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No fertilisation

Thank you for everyone who wished me luck. Of the three viable eggs collected yesterday, unfortunately none have fertilised overnight. The hospital have said they will keep an eye throughout the day but it is quite certainly bad news.

I have been give no reason as to why yet and don't know if I will. Am devastated although had prepared myself for the worst.

It's just made me want to jump right back in for round 2 but realise I need to think this through properly and also find out if there is a reason. I wish they had done icsi first time and at a bit of a loss as to why they didn't as I had asked for it right at the beginning and was told it wasn't necessary.

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Oh Emma. That's cruel. So sorry xx

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Thank you x

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Oh no. Is there anyway hubby can provide a sample and they can do icsi on these eggs?

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I asked this and they said no because there is no way of knowing if there is a sperm inside the eggs and it would result in being too many chromosomes and fail. x

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How awful. Big hugs to you and your OH x

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Oh Emma, I'm so sorry to read this. Take a little time to recover but then do exactly as you suggest and ask as many questions as you can. Thinking of you. Xx

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Thank you x

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Oh Emma how devastating for you! I hope you get some answers to your question as to why they didnt do ICSI in the first place. Look after youself, sending you big hugs!xx

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This is gutting. Very sorry to read this and I am thinking of you xxx

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Sorry hear this, hope you're ok. Thinking about you x

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Hi Emmalou,

I am so sorry to hear this. I totally understand how devastating this is, as I had the same outcome myself. I was 40 yrs at the time. They collected 2 eggs but none fertilised.

No one prepares you for this outcome, all the ups and downs of ivf and then this.

Take care of yourself and take each day as it comes.

Jx

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They just called again to confirm it's a definite 'no'. They told me it's extremely rare and only happens 2-3 times per year. I think this was supposed to make me feel better but actually made me feel worse.

I need some time to adjust to the news and make an appointment to see the consultant and discuss our options. My husband does not want to use a donor egg and to be honest, neither do I but who knows how differently I will feel if there is no other option.

So so devastated.

Thanks for your kind words of support xx

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I think I would have been a lot more open to the idea of donor eggs because we still feel a connection to the baby as it would grow inside us, I'm sure that would make it feel more your "own" however as men aren't really as physically involved in the process as we are they view things differently. OH would never have opted for donor sperm and I'm with him on that one. But it's all down to personal choice, there is no right or wrong way only whichever way works best for you. I wish you much better luck next time however you proceed x

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My caution for donor egg is that the child must always know and the donor waives anonymity so they can be tracked at the age of 18.

I'm sure I would still feel the bond as I'd have grown the baby inside me but it's all so confusing. X

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Xxx

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How devastating for you.

For me, jumping straight to donor eggs would seem hard without trying icsi first. I would be strongly questioning why they said icsi was not necessary... and I would be seeing whether they were willing to discount my next cycle as a result of having ignored a stated wish for icsi...

I'm very sorry you have had such bad luck. 😢

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I will have the conversation and hope for some sympathy from the clinic as I did request it x

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Really sorry to hear this, I too am surprised they did not suggest ICSI for you. Maybe you could raise this at your follow up but in a complaint kind of way? Thinking of you xxxx

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Devastated for you. Thinking of u and ur hubby. Good to hear ur thinking of pulling questions together so that you can be supported to move on to the next step of this journey, as difficult as this journey is we all hope and believe it will be worth it in the end xxx

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So sorry hun. Hope they can give you some answers and propose a good plan for future success going forward. Xxx

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Thank you all for your kind words. I was really hesitant about joining this group for this exact reason but I can't tell you how glad I am that I did and how grateful I am for your support xx

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Sorry to hear this, make sure you book a follow up appointment so you get opportunity to discuss this, ask any questions and see what they recommend as the next step xx

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So sorry to hear this Emma, that really sucks 😢I hope you get some answers xx

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This is so sad.so sorry for you both. Hopefully when you see your consultant you will have all your questions at the ready..that's what i did. I constantly ask about icsi/Ivf.we had two bfns on icsi and no sperm issues so trying Ivf this time. I sometimes wish there was less choice as it all gets so confusing. Take some time and return back fighting xxx

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What a crappy time you're having, I'm sorry. This sucks. I had my ec last week and they got 17 eggs. 3 days later I had two embryos viable for transfer. I count my lucky stars that there were 2 viable but to go from the excitement of 17 eggs to the disappointment of only 2 embryos in 3 days is hard so I, in some way, know how you feel. I'm sending you much love and keeping you in my prayers x

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I am so sorry to read your post. So hard after all the treatment and EC. Thinking of you.

I would suggest getting a list of questions that you have on paper and asking for a follow up consultation. This will help you to get all your questions answered and plans for moving forward. It might help for a really positive conversation and focus.

I am not sure if you are having private or NHS treatment and if this was your first treatment cycle or not.

Be kind to yourself. Have something to look forward too.

Xx

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I just read some of the other posts and you have some concerns re donor eggs and anoinomty. You could look at donor egg treatment abroad. This is the route we have gone down and I would be happy to answer any questions etc. PM me if you would like to.

Xxx

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Thinking of you and wishing you lots of luck and happiness on the future xx

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Awful news Hun.im so sorry xxx

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This happened to me exactly the same 3 eggs no fertilisation. Apparently my eggs were not mature when collected. They said it was very unlucky , only happened In 1 in 200 couples .

The second round they adjusted the meds , did a lot more scans , also did icsi, 5 eggs collected , all matured , 3 fertilised , two were put back in day 3 , I know have my perfect baby girl.

Just because this has happened once , doesn't mean it will happen again , I know this is little comfort, just don't loose faith xx

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This is certainly comfort. Thank you so much for messing me. This whole situation is consuming my life right now trying to make the right decision for the next steps. My husband is adamant he does not want us to use an egg donor so we really need to do what we can to ensure the eggs really are viable if we go to round 2. Thanks again. I will make sure I note this for when we see the consultant next week. x

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I'm sorry for your difficult and unexpected news. Like others have said I would take it up why the clinic didn't do Icsi as you had wanted. I really hope you can get some answers that you deserve and can move forwards with a plan in place. Wishing you the best with everything. X

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Awww EmmaLou, I feel so sad for you. You have the same AMH as me roughly... and we both had the same amount of eggs collected and none fertilised. I was devastated. It took me a fair while to come to terms with it and move to a different path.

I'm sending you lots of hugs and offering an ear if you want to chat. There aren't enough networks for women (and men) to discuss this on making it so hard to comprehend sometimes. Big hugs xx

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Thank you emu. Do you mind me asking what path you chose? Please feel free to private message me. X

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Sorry to here this hunny ❤💋💋

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I'm so sorry 😔 it's so difficult putting your mind and body through this when it's he outcome you don't want ... sending love ❤

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