Having one of those days, like we all do in the 2ww where id so like to test and know one way or the other but keep telling myself I've done it before so il do it again and wait for OTD.
Really starting to doubt every feeling and hold my breath every time I go to the toilet as I'm sure AF's gona arrive!
On top of that had a few friends let me down today and my MIL decided to text hubby after not speaking to him for 2 years to basically start an argument. I'm sure she has some sixth sense of when to make my life even more difficult 😫 I felt really bad telling my hubby I didn't want to get involved in the texting war, I want to support him just don't want the added stress. Am I being unfair?
Hope everyone else has had good weekends x
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You are most definitely not being unfair! You can support your husband without being involved in the text war. You need to put yourself first. You haven't put yourself through the emotional and physical turmoil of an IVF cycle to be put under stress at the final hurdle and your husband wouldn't want you to either. You have also been really unwell and need to continue to rest and recover.
I can't offer any advice about testing during a cycle as I haven't been in that position before but what I would say is I know how horrible it is when you test early during a natural ttc cycle. If you do it too soon and it's positive you will worry it's not accurate, if it's negative you will hold out hope it might be too early. No good can come of it!!! Stay strong, hold out til Tuesday. You can do it. In the meantime I'm sending you lots of strength and positivity. Xx
Thank you so much, he told me not to get involved just nice to hear it from a women's prospective to. It's hard cause it's all his Mum ever wants to do is cause trouble.
Your definitely right about the testing, only really 1 more full day to get through, hope your feeling a little better xx
Stay strong & not long to go now for you until OTD, you can do it!! 🤞🏻
Like others have said you can be supportive without getting involved with the stress of back n fore texts!! If there's ever a time to stay away from stress it's now!!
As you know I'm similar stage to you but OTD is Thur, altho I've now started spotting so pretty sure AF is imminent for me!! 😔 xx
Thank you, always helps hearing it from you ladies to.
Oh its so hard isn't it, yours could be late implantation bleeding though. Also a lot of women have said they've bled and still got BFP, we've both got to keep postiive🤞 xx
Sorry to hear your having an off day. The 2ww is absolute torture, but you've done so well getting this far without testing 🙂 So well done because it's not easy!! Not long to go now 🤞🤞
Your not at all being unfair for not getting involved. It's funny you say about the sixth sense thing, me and my mum don't speak and she text me a few weeks ago and that was exactly what I said to my partner, this woman has some kind of sixth sense!!
It sure is but I'm sure you will keep to it, I've never been tempted to test early on my previous cycles even my acupuncturist was like I can't believe you haven't tested at all lol
One thing I have learnt from this forum is symptoms definitely mean nothing in this journey, have you been drinking pomegranate juice that's meant to help to. Keeping everything crossed for Thursday for you xx
Yeah I've been having a glass a day of pomegranate juice, started that about 5 days before my first scan. I'm still having a glass a day and also having a pint of whole milk a day and been having boiled eggs and chicken for protein 🍳 🍗 lol I'll be sickened with it all come Thursday 😂
I know, it's great you've managed to resist testing.I think once you start it's so bad too because you want to keep testing every single day!
This time I won't buy a test until the day before test day. It's a blood test with my clinic which means even when I do take a pregnancy test it's still very early (9dp5dt) but for me the thought of not having any idea what the blood test result would be just makes me feel a bit funny. I'd have to at least have an idea 😐 Lol
That all sounds good, haha crazy the stuff we put ourselves through in a bid to help but fingers crossed Thursday it'll all of been worth it!
I think that's more out of fear I don't test tbh, as much as I want to know I'm so nervous for another BFN and to how il cope. I don't blame you for doing your own test then if you have to wait for a blood test - I'd be the same wanting to have some kind of idea.
OTD is tomorrow 😬 I just have to do a pregnancy test and then if it is BFP 🤞 re do it in a week xx
Ah E, sending you lots of strength right now. Hold tight, you can do it.
It's funny how people seem to have a sense for these things and life throws more at you just when you think there's no more you can take. But you're so strong, just look after yourself (and it sounds like your lovely hubby is too, you are so right not to get involved) this is your time for you at the moment.
That quote reminds me of another similar one I love too:
'Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass but about learning to dance in the rain' and I believe we all are doing this, picking ourselves up to face another day through our long, hard journeys.
Thank you so much, so true it always seems when your already having a down day people throw even more at you.
Ah I'm such a quote person definitely think they keep me going, I love that one to! Hope your doing okay x
You are stronger than what you feel otherwise you wouldn't have got this far. You don't have long to go now until the 2ww is up. I can't offer advice but I can see how terrifying the wait must be.
Do your friends know what you are going through? You aren't being unfair not wanting a texting war. I don't think many people would chose to be involved in that on a normal day, let alone whilst going through the stresses you already have. Your hubby would be better not texting back, he doesn't need the stress either. Xx
Thank you, I know I think these last few days are the worst cause it's like that anxiety of finally knowing.
Yeah that's what upset me more, very few of my friends do know but these 2 do and I put myself out a lot to help them but feel it's never done in return. Your right, he did say after a couple of texts I'm not going to reply anymore think he knew it was getting me down xx
Hi am just new to this jus got my 3 day transfer on Thursday embryo was grade 2 5cell embryo I was very disappointed as I wanted grade one. We got 6 eggs only 2 fertilsesd and only one made it to transfer. This is my first round and I am very nervous one minute am ok next am crying trying my hardest not too stress and avoid all stressful things that would upset but it's hard. This 2ww it's driving me nuts not even a week in xxx
I'd say try not to focus on the quality on the embryo, my past cycle I had an hatching embryo (ideal for being put back) which didn't take and I've equally heard ladies not have such good quality and get BFP. It is really hard, try to have things to focus on that will keep you at least a little occupied from googling everything! Good luck xx
Thank you, I know especially when it's been so long since we've heard from her - her choice not ours. In the end he did stop texting her as I think he knew it was upsetting me even if I didn't know what was being said. Sorry you have the same with your mum! Xx
Hey Hun keep going you are doing fantastically. Good idea to stay out of the argument - gotta keep your stress levelsow. Not long to go now - when's your OTD? Fingers crossed for you xx
Don't feel bad, be there for him but tell him it's stress you don't need and maybe jus tell him not to respond or tell her he has bigger things to worry about right now!! Hope things get better. Stay strong!! X
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