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* UPDATE * after a great 12 week scan, bleeding this morning!

First of all, thank you to all the lovely ladies who responded to my scan pic and news yesterday about the 12 week scan. Im sorry I haven't yet had a chance to respond to all.

Now I'm worried that I have jinxed myself by posting yesterday. This morning when I went to the loo I saw blood in the toilet and quite a bit when I wiped. Anxiously waiting until the EPU opens at 9 am and absolutely fearing the worst. And everything seemed great yesterday too...

UPDATE:

Thanks everyone for your lovely messages, I really appreciate them. EPU were able to see me pretty quickly this morning thankfully. They did an internal ultrasound which showed the baby still alive and wriggling about which was a relief. But they aren't sure the cause of the bleeding which is a worry. There is a bruise where the placenta has attached and they are hopeful it is just bleeding caused by that - by the placenta burrowing in. Apparently that is quite common and can be as heavy as a light period. But they also told us we should cancel a holiday we had planned (due to leave tomorrow) just in case that isn't what it is and the problem gets worse. So I'm not feeling very reassured. And I know it sounds crazy, and if anyone else said this I would tell them they were being ridiculous, but I can't help feeling that I did jinx this pregnancy by finally allowing myself last night to believe that everything would be okay, by promising myself I would be less anxious and by getting excited. As I said, I know that makes no sense. But I just can't help feeling this is somehow my fault and that now things are going to end badly, after I've become so attached to that wriggling baby. X

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I'm so sorry to read this. I have absolutely everything crossed for you that all is ok. Sending a big hug & lots of positive thoughts. Will be thinking of you hun xxxxx

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Omg Hun I hope everything is ok, fingers crossed for you! People do bleed Hun please don't stress to much I know it's easy to say but it won't help anything xx

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Am keeping my fingers crossed for you xxx

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Really sorry to hear about your worry. I'm thinking about you and hoping all is ok. Xx

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I'm so sorry to see this. I am praying for you. Get into bed and stay lying down until you need to leave. My mum bled heavily with me and was told to stay in bed for four days. It worked. I know it was a very long time ago but she genuinely believes that saved me. xxx

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I know how scary it is when you see blood, try not to panic I bleed for 3 weeks some brown and some bright red fresh blood. Hopefully EPU will see you to put your mind at rest xx

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Hope everything's ok London. I have heard that bleeding is very common so please try not to worry. Hope you get the reassurance you need from EPU x

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🤞🏻it stops! Thinking of you London7 x

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You haven't jinxed yourself, why do we always blame ourselves? Please don't. We're here for you. Keeping everything crossed for you today 🤞 xx

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Hoping everything is OK for you! Xxx

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Got everything crossed for you lovely. Hope you can get into EPU and get seen quickly. X

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Thinking of you hun...don't panic...it could be anything. Let us know what the EPU say and I am sending many hugs xxx

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I just came on here to comment on your lovely scan photo as I didn't have chance yesterday and then saw this. I'm so sorry you're bleeding but have everything crossed that it is just a pregnancy bleed. As the other ladies have said, they're very common. Hope everything goes well at EPU. Xxxx

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Ah sweets you most definitely haven't jinxed anything xx like the other ladies have said it can be quite common, terrifying but common. Keeping my fingers crossed for you xxxxxxx

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I hope everything is ok - please let us know what the EPU says. Keeping everything crossed for you xx

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Thinking of you. Hope all is well! x

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Keepinging everything crossed for you hope all is ok xx

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Fingers crossed all is ok. I'm sure it will be fine. xx

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Hopefully just a pregnancy bleed, which is fairly common. Good luck at the EPU, thinking of you xxx

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Thanks. Have updated the post. Hopefully you are right and just a pregnancy bleed but still v scary. X

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Keeping everything crossed for you xx

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I really hope everything is ok Hun xx

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Oh my I bet you are going out of your mind. I hope all is well please update us all xx

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Thanks - have updated the post. I am still going out of my mind... x

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I'm sure you are it is such a stressful time and the whole not really knowing must be hard. Take care of yourself and here's to hoping it's one of those weird pregnancy things x

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Oh Im so sorry to hear this! Im sure you know this and it doesnt really help but lots of women have had bleeding and its been ok. Fingers crossed!xx

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Keeping everything crossed all is alright, hope you've managed to speak to EPU by now xx

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I hope everything is ok thinking of you xx

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Your 12 weeks was vaginal u/s or the usual one? Some time internal scans can usually cause bleeding as it can irritate the cervix. Fingers crossed. Hope things get cleared when you speak to EPU?

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The usual non-internal one so unfortunately I can't blame it on that. X

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Awwwwww hun. I really hope your OK. Fingers crossed for you. We're all here for you hun. Xx

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Hi London, so sorry to hear u had such a nasty shock! This happened to me at 9wks so I know some of what you're going through...what I would say though is, I was told bleeding in pregnancy is soooo common. Much more common than we think (my gp said upto 80% of pregnancies will get it at some point of other) Most of the time, like in my case, they will never know why, but a scan can reassure you it's not coming from the uterus. It could just be where your womb is stretching and pushing things aside, it can break a blood vessel...or it could be your cervix still being a bit irritated from the meds....hope you get some reassurance soon. Let us know how you get on! xxx

PS:- you haven't jinxed yourself, so you can get that thought out of ur head right now! X

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Thanks - that 80% statistic does make me feel better. It is all so scary. I thought now I'd hit 12 weeks things would be okay and I could finally have a "normal" pregnancy. How wrong I was! X

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Awwwww hun. We will always blame ourselves I know what you mean iv been there and used to say I was being punished. Until I realised that nothing everything is in our control and things we don't understand why or how will happen it's just life it's hard I know. I'm particularly struggle with not knowing why something's happening.

Were all here for you and do please try to understand that nothing you have done or nothing you haven't done has caused this. It's precaution the hospital will be taking. The fact baby is still wriggling around is a lovely reassurance. Try not to think about what might happen stay in the now. Put your feet up and try keep focused on the positive. I know it's easier said than done believe I do. But racking your brain for reasons and answers and what might bes is not going to help you and only put you and bubu under more stress. Try keep the stress at bay. Lots of big hugs and love hang in there hun. We're all here for you xxxxx

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Thank you - I really appreciate it. I know what you mean about feeling like you are being punished. Xx

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Trust me I get it and understand how your feeling. But please try and get that out of your mind altogether it's not true and all it will do will create more upset than your going through. You don't need to be beating your self up at all. Live in the now and hold on to the fact that bubu is still OK. Your not going on holiday as a precaution. We are lucky we have a good health care system. You keep talking to us and keep focused on the now hun. Big hugs 🤗😘😘💗

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I had a gush of blood that would have filled a pad straight away (tmi but it went everywhere....and I was out shopping!) I thought I'd wet myself so imagine the shock when I saw blood (although looking back it was somewhat watery)...the placenta implantation was another potential reason they gave. I forgot about that one!...but in my case they said it hadn't come from that far up. Scary stuff I know...but think this...there's only a 1% chance now of things going wrong so I'm 99% sure you'll be absolutely fine! The hospital are just being cautious asking u to cancel your holiday...plus if they're not 100% sure where the bleed came from, it may not be a good idea to fly as changes in cabin pressure or something might affect it.

Can you change to a staycation? (Assuming you were going abroad)

Xxx

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Thank you - that's not TMI - that's really helpful and I'm so grateful to you for sharing. It does cheer me up being reminded of the odds. It was a trip away - to Italy. But I think in case the bleeding continues the hospital is right that being away from home in a country where I don't speak the language isn't ideal (although they also said there is nothing they can actually do about the bleeding...). X

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Oh please dont feel like you've jinxed yourself...as you said if anyone else was saying it you tell them off! It sounds like you're getting well looked after so get those feet up and try to get some rest lovely!xx

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Thank you xx

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I am staying very positive for you. Good idea from them to tell you to cancel the holiday as it would have been awful for them to leave the decision up to you. I have everything firmly crossed for you. That scan picture looked like a very healthy 12 week baby and you have had further reassurance today. I know it must be so so hard to stay positive. Try to distract yourself and surround yourself with positive people. Wishing you all the very best xxxxx

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Thanks so much. Am about to find a trashy movie on Netflix to get my mind off it xx

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Great 👍- I'll try to dig out some recommendations for you. Xx

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Just read your update and I hope that the diagnosis is correct. I'm so glad little one was wriggling away. I know you won't be able to stop worrying just yet but I do wish you wouldn't blame yourself for doing what comes naturally; being proud and falling in love with your baby. Please try not to be so hard on yourself. Take it easy xx

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Thank you, that means a lot xx

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Oh no how scary for you. I've had bleeding on and off since week 5/6 and keep thinking hopefully things will settle down by week 12 but you just never know. It's the most frustrating thing ever not knowing what is actually happening with your own body!!! There was no real reason for me either but was told it is very common but not normal so always get checked. And the nurse at the EPU told me after 8 weeks and seeing a heartbeat on a scan the chance of miscarriage is about 5% which only gets smaller as the weeks go on. Fingers crossed for you that everything is fine and settles down! Xx

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Thank you! And sorry to hear you've also had bleeding. It's terrifying isn't it? And so frustrating that the only thing to do is wait it out. But you are right that the odds are good. I guess we just need to focus on that Xx

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Oh Sweetie. I'm relieved your little one is wriggling around nicely. From my experience of children, wriggly ones are happy ones. 😆

I'm so sorry you're having to cancel your holiday. You must be disappointed 😔. Anything you can do to look after your little one will be worth it though. Super Mummies always put their little ones first and that's exactly what you are doing - being a super mummy.

Stop blaming yourself for being happy. You have earned it and should feel delighted with your gorgeous wriggling baby. You have not jinxed yourself - it's just unfortunate that this has happened straight after your scan.

Now rest up and watch lots of happy films. Sending you the biggest squeeze and praying for the bleeding to stop.

Xxx

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Thanks so much for your lovely response. I know you're at a different stage now so especially appreciate you taking the time to post. I hope all is well with you, and you and hubby are enjoying your quality time together. Xx

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Oh bless you! Thank you. I'm ok thanks. I'm actually at my mum's in Cyprus. Mostly my days are good but I do have some bad days but they are becoming fewer which is good. I am just so thrilled when someone wins their battle. There is a plan for us and we will just have to wait and see what it is. xxx

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You need to focus on your little wriggler - don't blame yourself. You will have plenty of time to go on a holiday with your little family next year & just imagine the memories that you will be making together. Hopefully the diagnosis is correct & your bleeding stops. Enjoy your trashy movie!! x

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Thanks! I think it is going to be an afternoon / evening of endless trashy movies...! Xxx

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Good luck London7 just to reassure you my sister had had bleeding in all her pregnancies and all healthy babies. Try not to worry too much as be reassured by the scan being ok xxx

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Thank you - it is really reassuring to hear others have had this and gone on to have healthy babies. Xx

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I had quite a big bleed at 15 weeks and it was very stressful but nothing bad happened. Had a scan then and a private scan 10 days later for reassurance and both as normal as can be. Tummy really sprouting this week so girl must be going strong! 1.5 more weeks and we'll have our next scan at 21 weeks. Thinking of you, good luck!

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I'm so sorry you went through that, but thanks so much for sharing - it is really reassuring to hear others' stories and that they have worked out well. So exciting that the bump is growing! Xx

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Aw I'm so glad all seems ok but just rest and believe everything is fine cause it is! I know it's easy for me to say Hun but try and stay positive xx

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Thank you. The EPU told me to be positive too, and that everything looked fine and this is very common... but it is still so scary. Hope you're doing well. X

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Just wanted to say am thinking of you and stay strong :) xx

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Thank you! Xx

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Bleeding is awful. So many people get it and not all are bad outcomes. You find when no blood or spotting you want it to show implantation and when you do have it you don't want it as you worry about the extent of it.

Keep thinking of the positive just now if you can. Your wee baby was there just perfect as they should be.

Take it easy and try not to stress. Though I know you will. 💞

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Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞❤️🌈💋

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Good advice MrsC I would say lay down for as long as you can, to rest I would hope will help you, thinking of you xx please try not to blame yourself, you should be allowed to get excited by scan yesterday. Sending you hugs and best wishes xx

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It's understandable you feel the way you do but nothing is your fault your allowed to feel excited and post things. You are doing everything you should be and now rest would be just what you need. When my sister was pregnant she had a bit of bleed when she went to the toilet when she wiped and it was red blood and she was checked and all was ok and he has just turned 2 x your bound to worry but still keep hope xx

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