Infertility due to car accident

[matibell]

Mathilda, 48 y.o.

Years ago my DH and me, we got to a car accident. It happened eventually, nobody is to blame. My husband died on the way to the medical center, and I was taken to the hospital with severe internal organ damage, including my womb. The latter was partially removed. But God.. For the next seven years, I thought Lord cursed and abandoned me. I lost my husband, my ability to give birth. I lost every purpose in life. I tried to move on several times. I have dated some guys, but after I told them my story each of them took off like a shot and hadn't even tried to understand me. I felt like the last person in the world. And I felt so every day and every second for almost 7 years. Till I met a wonderful man two years ago. It was worth the whole world, ladies, to be nonentity for seven years and at the age 48 to meet a loving man. It worth the whole world. Actually, we are married for almost a half year. Maybe it is too fast, but we are running out of time. As you understood, we cannot conceive a child. My husband knows about my issue. We are just trying to find out about other ways to have a baby, all real experience, and stories.

[matibell]

Sorry, I forgot to greet you all. I'm stressed, confused and so tired of this constant struggling. How are you all doing?

[Jenni_D]

Hello Matibell,

Your story is so sad and you are a very strong lady to have got through so much pain and loss. I'm happy for you that you have met someone that gives you the love that you deserve. All those other men that ran off once they heard your story weren't worth your time anyway.

To answer your question have you considered surrogacy? Many couples turn to surrogacy when for various reasons they can't conceive on their own. Right now Ukraine is becoming very popular and for good reason!

[matibell in reply to Jenni_D]

Hey Jenny. Thank you so much for your tenderness and support!

Yeah, screw those dickheads. For those, who's experiencing the same I can tell, that they aren't worth any second of your precious time, ladies!

And thank you for your advice, We've considered adoption in the first place. Surrogacy is quite scary and risky, you know. But we still want to have our genetic baby. That's why I'm trying to find out more about surrogacy. I think it's too early for us to choose the clinic. And maybe we'd like to visit some centers in the UK firstly. But you seem to be familiar with surrogacy in general. Can you tell me more about it, especially about all the risks and shades?

[Jenni_D in reply to matibell]

I suggest the best thing for you to do is to get in touch with a clinic, some of them offer skype conferences so you don't need to go all the way to Kiev just to get the info you need.

Although it's not as known as other clinics outside of Kiev, I would recommend ilaya, they are very professional and offer many services not just fertility treatments.

[Jaky76]

So sorry to read what you have been through and losing your husband and all your injuries, but very happy to read you met and married a lovely man. Good luck with whichever route you take, lots of love xxx

[matibell in reply to Jaky76]

Thank you so much for your kindness and support. You words just make it easier, you know. I've read through your story. How are you doing hun?

[Jaky76 in reply to matibell]

Hi well you been through so much and now for you too have lots of positive things happen, and it has started with finding and marrying a lovely man. I'm OK thanks, currently on medication awaiting frozen embryo..I'm single doing this so when highs and low no partner to share with, but that's how it is, got some lovely friends and family supporting me. Wishing you all the best xxx

[72cloud9]

My gosh, what strength u have to have overcome such an awful thing happening in your life.so happy u have found someone to help heal those wounds.sounds like surrogacy would be your best option but really the professionals are the best to speak to. There is bound to be someone on here that is in similar situation who can advise u what they did ...wish u all the luck in the world xxx

[matibell in reply to 72cloud9]

Thank you, thank you for your words and such warmth! My husband and I have considered going for adoption because surrogacy is a bit risky and completely unknown. But we want to have our genetic baby, so I'm looking for such people, you are talking about and their stories. Thank you so much for you support!

[TeapartyAlice]

Oh god! What a horrible accident. How are you doing now? It's s sorry t hear that you cant have kids, but in 2016 there are a lot of ways to have a child. Have you considered surrogacy? It may help. I know a lot of people are skeptical about that, nevertheless it's proven to be effective. But it has its own flaws, just ask what you need, I hope I can provide answer.

[AmyC71]

Golly! Thats so sad to hear. I can't have kids too, so me and my HB are considering surrogacy. I cant have kids because of other reasons, but i guess we can have similar solution, can you PM me if you will find out smth that can help us deal with that?

[lovewinspain]

Hi matibell, it was a sad story you went through n I m sorry to know it...but I appreciate your confidence n I m glad that you got someone who loves u more unconditionally...regarding baby, surrogacy would b a good idea as others suggested....