Embryo transfer postponed

[Kittygoo]

Hi everyone. I am a new followerto this forum and have found it extremely helpful to read all your stories. Here's mine. We have just been through our first icsi. Collected 15 eggs at transfer and on day 1 we had 8 embryos so was happy with that. They had mentioned some fluid at the EC so wanted to see me for scan on Friday with ET set for Saturday which would be 5 day transfer. Got a call on Day 3 to say all 8 embryos still going strong so thrilled. Went for scan on Friday and was told we would have to do a freeze all of embryos and wait for the ohss to calm down. Totally devastated to say the least to have come so far and then have it snatched away. Got a call on Sunday to say they had only frozen 3 of the 8 embryos. Just feel really disheartened. I know we are lucky to have any but I just don't feel it at the moment. Sorry for long post. Am I wrong to feel like this?

[Tugsgirl]

You are not wrong no, just try to remember that your clinic has your best interests at heart. They want your treatment to be successful too xx

[Kittygoo in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thanks for replying. It really is an emotional roller coaster isn't it!! x

[Tugsgirl in reply to Kittygoo]

No one warns you just how much.... but you can do this. You’ll be stronger than you think xx

[Kittygoo in reply to Tugsgirl]

I have just read your post about your loss and I wanted to send you huge hugs and to say how sorry I am. I have only been on this forum a short time but I have seen how you post such helpful lovely and kind posts to everyone including myself in their time of need. Doing that while going through everything you are shows what a lovely person you are and I know that everything will work out for you in the future xxx

[Tugsgirl in reply to Kittygoo]

That’s very nice of you to say so. It’s been a tough year for me with two losses. I have edited my comment above because it made no sense. I can’t for the life of me remember what I meant to say to you, my head has been all over the place, so I’ll just say; wishing you luck 🍀 xx

[Kittygoo in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thank you. You too xx

[Waitingforourmiracle]

You are not wrong at all! I would be the same if we'd had 8 then only got 3 BUT to freeze embryos they have to be excellent quality and only about 20% of couples get any to freeze so the fact that you've got 3 is honestly brilliant!

You will feel so much better when your ohss settles down and you have one of your little Frosties put back knowing you have 2 more in the freezer! I'm praying we get at least one to freeze. Also my clinic are doing trials on freezing embryos rather than transferring straight away as some evidence is showing it might have better success rates

[Kittygoo in reply to Waitingforourmiracle]

Thanks so much for replying that makes me feel a bit better. Wishing you lots of luck xx

[Busybee88]

How you’re feeling is completely normal. We started our first round of icsi back in January and had to freeze all due to OHSS. We also went from 11 eggs to one embryo so completely understand the disappointment. Also, remember that you’ve got all of those hormones coming out of your system now so that’s why your mood dips so low - I know mine did!

Based upon how horrible I felt a few days after the EC I know that it was the right decision but every delay in this process feels like such a kick in the teeth.

I hope you’re feeling okay and it’s good that you’ve got a couple in the freezer, even if it’s not as many as you had hoped for. Try to do something nice that you wouldn’t have been able to do if you were pregnant. Go on holiday, go to the spa, do a gin distillery tour! It’ll come back round again soon xXx

[Kittygoo in reply to Busybee88]

Ah thank you so much for reply. I have actually already started on my frozen cycle. I started taking fematab (oestrogen) on Tuesday I am on 2mg three times a day and have to go back for a scan next Thursday. I'm surprised I have started again so soon and the fematab is making me feel really unwell nausea and a really upset tummy. I am feeling worried about work too as I was signed off by my GP for my first cycle and now I have been off for the last couple of days due to feeling so unwell. They know about the ivf in work but I don't know how much time I can take off without it becoming an issue. It's adding a lot of stress to an already stressful situation 😣

[Busybee88 in reply to Kittygoo]

Wow I am surprised that they have made you start again but I guess they know what they're doing! Do you mind me asking if this is an NHS or private cycle? I was made to wait 2 months but was quite unwell so in the end it was a good thing for me.

If you are feeling at all concerned then just have a word with your nurse and hopefully they'll be supportive. Likewise if you're really feeling unwell then, if you haven't already, have a chat as it may be that your body's still feeling a bit overworked! Saying that, I definitely had a dodgy tummy, nausea, exhaustion and headaches from oestrogen so may just be the tablets unfortunately but hopefully that'll settle down as your body adapts.

It's definitely a challenge to have a busy job whilst going through all of this but we're capable of amazing things! Hope you feel better soon x

[Kittygoo in reply to Busybee88]

I am Irish and unfortunately they don't offer ivf on the HSE which is our version of the NHS so it is all privately funded by ourselves. I thought I would have more of a break myself but I have to trust that the clinic know what they are doing. Hopefully the nausea etc will settle down I have to be back in work on Monday come what may!!