Waiting for 12 week scan.

Any tips to distract the mind before 12 week scan? I am still only 8 weeks and keep reading cases of miscarriage when the heart stops beating. I don't really feel pregnant and concerned why I don't have sickness. I'm pretty sure when the heart stops beating there is no sign....?

Is buying a Doppler wise? I hear it's opening a can of worms.

My husband thinks another scan would be a waste of time as if want another one a week later (which most likely is true).

I am incredibly grateful I have got to this stage however didn't anticipate the lack of contentment and anxiety.

C xxx

[Tugsgirl]

I wouldn't buy a doppler as it can be incredibly difficult to pinpoint the baby's heartbeat and then you'd convince yourself something was wrong anyway.

I had a missed miscarriage where the heart stopped beating and no I had no idea, in all other aspects you're still pregnant it's just that your body doesn't know the baby has died.

Have you lost symptoms or just never really had any to start with? My bff is 2 weeks ahead of me (6 weeks) and no symptoms and doesn't suspect she'll get any as she didn't last time. Not one single symptom! I'm trying to compare with her, us both being pregnant but there's really nothing to compare!

I know this is a really worrying time, every wait between scans is. I'm not sure that there's any way to avoid the worry unfortunately xx

[Hidden]

Try not to get too wrapped up with symptoms. I did and it drove me mad. I've had no sickness at all I just went to the loo all the time and had immense hunger. I had a scan every two weeks until 12 weeks because of bleeding and I think if I didn't have that I probably would have paid for one in between.

In my last pregnancy which ended in a missed miscarriage I had no sickness either and so this time I was convinced it would end the same but luckily it didn't xx

[Laura3101]

I was exactly the same as you reading about missed miscarriage etc and it's so hard and even after scans I don't think it gets easier but try to remain postive that all is ok. I had a scan at 7 weeks 12 weeks then 16 weeks im just waiting on next nhs scan at 21 weeks and even though all was fine nearly 4 weeks ago now Im worried Im not feeling her moving yet so its one thing after another. I had 0 sickness etc all throughout this pregnancy and only symptoms were nausea and tiredness so try not to worry xx

[Tw1986]

Hi I know everyone is different but personally speaking from my experience I did buy a Doppler and I found babies heart beat at about 9 weeks and I find it everytime, I listen to it prob every 3 days for a couple of seconds and I couldn't be more relaxed about my pregnant. I would say being relaxed and laid back about your pregnancy is a lot better for you and your baby than stressing and worrying about it. If for any reason you can't find it then least I know to contact someone to check than not knowing and still thinking all is ok when it may not be I mean if you can't find it you'll only worry for that reason rather than not knowing and worrying everyday anyway xx

[Hope85]

Hey lovely! It's hard isn't it! But I'm sure everything is fine! It's difficult not to worry. To be honest I wouldn't bother buying a Doppler I brought one and I still can't find theirs hearts and I'm 12 weeks. Just had my scan and now have to wait 8 weeks for my 20 weeks and I'm so impatient!

Like I said Hun try not to worry!

Take care 😊

[London7]

I sympathise - have been feeling exactly the same way - so very anxious since that BFP (I'm now 10+6 tomorrow) and have (unhelpfully) googled and read all there is to read about missed miscarriages. I can say now, with some authority, reading about it does NOT help your mental state and is best avoided! But it is hard, I know. My only symptoms have been tiredness and hunger. Plus I've gone up a cup size, but that growth started as soon as I started on the progesterone suppositories!

I paid for a private scan at 9 weeks because I was so worried. The reassurance lasted only a week before the anxiety set in again. Like some other posters I've heard mixed things about dopplers and have also heard that for most women you can't hear a heart beat until at least 12 weeks and often quite a bit later than that. Plus they are apparently tricky to use properly and can cause more worry. But I don't know what the trick is to relaxing into pregnancy. We have struggled to much to get to this point I think it is only natural for us to worry more than most pregnant women. Xx

[Oakey80]

Hiya, I totally understand what you're going through. I'm 10wks3d and like London, paid for a private scan at 9wks.

I had a bleed 2 days before the scan, hence why I booked it. But I was always planning on having one at 10wks so just pulled it forward.

I'd totally recommend it if you can, as they say if you see a heartbeat at 9wks there's a 97% chance it will be ok. That on its own came someway to putting my mind at rest. I still worry everyday, imagining pains and af cramps and scrutinising loo paper for tiny traces of pink....but at least I can tell myself there's a very good chance we're gonna make it!

xxx

[ch319]

It literally feels like time stands still in that countdown to the 12 week scan. I paid for a private scan as I couldn't wait and highly recommend it but please do not buy a Doppler. You are not trained to use it and it could cause more trouble than it's worth. For the sake of about the same money pay for a professional to scan you.

It is normal to be desperate to hear or see your baby and the wait is tough but it will so be worth it xx