Want to scream!

[7AVA]

I've just had yet another message from a friend telling me she's pregnant - this time with twins. She already has two children - I just want to scream. Sometimes life suck 😓

[_MrsC]

If really does! I'll scream for you! Aaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh!

4 kids! Who needs four children? So sorry. It must have been a real gut puncher today. Sending a big squeeze! xxx

[7AVA in reply to _MrsC]

Thanks for the scream - and the squeeze! X

[E_05]

Life really is unfair! Your definitely entitled to a good scream x

[7AVA in reply to E_05]

Thank you xx

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Its such a head screw as you want to be happy for other people.but at the same time you want to run away and get away from it all. Theres no right or wrong answer and we shouldnt feel guilty for the way we feel x

[sunshineyellow]

We're screaming with you xxx

[7AVA in reply to sunshineyellow]

Thank you - at least I don't feel alone xxx

[louisear]

I'm going to add my scream. Aghhhhhhhhh! A friend of mine who's 42 and got a 21 year old daughter has just told me she's going to be a grandma. Unplanned. I'm not even a mother at 41 and she's a grandma at 42. Aghhhhhh. Baby due 2 wks before mine would have been. Upset and pd off doesn't even cover it so totally understand how you feel xx

[7AVA in reply to louisear]

Oh that is hard to hear - I'll scream for you too Aghhhhhhhh! Xxx

[CountryCat]

Yup scream away! Wait...let me join you!

On what planet is that fair???

Sometimes you just gotta let it all out 👄😵😤😱

[7AVA in reply to CountryCat]

I'm going to Snowdonia this weekend - think I might find a mountain and do just that!! Thank you xx

[CountryCat in reply to 7AVA]

An absolute must!! 😝

What a lovely part of the world, enjoy it xx

[7AVA in reply to CountryCat]

Thank you xx

[kelsbels88]

Feel for you! Life does not seem fair. All the lovely ladies on her going through their struggles

Think a lot of screaming is in need 🙂

thinking of you all and sending baby dust xx

[Rosalietea]

Yup that totally sucks! Scream away my friend, hell we all will xxxx

[London7]

Scream all you like! All three of my best friend are pregnant with their (in the case of 2 of them) second and (in the case of one of them) third children. That made me want to scream. Especially when the husband of one of my friends was banging on about how with both their children they got pregnant "too quickly" on the first go, and in a way it was a bit annoying as they weren't properly prepared ... AAAAARRRRRHHGGH! Let's all just scream together!! But also - 4 kids is way too many. When children out number parents by 2 it's just way too much!! X

[7AVA in reply to London7]

Oh London, that's so true - children shouldn't outnumber parents!! Sorry to hear you're having to cope with 3 best friends. Xx

[London7 in reply to 7AVA]

I'm genuinely happy for them (I still sometimes want to scream though!!). Just sad for myself! X

[7AVA in reply to London7]

Very true - feel the same xx

[Jaky76]

Ah bless you.. My close friend had 2 girls and then fell pregnant with twin girls... Almost planned to day... She asked me to be godmother which I love but at the time was struggling after failing round and miscarriage... I know that wanting to scream feeling.. Sending loads of love and big hugs xxx

[7AVA in reply to Jaky76]

Thanks Jaky xx

[tiger-cub]

WTF

Aaaaaaaaaaaauuuuuurrrrrrghhhhhh

I cant believe life can be anymore unfair

[Alice_W123]

Positive thinking. Try it.

Something like this: if she got 4 children than I`ll definitively have at least one.

All should be fine.

Every time when I see a baby I become overpowered with strength and even bigger desire to have my own. So that my wish will come true.

[7AVA in reply to Alice_W123]

I think this is great and will try out this approach - thanks so much xxx

[lauren3189]

sending you big hugs, it's such a hard thing to hear and noone truly gets it except the ladies on here xx

[7AVA in reply to lauren3189]

Thank you xx

[Cinderella5]

Well if it makes you feel any better, my "friend" told me she was pregnant by sending me a picture message of some chelsea buns followed by an oven and yes she did know that I was in the midst of treatment (having already had two failures) and she wasnt even fussed for ever having kids! Dont get me wrong Im chuffed that she's happy but how insensitive can someone be!! Arrgghhhhhhhhh!!!!! At least we can all scream together!!xx

[Clare_lou]

Scream away! Can I scream too! Recently, after not coping at all after my third miscarriage and having to now go through ivf in the hope that I can finally become a mum...my sister, who has four kids, suggested that I go to AA (I don't drink, never have) as it might help me with my poor coping skills! Arghhhhhh! Xx

[7AVA in reply to Clare_lou]

What?! That's crazy 😝 - I'm really sorry to hear of your losses. Hope your ivf treatment is successful xx

[Clare_lou in reply to 7AVA]

Yep. Insensitive and bonkers! Sufficed to say, that was my one and only time of reaching out to her!

Thank you. Sadly, this go didn't work but I'm determined not to give up yet!

I think going to the top of a mountain and having a good scream will probably be really cathartic! Xx

[_MrsC in reply to Clare_lou]

Wtf? My jaw literally just dropped! How insensitive and insulting! Next time she moans about having to deal with 4 kids, suggest she goes to as or rehab or something like that. xxx

[Clare_lou in reply to _MrsC]

Yep. Just unbelievable! I think she genuinely thought she was giving me some wise advice or something?? Aside from AA...wtf? I'd like to see how her 'coping skills' would be if she'd been through what I have! Xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Clare_lou]

Holy moly really?! I'm flabbergasted!! I think you did well not to knock her out!!xx

[Clare_lou in reply to Cinderella5]

I'm so glad you ladies understand. This was a few weeks ago and I'm struggling to get over it. My partner doesn't get it...thinks she's mental but that she was just trying to help! Xx

[TinyWal_78]

Wow! I feel you all. My so called friend sent me a picture of her positive test knowing I was undergoing therapy and fertility treatment. At 3 weeks! Who spreads the word at 3 weeks! They weren't trying and her partner doesn't even eat vegetables! FFS! 😑

[7AVA in reply to TinyWal_78]

It's so frustrating isn't it - I think my friend with twins wasn't trying either as she said these things happen when you least expect it! Easy to say if you've two kids already!! X

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Only just seen this.. Jese, 4 kids.. ugh so irritating!.. XXXX