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Off to my nephews baby shower

Ajplus1
Ajplus1

So I’m heading to my nephews baby shower today and I’m dreading it. I know I’ll love him when he’s born and will give him so much love but I am finding it hard to be happy to go especially considering I’m in my tww!

I know it sounds horrible but I Will have to put on a big smiley face and try and get through the afternoon!

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Make up an excuse if it's too difficult, don't be afraid to put yourself first and protect yourself a little bit.

I think everyone on here knows how you are feeling xxx

Thank you hun xx

It doesn’t make you a bad person for having these feelings xx

Thanks hun, I definitely felt/feel guilty for feeling like this but I can’t help it xx

If you have any negative thoughts about going, don’t. You’re the most important thing during the tww and getting upset, stressed and feeling negative won’t help. Give yourself permission to be a bit selfish and make an excuse as to why you can’t go. It’s only a baby shower. Im sure your help and support will be appreciated more once your nephew arrives - much more than sitting round playing naff games.xx

Ajplus1
Ajplus1
in reply to Nodds

I went. It was hard but I did it for my brother and his wife. I know I’ll love him when he’s here. I just found it hard being around all that pregnancy talk during tww xx

Just soak up the good vibes (easier said than done). I went back to work in my second 2ww (working with young children) and I just absorbed all the positive energy. I got pregnant and I really think it was being around kids that helped. In my first 2ww I moped around at home for the whole time.

I know it's not all about positive vibes but try and picture yourself being in your sis/sils shoes when you're there. And like you say, you're gonna love your nephew!

Hope the day is not too tough!

Ajplus1
Ajplus1
in reply to Kempton

It definitely was tough but I made it through. I work in early education too. My babies definitely bring energy and lots of cuddles. I went back to work the day after my transfer. Congratulations on your pregnancy xx

Feel your pain. My first nephew (younger sister by 10 years) is due in less than 5 weeks and I’m struggling majorly.

I’m crying at anything and feel like I’m hanging by a thread (lots of other issues in the family with recent diagnosis of illness and heart attack with parents).

I feel I should organise a baby shower for her but just can’t.

I am telling myself it’s ok to feel sad and not to be ok.

Take care of yourself xxx

Ajplus1
Ajplus1
in reply to Kenny75

It is one hundred percent okay to feel sad hun.

I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through such a rough time with your sis and your family. Sending you lots of love and hugs xz

Kenny75
Kenny75
in reply to Ajplus1

Thank you XX

I just wanted to say I have been in your position. I was going through my first 2ww when my nephew was born. I really struggled with my sisters pregnancy but when he was born I loved him instantly.

Since then I’ve done another round of ivf and got a BFP but recently had a Mc. Despite this I still have nothing but love for my nephew who is 6month now. I thought I would struggle but I don’t - with him. I do struggle with my sister, I struggle with her complaining about anything to do with motherhood, and sometimes the constant photos and updates really hurt when I am so desperate for a baby, it’s hard sometimes seeing how much my parents adore him and wish I could give them a grandchild but I cope

I guess I am saying you will be ok, it’s tricky but you will be ok xx

Ajplus1
Ajplus1
in reply to Daisy1245

Thank you hun, I definitely know I’ll love him when he is here. your one strong woman. Wishing you the best of luck on this journey. You can do it. Xx

I think you are very brave to go to a baby shower; I don’t think I could’ve coped when we were struggling with infertility. Be very proud of yourself 🙌🏻 Wishing you the best with your 2WW & hoping you get the BFP that you deserve. Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🌟💗 xoxo

Ajplus1
Ajplus1
in reply to jess1981

Thank you sweetie. You’re the cutest. How are you feeling? Xx

jess1981
jess1981
in reply to Ajplus1

Very welcome 🙂I speak as I find! 😘

I’m good thank you. Less than 10 weeks to go & both running round like headless chickens getting ready for her arrival🤣This will be you one day in the future. Keep believing ( I know at times it’s sonhard) You can do this 👶🏻✨❤️ xoxo

Ajplus1
Ajplus1
in reply to jess1981

Oh wow. That feels like it’s gone so quickly. Am sure everything will be perfect, She’s lucky to have you as her mummy. Still believing, hoping that this one is burrowing in for a long stay xxx

Hey lovely

This is such a difficult time for you. I got told I was going to be having a nephew 2 weeks after a BFN I was heartbroken and felt awful for having such negative feelings towards the situation. It's a really tough timeand although you will love your nephew the fertility journey leaves us with a whole host of mixed emotions. Remember it's not you but the situation. We have been so lucky and moving forward my nephew has just turned one and he will be meeting his baby cousin, my daughter is 12 weeks in a couple of weeks time. Stay strong hun. Do what ever you need to do but be kind to yourself. Wishing you all the luck in the world and a BFP xxx

Ajplus1
Ajplus1
in reply to NMP1026

Thank you for kind words hun. So glad your daughter will get to meet her cousin soon :) xx

Hi I totally get how your feeling. I had to go to a baby shower today and have another one to go next weekend. I felt myself getting tearful today when my friend was opening all the baby gifts so went for an extended trip to the loo!

You will get though it xx

Ajplus1
Ajplus1
in reply to Annie1609

I definitely made a few trips to the loo myself. Sending you lots of love xx

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