Ivf de at 40. Guilt.

[christy2222]

Hello i have decided that it is finally time for me to introduce myself properly

My name is Christine, i am in my 40s and to be quite honest this is not the first time i call for a help. Nothing to serious given that i have only dried up ovaries and thats it but still my husband really suffers from my inability to have kids and i feel really guilty that i am here feeling completely fine physically cant give him what he wants..

And on top of that we need to go to the clinic not by avcar but by a plane and spand a huge amount of money on the tickets....

He must be disappointed with me.

Well it is almost new year and everyone is preparing for the celebration and i am just reading you posts here and thinking about the possible future of my family

[Hidden]

Hey missus it is not your fault ok?

And I'm sure your husband does not view it as your issue and would still love you regardless of being able to have children or not.

You are more than a baby maker-you are a person in your own right-please don't let this make you feel bad yourself-I know it's hard sometimes. You remember that ❤️

Would you resent him if his sperm wasn't capable of bringing you a pregnancy? Of course you wouldn't. It's the same for him.

Unfortunately going infertility can cause strong and painful emotions that are hard to cope with-have you considered counselling to help? It's not for everyone but just a thought.

I have PCO and we only found out after ttc 5 years-and not once has my husband held it against. We are in this thing together for better or worse. And so are you and your husband.

Lastly I hope the IVF brings you the little family that your heart is longing for. All the best 💕💕💕💕

[christy2222 in reply to Hidden]

THANK YOU!!!! You actually have made my day, maybe even a week, I know that I will be rereading your reply all over again in some future!! I never thought of it in this way actually.. blaming myself is what i got used to and there was no other thought in my head, i was always like that. but fortunately there are people like you that can actually make you fell all right. I had a convo with my man and he told me how stupid I was. haha

currently we are home after our initial consultation at the clinic, broughht back tons of medicines, it's really nice that our clinic gave us those because reading the titles of some of them made me real scared.. have never saw them on the forums actually..

but anyways, this year will be OUR year! I am pretty sure!

Wishing you the best!!