So...Got The Official Go Ahead For Doner Treatment 😊

[baby2016]

So today access fertility phoned to say they have approved us for the 3 cycle DE package at our chosen clinic 😊

I also had an email last night from the clinic to say they have the results of the sperm comet test, of which has shown that hubby has higher than average fragmentation. It was 28% fragmented as normal is upto 25%, so not too high, but would have been interested to have seen this result a few months ago as he's really been looking after himself the last few months and has been on the pregnacare male tablets that come in a dual pack with the female ones. I know it would have been higher several months ago. They've advised him to stay on the tablets and wished us luck! They don't have any major concerns as icsi will be used anyway.

They are already currently looking for matches for me, and think I'll be matched probably by the end of September 😊

It still hurts deep down that I can't use my own eggs, and maybe if we had celebrity money I'd have given my own another go with the private world, it just hurts that I'll never get to see any of my own family traits in a baby. But at the same time I'm cautiously very excited about the next chapter! And praying it works. 🙏

I've been very vague with my matching criteria on purpose as I've said to the clinic I want to read as many profiles as possible as ones they don't think are my match maybe actually ones that I feel are, as after all, how can a 5 min chat on a phone about me fully provide the picture of me! So I've asked for dark hair, eye colour not fussed, around 5ft7, but not fussy with that either! My main ask was not looks, but more about if the person sounds like me, so have asked for someone who either works with caring/helping people, or someone creative!

So let's see what the profiles say when they start coming through! Hopefully I'll find a perfect match which will then ease all my other worries. Onwards and upwards as they say! 😊👶🏻🌈

[Hidden]

Great news Baby2016! We have booked our consultation too, to see how we get on with donor and if we will be accepted too!

This is a positive step forwards for you but I can understand your hurt regarding your own eggos 😘😘😘 to reassure you, your baby will pick up some of your family traits like mannerisms, more to development than genetics, nurture plays a part too! Children learn all of our querks from us too! The good and the not so good 😊 It will very much be your baby in every way xxx 😘😘😘

[baby2016 in reply to Hidden]

Aww thank you Dolly! 😊 Brilliant news re your appointment too, is it soon?

The counselling session is def worth while, I was surprised that I cried my eyes out! But felt much better about it all after, and it's amazing what they go through with you! Keep us updated on your progress xxx

[Hidden in reply to baby2016]

Hello petal! Yep the appointment is at the end of the month, we shall see I'm trying not to take anything for granted xxx Please keep us posted on your upcoming cycle! I'm excited for you!

[baby2016 in reply to Hidden]

😊 it does fill me with some excitement, more so than when I had my last cycle with my own. Maybe it's because it's a fresh start, or just maybe because there's a bigger chance it can work, and then that scares me that I'm allowing myself to think all those thoughts of picturing yourself with a baby for it all to come crashing round you!

The end of the month will soon be here! We may be going through this together then 😊😘xx

[KittyK]

Good luck sweetheart!! I know I was in the other end of the donation process but one of the women I shared with was like you, wanted to know lots about my personality - the clinic even rang me and asked extra questions for her so you're not alone in that and I wish you all the best for your little miracle to come! You'll be amazing parents xxx

[baby2016 in reply to KittyK]

Thank you KittyK, that makes me feel better 😊 I bet once I've chose mine then that's when I'll start with the list of questions! Hope all is good with you xxx

[KittyK in reply to baby2016]

Definitely ask as much as you want to make yourself satisfied with your choice

I'm good thank you. Still in a weird limbo like it's not real to be honest. She was three weeks yesterday and I still wake up to her crying like...oh yeah, dear lord I have a baby lol. I really wonder when it'll sink in lol I had an infection post birth but am over the worst now and little madam is growing strong and healthy so that's all that matters

Meant to say as well good news about your hubby. I know you were both worried about it because of his health and things. We used ICSI as well. Looking forward to seeing your BFP post you so deserve it xx

[baby2016 in reply to KittyK]

😘😘 thank you! And so glad to hear you and your little beaut are doing well xxx

[Hidden]

Awww so happy it's all going ahead and sorted out. I think being vague about matching is best as when we read the profiles it was the person and what they wrote about themselves etc that made our choice easy not charactistics. A friend of mine using same clinic has just had success (first go) using DE xxx

[baby2016 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks Button 😊 it's because of you why I've chosen the same clinic! And brilliant news re your friend. Must be lovely for you both to have shared the DE journey. Hope all is going well with you and little one 😊xxx

[Tugsgirl]

Exciting news. Good luck xx

[baby2016 in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thanks Tugs 😊 xx

[Hollibob]

Great news

Think this will end up being the path we take too. Like you, still would love to use my own eggs, but there are some bonuses to think of like maybe not passing on endometriosis if it was a girl...

Good luck x

[baby2016 in reply to Hollibob]

Thanks Hollibob. It's a decision with been thinking of for a while, and don't think my hubby fully realised how hard it is to make that decision to give up on your own eggs till we were sat in the counselling session. So did us all good really. If you have any questions then please message me, likewise, there's quite a few ladies on here that would also be able to advise you too xx

[Sprinkles86]

Aw great news, hope they get you some matches sent over soon, all sounds very exciting xxx

[baby2016 in reply to Sprinkles86]

Yeah I must admit I am getting excited about reading all the profiles, just hope I find the one quickly! Thanks for your reply xx

[pm27]

We used DE for round 3 of ICSI. It was hard to accept not using my eggs. We kept our criteria quite open to reflect our own and wider family characteristics. Although the donor we were offered was taller than our preference her pen portrait was so similar to what I'd have written it swung it for me. Sadly we got another BFN but DE have worked for others so hopefully you'll be one of the lucky ones.

[baby2016 in reply to pm27]

Hi pm27! How are you doing? I'm so sorry that DE never worked for you 😢 like sometimes is just so unfair. Xx

[beauty1984]

Good luck baby2016 😊 🤞🏻 fingers crossed you get your match and all goes well. It's a scary but exciting journey we are all on xx

[baby2016 in reply to beauty1984]

Thanks Beauty! Back in the rollercoaster! How are things with you? Hope your ok xx

[beauty1984 in reply to baby2016]

I'm good thanks 😊 consent signing appointment is on the 22nd September so the roller coaster ride will start again soon for me 🤞🏻 fingers crossed for second time round xx

[Kelly-03]

Hope all goes well for you on your journey xx

[Cinderella5]

That's great news and even better news about hubby's comet test! It's very exciting once the ball starts rolling though I do understand where you are coming from about not being able to use your own eggs! We had a review with our NHS consultant a couple of days ago and he said realistically we only have a 5% chance of it working with my eggs and who needs odds like that when doing this stressful torturous treatment....My husband said he'd rather chuck the money all on red at the casino as he had better chances, at least that's 50%! Ha ha ha So not nice to hear that my eggs are rubbish but I think hearing the odds pretty much says it all. Best of luck with your profile matching!xx