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I feel so numb I don't know what to do.

Been for early scan today 7+5 weeks and no heartbeat. Have to go for a repeat scan next scan week but I think I've known it's over for a few days coz all my symptoms disappeared.

Can't see forward at the moment I'm so heartbroken x

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MommaBear16

I keep trying to reply and it's not going through 😒 I'm so sorry reading this and I'm sending my love to you. There won't be anything anyone can say at the moment to offer you any comfort at the moment but please know that you can contact me anytime if you would like to talk. Please be kind to yourself right now, take as much time as you need. Sending lots of love I'm so sorry x x x

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helsroo

I'm so sorry to hear this. There's nothing anyone can say or do to make this better, but you've got a whole network of friends here to talk to (or rage at) whenever you need to.

Love to you and your OH. Xx

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Nesfin

Oh darling it breaks my heart to read this, I'm so sorry πŸ˜“πŸ˜“ Similar happened to me last year - first scan no heartbeat, followup good heartbeat, another follow up almost non detectable heartbeat and I was told to go home to miscarry. It was heartbreaking like nothing else. I know you cannot see a way forward now but I promise you there will be a day when you can. Remember that in your darkest moments. I'm here for you if you need me, pm any time. Lots of love and comforting hugs ❀❀❀

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Amanda86

So sorry to hear this. It's absolutely heartbreaking. Sending lots of love your way. Take care and allow yourself lots of time to heal. I know it doesn't feel like it just now and you just feel like your in a dark hole but it does get better with time. Let yourself be sad, angry whatever you need. Everyone here on this forum will be here for you if you need to chat or vent or anything. Take care xxx

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allieb21

So so sorry to read this. God life is absolute crap sometimes! Look after you self, rest and cry! Xxx

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Beebeestar

I'm so sorry! Don't know what else to say. Its devestating news. Keep strong.

I'm so sad for you. Xxx

So sorry to hear this, look after yourself xxx

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MonkAK

I'm so sorry to hear this Hellsbells. Sending you lots of love. Take care of yourself. Xx

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emma-jane-30

Nooooo!!!! Hidden

I can't believe I'm reading this!! We went through our ivf together and I was so chuffed for you that you got your positive! I am so so sorry my lovely!! There is absolutely nothing I can say that will make it better. Apart from if you need to rant or shout then just message me as we have been.

I'm sending you a massive cuddle and I hope you have a nice supportive friends and family around you 😘 Stay strong hunni as hard as it mush be xxxxx

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emmab178

So sorry to read this news. Take care of yourself, big hugs x

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Mantaray75

So sorry. Look after yourself. X

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Jaky76

So sorry to read this... Sending huge hugs... Xxxx

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sipidania

Heartbreaking stuff, so sorry to hear this. Everyone here is here for you if there's anything we can do xx

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72cloud9

So so sorry to hear this Hun, what an awful time for you.sending u hugs xxx

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CountryCat

I am SO sorry that this has happened to you...thinking of you and wishing that life was kinder. 😭

Look after yourself xx

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vic77

This breaks my heart reading this. I am so so sorry. I can't imagine what you are going through. So brave to share on here and I hope some of the comments help you to feel supported. Sending you a massive hug..this journey is such a cruel one especially for you right now xxxx

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Krikri

It pains my heart to read this.... and it is indeed a VERY hard moment. I had the joy of seeing and hearing a very strong heartbeat the first time, but then it stopped a week later. Worst ever day of my life and sooooo heartbroken! I cried and cried .... but you finally manage to get on with life and have other trials, even though it will indeed always be at the back of your mind.

But what I did to help ease the pain, was to do things that I enjoyed. I started running with my dog, practising yoga again and focussing on me. It did help. Maybe these are not your things, but try to find something that you enjoy and most importantly, help your mind think on other things.

I send you virtual hugs!

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Jojones86

I'm so sorry it is so heartbreaking :( Massive hugs xxx I know it won't be much comfort now because you will be devastated but I went through a similar experience earlier in the year and a few weeks on I am feeling a bit brighter. Over time you will feel better. Something like this will always be there but you will learn to laugh at things again, have happy moments and keep on living. Fertility journeys are so hard but one thing I know is that we are all so strong going through all this heartache.

Most importantly - don't be mad at yourself, do some nice things for yourself , allow yourself to cry scream anything you need.

Take care xxxxxxxx

Thank you all so much for your kind supportive words. Still crying this morning as it's still sinking in I think. Being on my own in this journey is hard but knowing I have all your support will help I know it will.

X

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Tugsgirl

It's hard to find any words that could offer you comfort but please know that I am sorry for your loss x

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Kloulou83

I am so so sorry to hear this ☹️ I can't even begin to imagine how you feel. Xx

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G_H_C

So so sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself ok xx

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Se99

I'm so sorry to be reading this, heartbroken for you x

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sanj76

Awww I'm so so sorry to read this news, I wish you all the strength and blessing with your next step. My thoughts are with you and as you know we will ajeaydcsleats been here to help and support you.

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Missy_22

I'm so sorry I know exactly what your going through. You take care xxxx

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Hollyjane-1409

Hope you are okay im in a similar position I went for my first scan today she said I had late implantation and measuring behind also no heartbeat im so devastated just been crying all day! I really hope u get a positive result next weeks! Xxx

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I really feel for you. It's devastating isn't it. I don't know what to do. Everyone keeps telling me to stay positive for the scan next week but I think I've known it's over for a week or so. All my symptoms just vanished last week even tho I think I've been trying to convince myself some are still there. I've cried all day too and can't see that getting any better.

I wish you all the best for your scan next week x

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Hollyjane-1409β€’ in reply to

It's awful I felt most guilty for my partner he was so happy looking at the scan but I don't think he really understood! My heart just broke when she said I was measuring really behind! So devastated I've got a scan next week but I like you also feel like it's not going to be a good result! Hope your okay hopefully we will get there and you have a better result for your next scan xxx

This is heartbreaking to read I'm so sorry for your loss. I also had a mc at the start of the year and it is just heartbreaking and very very sad. Time is a healer and in time you will begin to feel normal even though I'm sure this seems impossible right now. Xxxx

So so sorry to hear such news! My thoughts and prayers are with you x

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DC13

I am so sorry to hear this and we were in exactly the same situation in January. That total feeling of what the hell and having to take all your Meds and go for another scan.

It is such a hard process to go through

The delight of getting a positive result and finally thinking it is your time.

Nothing I can say can make it any easier. I did get some great positivity from my consultant though in our follow up which means I have not given up hope for the future.

There are lots of ladies on here that have gone on successfully.

Thinking of you. PM me any time.

Be gentle on yourself.

Xx

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City74

I am so sorry to read this. It is so devastating going to a scan to be told the worst news. Thinking of you. Take care of yourself the best you can. xx

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Smithha

I'm so so sorry to read this, my heart breaks for you and what your going through :0( Take each moment as it comes and look after yourself. Sending you lots of love xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

So sorry 😩

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Beanme

Oh Hellsbells 36, what an upsetting scan for you. What about HCG levels? Have they tested? Im sending you a big huge bear hug and hoping you'll be good to yourself. Xxxx

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