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Hey all, I am Sarah,33 years old and my dream of having birth to a baby became a nightmare.I am married for 3 years and I couldn't conceive.At first, we thought it was due to many reasons, stress most of all but after visiting several doctors, the answer is one: I suffer from POF.My personal doctor suggested to lose some weight and take fertility drugs but he insisted that an assistance in a fertility clinic would be the best solution if I want to have a baby.What would you recommend?I am so confused and I don't know what is best for me.

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Hey i am not very experienced in this; but weight loss and healthy diet can only b helpful but i would say one thing enjoy what u eat and eat what u enjoy. Sometimes focusing on weight loss can cause stress too when you dont see instant results.

Expect weight loss and the beginning of any result around the 10-12 week mark. Any weight you suddenly lose is all water weight is unhealthy and not proper weight loss. Gradual weight loss of 1-2lbs a week is healthy and apt but if u do it properly its not always about weight its prob more abt inches. I did a decent regime of exercise and slim fast for 3 months and lost inches like 2.5 inches off waist chest etc but believe it or not not even 1 lb of weight loss!!!

Speak to ur dr or a dietitian for apt advice ☺️☺️


Hi x I just wanted to share what I know on POF. If you want to take a positive from your diagnosis is that you will know how to move on from this and get advise from different people. It's mad how our body's work! I over produce estrogen and have fibroids amongst other things. Estrogen in excessive amounts like in my case causes massive problems and if it is low like with POF it causes problems. We just need it to be somewhere in the middle! I would see what other people say but I would really recommend taking supplements if your aren't already especially vitamin D and calcium to help your bone density. I don't want to list them all out but it would good to take a good vitamin which includes C and E also. B vitamins and also important to try and eat organic where possible. I use Maca powder everyday in my chocolate smoothies. Maca helps to improve hormonal imbalances and this does help. I also believe in Aruvedic treatments as they have massively helped me and Shatavari (Indian herb for women) is worth looking into because it helps with estrogen imbalances. Diet and supplements are important and it goes without saying that we all need to reduce our stress levels. Drs generally do not advise on diet, their job is to look at what are the medical interventions you need. From experience I can say that now you know that you might need help conceiving don't wait. I wish I didn't wait as long as I have. Really hope any treatments you have go well for you. Xxx


Hi, how are you. How long did they treat you? I take Clomid. I still have some time to finish it. My doctor told me that after the treatment, if I could not conceive, I should go to a fertility clinic. It scared me at first, but now I'm more comfortable with the idea. In addition, I take vitamin and folic acid. My doctor did not recommend it to me, but I try to eat as healthy as possible. If you are a healthy person, your overweight should not stress you. Every day when I wake up, my husband prepares a juice of mango and orange before going to run. I add a tablespoon of vanilla ensure. If they told you to go to a fertility clinic, they will tell you what to do with your overweight.

Good luck



Hi Sarah

I also have POF, my advice would be go and to a fertility clinic and make sure you see a consultant preferably who specialises in POF to get the best advice. This way you can start making the right decisions for yourself on how to move forward. You don't have to rush into making decisions but you do need to know what your options are. May be worth seeing if there is a specialist nurse in your area and also asking if your local hospital have a fertility/gynae counsellor you can talk to. Getting my diagnosis was really hard so I really feel for you. Most importantly you need to look after yourself and your ongoing health which is relevant if you have a definite diagnosis of POF at your age. Good luck and lots of love xx


My friend was trying for 10 years, with 5 years being with fertility treatmants - do not loose hope, you are young, healthy and in need of positivity .



There are several things that you can do to help you get pregnant. First is to keep track of your cycles to determine your ovulation days for you to be able to time intercourse on those days. Second is for both you and your husband to maintain a healthy lifestyle, like regularly exercising, eating right, avoid smoking and alcohol, and reducing stress. watch your diet, what’s good for your arteries is also good for your eggs. Fertility supplements can also help increase your chances of conceiving. You can consult your doctor about this, have yourselves checked, and discuss your plans of conceiving for you to have the best options available.

However, resorting to unproven fertility treatments as a desperate attempt to get pregnant may compromise fertility even more. Instead, in vitro fertilization with a donor egg may be the alternative you are looking for since it has proven to be successful in some women diagnosed with POF.

Treatment for premature ovarian failure includes hormone replacement therapy (HRT). This may help restore the proper levels of hormones that women should normally have. It is possible that restoring the natural levels of progesterone and estrogen will help women diagnosed with POF have regular periods again. Also, this therapy will lower your chances to get affected by osteoporosis. HRT is better than hormone pills because it allows for a constant release of hormones into the body.

Research continues in order to discover better treatments for women affected by POF. You should stay informed and discuss your options and your chances of getting pregnant, with both your partner and your doctor.

Lastly, keep on trying and stay positive. These two will bring you closer to achieving your goal. there is no problem without solution, we just don't know where to start.

Good luck!



Hi Sarah! I am also in a little same scenario as yours. I'm 36 years old. I've tried those fertility drugs too. But, now, more importantly, I'm quitting to waste any more years. I'm going for an IVF now later this year to Ukraine. Well, you should also try another way. I'm not selling you disappointment but, sometimes things are different for some of us! So, just go for what's best for you.


Do try to go with what your doctor is advising. Keeping a healthy weight is important but the most important is to get the ball rolling with seeing the fertility clinic. Did the GP refer you? In my opinion the quicker you get there the better to be honest. They are the experts that can advise on treatments available for you to get the ball rolling and to ensure you are on the right track to acheiving pregnancy. Wishing you all the best!xx


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Hey there. I hope you're doing good. I'm so sad to hear about your POF. If your ovaries fail, they don't produce normal amounts of the hormone estrogen or release eggs regularly. Infertility is a common result. In some cases, fertility drugs work but mostly they don't. Your doctor's advice is right. You can go for a fertility treatment. It would be easy and effective too! Best of luck!


Hi everyone.Premature Ovarian Failure (POF) affects approximately 1-4% of the female population. Normally, ovaries supply women with eggs until about age 51, the average age of natural menopause. POF is not menopause in that the dysfunction of the ovaries, loss of eggs, or removal of the ovaries at a young age is not a natural physiological occurrence. Infertility is the result of this condition and is the most discussed problem resulting from it, but there are additional health implications of the problem, and studies are on-going. For example, osteoporosis or decreased bone density affects almost all women with POF due to an insufficiency of estrogen.

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I can relate well to you. Although we have different medical problems, our dream of having a child has been shattered. However, I can give you a heads up. My life turned around last year. I never thought I could have a child. I have severe endometriosis. One day, however, SO came up with a suggestion that we go for adoption. I suggested surrogacy and we went for that. So don't worry because you can still have a child without having to fall PG yourself.


look, Sarah! don't overthink about this. I don't know much about POF. so, I can't suggest your regarding this. but s far as I heard about it is; there are only a few percent chances to get pregnant naturally. I suggest you change your diet. and make a routine of physical activities. go to the fertile clinic and take proper checkup. there are other ways to complete your family. so don't worry about it dear. if no way left then go for surrogacy. it will ease your life. don't lose hope. continue your efforts. just keep one thing in mind there are alternate ways as well. it will surely relax your mind.



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I totally understand where your coming from I have POF was diagnosed at 29.

Took a long time for the doctors to work it out, when they did they made an appointment at the local fertility Centre. Where I’ve had 2 rounds of ivf egg donation, it took me about 3 years to get my head around that I would not have my own genetic baby, but now the way I see it is how can it not be as it grows from your blood supply and is growing in your body, I got given a 1% chance to fall pregnant naturally and we did, but sadly wasn’t to be and we miscarriage at 11 weeks.

Yes I agree with the doctors to lose weight it’s hard for us ladies to lose weight especially around our tummy and I sometimes crave sugar sweets. Excerise has helped me loads with my bones. Things I’ve done in the past to help are Reflexology and acupuncture and took pregncare supplements, folic acid. I know your post was 8 months ago, how is your journey going?

Please inbox me anytime I’ve been living with POF for 10 years now and still doesn’t get any easier xxxx


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