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The dream is over

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had scan at 13 wks 5 days today but no heartbeat. Baby died at 9 wks. No words. How you ladies do this again and again I'll never know. You're so brave. We won't go through this again 😞

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I'm so sorry to read this, this has really made me sad. I've been following your posts and you've had a tough time. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks so I know there are no words I can say but thinking of you. xx

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Saarah92

No one should have to go through this. No words but just love and prayers

You're brave too. That very fact that you took this route to try and make your dream come true is bravery. don't put yourself down and try to keep your head up.

Everything happens for a reason (sounds cliched I know)

Much love and big hugs to you xxxx

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Hope_4_2017x

I am so so sorry xx sending hugs xx

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Saya85

I'm so sorry to hear that! Truly devastating ....

When I started my IVF journey I kept hearing people tell me I'm 'brave' for doing it.

I never really understood it- end of the day I was just taking a series of medications and small procedures!

But reading the posts on this forum really brings home to me how hard it is for a lot of us...

Praying for you whatever the future brings - your journey doesn't end here xx

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tiger-cub

I'm so sorry to hear this . Absolutely no words can express d sadness. My heart bleeds for u my dear. I had 2 miscarriage. One at 9 weeks and one at 6 weeks was an ectopic. Just be kind to urself and let time heal d wound. The pain will ease off with time . Sending u loads of hugs and kisses. Xxx

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Cinderella5

Oh my goodness! I have no words. Sending you both massive hugs!xx

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pm27

I'm so sorry.

No words for you but a big massive hug x

So sorry to hear this xxx

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E_05

So sorry to hear, there are no words. Take the time to grieve for your baby, you are brave to x

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Heregoesthen77

Hi Louisear, you helped me when I was on here. Just saw start of your post and didn't want to believe it. I'm so sorry.

I don't know what to say.. except that. Please know I am thinking of you

X

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CountryCat

I will never understand why life is so disgustingly cruel!

My heart goes out to you...there are no words that will comfort, but do know that the ladies here will carry you in their thoughts at this truly awful time. I am so sorry for your tremendous loss and send all my love xxx

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ch319

Oh I'm so sorry this just such sad news. Make sure you really take some time for yourself xx

Louisear I'm so sorry to read your post I know how utterly devastating it is to hear this news on your 12 week scan. Take care my dear I know it's a really awful time for you, thinking of you xxx

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London7

I'm so so sorry to hear this very sad news. It is a terrible and unfair loss to suffer. Take care of yourself x

So sorry to read this lovely - so cruel to go through this journey, get a bfp & this happen. Sending big hugs to you xxx

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Rainbow_86

I am so so gutted to read this.... my words can't help but I am thinking of you...... I can't imagine how you are feeling..... it is too cruel to put into words. I will never understand why this happens to good people. Sending you strength to get through this xxxxx

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Kyell2

I'm so so sorry to read this. I know there are no words to make you feel even remotely better😞 Look after each other x

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misswinky34

Very very sorry for you x

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Strawb86

So sorry to see this. I'm not on here much anymore but have been following your posts. Such sad news. Sending lots of love xxx

No words. I am so sorry and understand why you wouldn't want to do it all again. Xxx

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Raglee

I know there are no words to make you feel better but just to say I'm so very sorry , life can be so so cruel xxx

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Tugsgirl

Happened to me on my 8 week scan, you must have begun to relax when you hit that 12 week mark.... I'm so so sorry to be reading this xx

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Sprinkles86

Oh Louise I'm so sorry and just really upset for you. Life is so painful and cruel. I don't really have anything more to say but just know we are all thinking of you and sending you a massive hug xxxxx

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Rosalietea

So sad to hear this. You poor things. Will be thinking of you. Look after each other through the tough days ahead xxx

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine the pain you're in. Thinking of you during this the difficult time. Right now you don't have to make any decisions over the future. Be kind to yourselves x

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emmab178

Oh Louise so sorry to hear this news. It's so cruel. Sending you and your OH big hugs x

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MichM

I'm so sad to read this and my heart is breaking for you 💔, there are just no words, no sense to be made of these tragic situations, take good care of yourself x x x

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Leesalou

So so sorry to read this, big hugs 🤗 Hun. Take care of yourself xx

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Maikai

I am so so sorry. This is exactly what happened to me two weeks ago. I know how awful it is and can only send you my love and tell you it does get better - slowly but it does get better xxx

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7AVA

So sorry to read this today. I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks - it was the hardest thing. There are no words that can help, I'm just so sorry for your loss. Xxx

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Hollibob

So so sorry...no one deserves to have to experience this :-(

X

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Oakey80

Oh no such sad news! We were all really rooting for you so much 😢 I've been following your posts and so hoped it was your time [hugs] xxx

I'm so sorry Louise, I feel so upset and angry for you.

Nothing will make any sense for a bit, please just wrap your arms around each other and hold each other tight, you will come through this together ❤😘

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_MrsC

So sorry to hear your sad news. Life is so cruel. Thinking of you and sending a big hug. xxx

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katya38

I'm so so sorry to hear this. Life can be so unfair and you just wonder why xx

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emu2016

We had bad news today too. I'm completely with you... how do women keep doing it?! Big love. What a sh*t day all round xxxx

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Scarlett13

Very very sorry and saddened - so unfair - so cruel - hope you are coping ok xxx

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AmyA19

I'm so sorry 💜💜💜 sending you lots of love to get through this xxx

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Sunshine09

So sorry to read this, truly thought this was your time , heart is breaking for you 💔 Thinking of you stay strong xx

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Jaky76

So sorry.. Huge hugs xxx

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bumpkin

Sorry to hear your news x

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Hope85

So sorry to hear this xx

Just sending you a massive hug I'm so sorry to hear this xx

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baby2016

Devastated for you and know this heartache. Life of just so so cruel at times. Sending you lots of love xx

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Sherry07

There is no word that can show my sadness after reading this post. Thinking about you x

Oh no.im terribly sorry for your loss.sending hugs to you.

Oh Louise, no, I am so so sorry. I can't even begin to understand the devastation you are going through but wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you. Be kind to yourself over the coming days, weeks and months. Xx

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Lucylu_88

So very sorry to hear your heartbreaking news. I never understand why life deals such cruel hands.

Sending lots of love and strength to you.

xx

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72cloud9

Oh Hun, my heart breaks for u 😢 I'm so very sorry xxxx

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Hayleigh86

So sorry for you xx

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Sunnysam91

So sorry Louise, sending thoughts and prayers I've pm'd u 💜Xx

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Tara123

Sorry for ur loss life is so cruel on times sending hugs to u xxx

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City74

I'm so sorry to hear this - it's devastating. Hope you have lots of support for you and your oh. Take care xx

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jenny34

I'm so so sorry . There are no words. Sending love and please look after yourself xxxxxxx

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Daisy14

I am so very sorry to read this, exactly the same thing happened to me at 9 weeks in November 2015. I fell into a deep hole and said never again. You'll see my posts on my timeline as I got a lot of support here. Time really helped, I didn't stop hurting but became more accepting of it. I found the strength to try again and cycle 2 brought me my 12 week old daughter who is asleep in front of me.

Take lots of time to heal and don't put any pressure on deciding what to do next. Right now you need to grieve and allow that to happen your way.

Sends a hug xxx

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Georgina78

Oh Louise this is so awful, I'm so sorry 😔 There's nothing I can say but sending virtual hugs at this very difficult time xxx

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Violet5451

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Love and thoughts are with you xxx god bless

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Se99

I'm so sorry to read this, keep moving forward and I promise you will rebuild your strength again x

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Linda78

Am so very very sorry that this has happened to you - I really don't understand how cruel life can be - I know others have said this but it is true, be kind to yourselves and take a lot of time out of life if you need to as it is the most devastating thing to go through - my thoughts are with you xxx

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