Keeping strong..

[E_05]

Having one of those days, like we all do in the 2ww where id so like to test and know one way or the other but keep telling myself I've done it before so il do it again and wait for OTD.

Really starting to doubt every feeling and hold my breath every time I go to the toilet as I'm sure AF's gona arrive!

On top of that had a few friends let me down today and my MIL decided to text hubby after not speaking to him for 2 years to basically start an argument. I'm sure she has some sixth sense of when to make my life even more difficult 😫 I felt really bad telling my hubby I didn't want to get involved in the texting war, I want to support him just don't want the added stress. Am I being unfair?

Hope everyone else has had good weekends x

[Lou9]

You are most definitely not being unfair! You can support your husband without being involved in the text war. You need to put yourself first. You haven't put yourself through the emotional and physical turmoil of an IVF cycle to be put under stress at the final hurdle and your husband wouldn't want you to either. You have also been really unwell and need to continue to rest and recover.

I can't offer any advice about testing during a cycle as I haven't been in that position before but what I would say is I know how horrible it is when you test early during a natural ttc cycle. If you do it too soon and it's positive you will worry it's not accurate, if it's negative you will hold out hope it might be too early. No good can come of it!!! Stay strong, hold out til Tuesday. You can do it. In the meantime I'm sending you lots of strength and positivity. Xx

[E_05 in reply to Lou9]

Thank you so much, he told me not to get involved just nice to hear it from a women's prospective to. It's hard cause it's all his Mum ever wants to do is cause trouble.

Your definitely right about the testing, only really 1 more full day to get through, hope your feeling a little better xx

[N_M_10]

Hey, no you are not being unfair! You can be supportive without getting involved.

Sending support and positive vibes your way.

P.s. Love the quote. Xxx

[E_05 in reply to N_M_10]

Thank you, I felt the quote was very me at the mo. Wishing you lots of luck for tomorrow xx

[N_M_10 in reply to E_05]

Thanks xx

[Leo2017]

Stay strong & not long to go now for you until OTD, you can do it!! 🤞🏻

Like others have said you can be supportive without getting involved with the stress of back n fore texts!! If there's ever a time to stay away from stress it's now!!

As you know I'm similar stage to you but OTD is Thur, altho I've now started spotting so pretty sure AF is imminent for me!! 😔 xx

[E_05 in reply to Leo2017]

Thank you, always helps hearing it from you ladies to.

Oh its so hard isn't it, yours could be late implantation bleeding though. Also a lot of women have said they've bled and still got BFP, we've both got to keep postiive🤞 xx

[kelsbels88]

Love the post

definitely not unfair stay strong Hun you need to put yourself first and do what's best for you... nothin wrong in that at all.

Take care and be strong

here if you need a shoulder xxx

[E_05 in reply to kelsbels88]

Thank you so much, really appreciate that xx

[Amanda86]

Sorry to hear your having an off day. The 2ww is absolute torture, but you've done so well getting this far without testing 🙂 So well done because it's not easy!! Not long to go now 🤞🤞

Your not at all being unfair for not getting involved. It's funny you say about the sixth sense thing, me and my mum don't speak and she text me a few weeks ago and that was exactly what I said to my partner, this woman has some kind of sixth sense!!

Such a lovely quote 🙂 I truly believe it xxx

[E_05 in reply to Amanda86]

Thank you, I hadn't found it to bad up until today I got a real urge to rest.

It's so strange isn't it how they seem to know, his Mum hasn't spoken to us for about 2 years as told him she wanted nothing to do with us.

Me to, definitely feel like the quote is me at the mo. Hope your doing okay? Xx

[Amanda86 in reply to E_05]

I've tested from 5dp both times and this time I'm saying I'm not testing until test day, I really hope I stick to it. It really is hard though 😩

I'm doing ok thanks. Upped my protein intake as apparently it helps with thickening and just keeping my fingers crossed for Thursday 🤞🤞

Still anxious at feeling nothing with tablets, but I know that means nothing really xxx

[E_05 in reply to Amanda86]

It sure is but I'm sure you will keep to it, I've never been tempted to test early on my previous cycles even my acupuncturist was like I can't believe you haven't tested at all lol

One thing I have learnt from this forum is symptoms definitely mean nothing in this journey, have you been drinking pomegranate juice that's meant to help to. Keeping everything crossed for Thursday for you xx

[Amanda86 in reply to E_05]

Yeah I've been having a glass a day of pomegranate juice, started that about 5 days before my first scan. I'm still having a glass a day and also having a pint of whole milk a day and been having boiled eggs and chicken for protein 🍳 🍗 lol I'll be sickened with it all come Thursday 😂

I know, it's great you've managed to resist testing.I think once you start it's so bad too because you want to keep testing every single day!

This time I won't buy a test until the day before test day. It's a blood test with my clinic which means even when I do take a pregnancy test it's still very early (9dp5dt) but for me the thought of not having any idea what the blood test result would be just makes me feel a bit funny. I'd have to at least have an idea 😐 Lol

When is your OTD? Xxx

[E_05 in reply to Amanda86]

That all sounds good, haha crazy the stuff we put ourselves through in a bid to help but fingers crossed Thursday it'll all of been worth it!

I think that's more out of fear I don't test tbh, as much as I want to know I'm so nervous for another BFN and to how il cope. I don't blame you for doing your own test then if you have to wait for a blood test - I'd be the same wanting to have some kind of idea.

OTD is tomorrow 😬 I just have to do a pregnancy test and then if it is BFP 🤞 re do it in a week xx

[Amanda86 in reply to E_05]

I've got everything crossed for tomorrow 🤞🍀🤞🍀 xxx

[Franco81]

Ah E, sending you lots of strength right now. Hold tight, you can do it.

It's funny how people seem to have a sense for these things and life throws more at you just when you think there's no more you can take. But you're so strong, just look after yourself (and it sounds like your lovely hubby is too, you are so right not to get involved) this is your time for you at the moment.

That quote reminds me of another similar one I love too:

'Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass but about learning to dance in the rain' and I believe we all are doing this, picking ourselves up to face another day through our long, hard journeys.

I have everything crossed for you Tuesday x

[E_05 in reply to Franco81]

Thank you so much, so true it always seems when your already having a down day people throw even more at you.

Ah I'm such a quote person definitely think they keep me going, I love that one to! Hope your doing okay x

[Hidden]

You are stronger than what you feel otherwise you wouldn't have got this far. You don't have long to go now until the 2ww is up. I can't offer advice but I can see how terrifying the wait must be.

Do your friends know what you are going through? You aren't being unfair not wanting a texting war. I don't think many people would chose to be involved in that on a normal day, let alone whilst going through the stresses you already have. Your hubby would be better not texting back, he doesn't need the stress either. Xx

[E_05 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, I know I think these last few days are the worst cause it's like that anxiety of finally knowing.

Yeah that's what upset me more, very few of my friends do know but these 2 do and I put myself out a lot to help them but feel it's never done in return. Your right, he did say after a couple of texts I'm not going to reply anymore think he knew it was getting me down xx

[Littledee88]

Hi am just new to this jus got my 3 day transfer on Thursday embryo was grade 2 5cell embryo I was very disappointed as I wanted grade one. We got 6 eggs only 2 fertilsesd and only one made it to transfer. This is my first round and I am very nervous one minute am ok next am crying trying my hardest not too stress and avoid all stressful things that would upset but it's hard. This 2ww it's driving me nuts not even a week in xxx

[E_05 in reply to Littledee88]

I'd say try not to focus on the quality on the embryo, my past cycle I had an hatching embryo (ideal for being put back) which didn't take and I've equally heard ladies not have such good quality and get BFP. It is really hard, try to have things to focus on that will keep you at least a little occupied from googling everything! Good luck xx

[Littledee88 in reply to E_05]

Thanks. I hope you get a BFP too. Fingers & toes crossed xx

[Kyell2]

Oh no! Why is it that our families always reappear in our lives when we least want and need them?

I have a mother who behaves in exactly the same way and it takes a lot of energy to remain calm when speaking to her.

You do right to stay out if it when you need to keep yourself calm and focus on you.

Good luck for the testing, sending happy, positive thoughts 🤞x

[E_05 in reply to Kyell2]

Thank you, I know especially when it's been so long since we've heard from her - her choice not ours. In the end he did stop texting her as I think he knew it was upsetting me even if I didn't know what was being said. Sorry you have the same with your mum! Xx

[Fredaflintstone]

Hey Hun keep going you are doing fantastically. Good idea to stay out of the argument - gotta keep your stress levelsow. Not long to go now - when's your OTD? Fingers crossed for you xx

[E_05 in reply to Fredaflintstone]

Thank you so much, OTD tomorrow 😬 keep thinking by this time tomorrow morning il know and then that makes me scared to test 😂 hope your doing well xx

[Fredaflintstone in reply to E_05]

Not long to go. I know it's so hard but am really hoping your bfp is there waiting for you. Xxx

[Sweets1]

Don't feel bad, be there for him but tell him it's stress you don't need and maybe jus tell him not to respond or tell her he has bigger things to worry about right now!! Hope things get better. Stay strong!! X

[E_05 in reply to Sweets1]

Thank you, that's what he did in the end said it wasn't worth getting into it with her x

[AllWeNeedIsluv]

Hope your feeling a bit better today hun and your your hubbys OK too.

Wishing you so much luck for tomorrow I hope it's the bfp you so deserve hun. Try keep busy today if you can might help. 💗🤗😘

[E_05 in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Thank you so much, we've both decided to ignore her messages and just focus on tomorrow that's all that's important at the moment xx

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to E_05]

That's the right attitude. Wish you all the best hun 😘

[C_L_A_I_R_E]

Yes good luck for tomorrow!!! 🍀➕🤞🏻

[E_05 in reply to C_L_A_I_R_E]

Thank you, haven't got a good feeling but we'll see xx

[Hidden]

no you are not being unfair at all. Why don't you do some nice things for yourself to take your mind off things?

[E_05 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, I took the dogs for a walk which always helps clear my head.