... Well I survived One of the toughest things yet. Organising my younger sisters baby shower. Which was a success might I add ... However, infertility has stolen so much from me, the joy of having a baby, it's stolen hope, it's stolen my assumed future, stole the control I have over my body, stole happy memories and much more.
The one thing it will not steal is the love I have for my sister, the bond that we have, it will not steal the love I have for my new niece or nephew and today I made damn sure I enjoyed every moment of seeing the happiness in my sisters face and the surprise she had walking into her baby shower ❤️ it will not take the love out of my life
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Thank you I'm not going to lie it was tough, but seeing her face light up when she walked in the room made it all worth while. I won't let this process steal the joy I have with my family xxxx
I had to do the same thing last year! As much as this journey hurts you can't let it take away everything. Well done on organising you should be so happy you are a tough cookie.
Well flipping done Lovely! You sound like best big sister in the entire world!! I can't imagine what you've had to endure today but you're right infertility steals so much away in life and it's so lovely that you've managed to grab a bit back!! I feel the same, I won't beaten by this....high fives sweetie!!🤚🤚🤚xx
I feel like I just wrote that myself! My younger sister had her beautiful baby in September and I organised her baby shower in July. We'd had to abandon our ivf cycle and a baby shower felt like a cruel punishment. But my sister loved it and it was amazing and I love her so much ❤️ and my now beautiful niece Indi is just adorable. The whole thing was hard though. Well done for cracking on and organising it anyway!! 🙌🏼💪🏼❤️❤️ xx
you're amazing! What a wonderful thing to do. I can't imagine how hard that must have been. I wouldn't even attend a baby shower I got invited to let alone organise one. You should be mega proud of yourself xx
Thank you all for your kind words ❤️ if it was the other way round my sister would have done it for me ... hopefully shel be planning mine soon haha xxx
Wow, she is so lucky to have you and I hope you are able to share the same happy experience but in reverse one day (I mean your baby shower!!) you certainly deserve it xxx
Aww how lovely of you! I've got my SIL's this month who is like a sister too me and love what you've posted as that's how I feel about it all too. Hope you get your longed for baby soon xx
Aww well done! I understand as I had the same scenario last year with my younger sister and organising her baby shower. I found it hard but was happy for her as it was her firstIt was a lovely day. She had a little girl and I have so much love for her. I love watching her grow into the little person she is xx
I love my little sister to bits. She's 34 and been TTC for 3 years with no luck so is just about to start investigations. I'm 3 years older, also TTC for 4 years, starting ivf drugs in about a week after a year of procedures and surgeries. We both want each other to be pregnant so much and hope it might happen one day around the same time. You sound like a lovely sister x
Wow you should be very proud of yourself for being so strong! I personally find baby showers really tough and always manage to put on a brave face but I’m not sure I would be able to organise one! I bet your sister feels overwhelmed with your efforts! I’d say have a glass of wine and some chocolates but instead all the best for your results sounds like you really deserve this xxx
You are such a lovely person! There needs to be more compassionate people just like you. Good things come to good people. Keep positive! Lots of love ❤️
You are amazing and I will take a lot from this. I have been struggling as after my first BFN in June my sister was forced to tell me she was in the process of having her second IVF - an FET (first fresh cycle resulted in my gorgeous nephew who's now 3.5 years old and I love him like he's my own). Her FET also resulted in a BFP which I just knew would happen we were so pleased for her but equally I just found I had to distance myself and couldn't ask anything about the pregnancy which I told her and she completely understood.. I haven't told her anything about our 3rd attempt but will have to now I've had the BFN and I know she'll feel awful and stress/worry about me and I don't want that as she's about 16 weeks now. We don't live near each other but speak regularly and I love her to bits but also can't help this feeling of 'why us?' When they've had success both times and smashed the odds. Your post has really helped me thanks xxx
I'm glad it helped! I wish I had the same optimism as I did a few days ago ! But it's all about dusting yourself off and going again ! It's so hard isn't it when it repeatedly fails, il never judge any woman again that doesn't have children! This process has really opened my eyes, I have so much respect for the women in this community ❤️ I don't know what I would have done without it xxxxx
Oh, this is wonderful! I feel very happy to read it. I know how it feels, I have two sisters. My older sister is the best sister in the world, and I love my little sister with my soul. I would do anything for them. I have two beautiful nephews thanks to my older sister. My younger sister, who is not so small, is about to get married. We have a cousin who is almost like our sister. She was pregnant with twins and her baby shower was 4 months ago. I think it was a difficult decision to attend, but I loved every second. At first I thought I would feel bad and only ruin it. As I entered and saw her face of joy I felt as happy as if I were the pregnant. Infertility sucks. It has given me headaches, sleepless nights, crying, anguish and despair. But sometimes I feel that my love for my family is bigger. I am sure that when I have my baby they will be just as happy for me. And that they will make me the best party in the world.
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... However, infertility has stolen so much from me, the joy of having a baby, it's stolen hope, it's stolen my assumed future, stole the control I have over my body, stole happy memories and much more. 
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