Miscarriage " I know what you've been through"

Having suffered heartache a few weeks ago I just hate people saying " I know what your going through " no you don't as you haven't been through IVF. People think their like you and their not 😥

[Tugsgirl]

I get this all the time too. No, they don't understand that having been through ivf it makes it much more devastating for us. Please try to remember though that they mean well and it doesn't mean they're not hurting. I'm sorry for your loss xx

[E_05]

Totally with you on this one, unfortunately people can't understand the heart ache of IVF unless they've been through it xx

[Hidden]

Miscarriage is awful for anyone but miscarriage after years of trying and after ivf isn't something that anyone can understand unless they have walked in your shoes. I know it's incredibly frustrating and upsetting xxx

[Alice_W123]

I can`t agree to all statement, but only for some parts.

mc is horrible in any way.

Yes, it`s more painful in case of IVF but it uncomparable to the last mc which occurred on your way. So your last hope would be for gestational surrogacy.

In case of people, which say about: "I know what your going through" they can only imagine it, even with mc in the past, but can`t be sure about felling of other person.

Eventually humans can imagine or share felling, but in case of "I know" you should be pro in it.

[Petricker]

been through this and feel for you. heartbreaking thing especially when someone tries to "support" you the way you mentioned. Nothing in my life was that painful and devastating for sure. that joy of the first bfp and total desperation after mc..painful to remember. anyway, you're right - no one can understand others, as we have never been through exactly the same and we are not the same. I hope you'll get well soon and this pain will fade somehow. be strong xxx

[marsenan]

sorry to hear that...ended up in bfn, depressed.

lots of luck

[danysh13]

people do not understand women through ivf, I know it from my personal experience. After giving a birth to my first and only one son I thought I would never be happy. They made an awful mistake, thanks God my son was in safe but not me. Due to this I lost a chance to get pregnant again, then I was suffering from my family, lots of questions about second baby and so on,.. they don't really understand and when I told I would undergo some kind of reproductive treatment they just told 'oh, I understand you, I can relate to you' , really? me? after all these words and blamigs..