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IVF & Bereavement :-(

Currently in the middle of my 1st round of IVF and have my egg collection booked on Thursday. As well as dealing with IVF I lost my Dad suddenly before Christmas, we were really close and it devastated me and my family. I feel I've coped quite well with the IVF up to know taking each day as it comes with a relaxed attitude and just hoping for the best. Yesterday I was told my egg collection would be Thursday and don't know what's happened to me this morning I've woken up in absolute tears and can't get my Dad off my mind. Think the enormity of everything that's happened/happening has finally hit me combined with the hormones I'm an emotional wreck :-(

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aww hun i have everything crossed for you. i can imagine you are feeling a rollercoaster of emotions xx

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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, I can't even begin to imagine what it must be like going through such a difficult loss and dealing with ivf as well. It just goes to show how strong you are, take today and let your emotions out and just take it one day at a time. Good luck xx

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So sorry to hear about your dad, that must have been tough. It sounds like you've had a lot to deal with.

Just wanted to wish you good luck for your EC and the rest of your treatment xxx

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Thank you girls it means a lot it's great having this forum as a support network x

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Hey hun

I'm so sorry to read this IVF is one of the hardest things anyone can deal with. You are also facing a major loss with your dad. I lost 3 grandparents this year, my mum in 2014 and dad in 2010. I can't believe how much this process has made me miss my parents. I think about them every day. You are doing amazing hun. Stay strong. Your dad will be smiling down on you with pride and admiration. I hope the rest of the process goes well and you get your little miracle. Big hugs xx

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Thanks for your reply sweet so sorry to hear of your losses it's so difficult when you love someone so much and you know your never gonna see them again :-( think my hormones have gone into overdrive today can't get my Dad off my mind and with egg collection on Thursday my heads shattered x

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Awe hun it really is difficult! Ivf is crazy too and really plays with your emotions. You are at such a difficult and intense point. Coupled with such a massive loss. I'm sure your dad would be so proud of you. I hope you are being kind to yourself. You are doing amazing! If you want to chat just give me a shout. Sending you lots of strength and positive thoughts xx

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Thanks sweet xxx luckily I've taken some time off work whilst having treatment so have been able to do lots of chilling out xxx

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I'm glad you are taking time to chill out! Its well needed and you deserve it!!! Keep us updated and as I say I'm here if you want to chat xx

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Thank u sweet I will do xxxx

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So so sorry to hear how you're feeling Shanks_21. I think infertility and IVF brings up all sorts of emotions and you have had so much to deal with on top of losing your dad. I think it is only normal to think about him when you are going through such a huge life event, especially if he would have been one of the people to support you. Life is so hard, you deserve some happiness and I'm rooting for you. Xx

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Thank you sweet those words are lovely x

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So sorry you are going through all of this - I can't imagine! Try and stay strong and I'm sure your dad would be incredibly proud how you are approaching IVF and how strong you are. However it's ok to be vulnerable - give yourself time to be upset, release some tears and hopefully after a big cuddle you will feel a little better. Thinking of you! What a 💪🏼 person you are - be proud of how you are doing!! Xxx

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Thank you lovely xxx

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