has a little boy from one.

Just try not to rush things and over plan on your life. Try to reduce as much responsibility and commitments as you can so you can just do whatever you need when you need it, that's the only way I have recovered each time. X

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