Who can be accepted into ivf?

[alexa258]

Hi all! I have been meaning to ask this for a month already, but… does ivf treatment hurt a lot? I am as you can tell new to this world and haven’t had the experience at all. My husband says that it is not going to be that painful, that I will be 100% sedated and all but I will undergo the surgery right? And if it is surgery I can tell that it will hurt.. although when I tell that to my dh he says that I am a bit stupid and should go and read about this fertility treatment a bit more than to bother him with my fears.

And I have this question, do I have to have some condition to be accepted into the tx? Or they accept everyone? I am opting for ivf on donor’s eggs but we live in Strasburg and here it is impossible to do. So my question will be is there any difference in treating the patients if they are foreigners in the clinic?

And how to even find the clinic to begin with??

Okay, I think that I will stop here and will wait for some replies.

Thank you.

[alexa258]

Thank you. That’s what I thought. I am too scared of going for it but my dh says that there is no other choice… No. I can get pregnant and I have been through an abortion 3 years ago that’s the issue.. My husband says that he wants a beautiful heir, he says that his family will not accept a child that does not correspond to their picture of the ideal grandchild. That’s why I am opting for ivf tx.

So I do not have to worry that they will decline my candidature to get the donor’s egg? But how do I find the clinic?

[alexa258]

Hi. Thank you for replying me! What are those websites are? Can you share the link to one of them if you have?

Sure I will be glad to receive a piece of advice from someone with the experience.

[alexa258]

Thank you! So I can choose the donor in the particular fertility centers? Do you know where they provide with such an option? Maybe in US?

[alexa258]

But I love him and I would do everything what he wants.. No, I did the abortion at the time when I was not ready ti become a mother.. please do not assume that my hubby is some kind of a devil or something. I know that he loves me the way I am and I completely understand his desire to have beautiful kids. This is something I can’t give to him so I must undergo the tx.

[fertilverra]

Girls I know that this is something you wouldn’t want to accept but I beg you to do so. Because we have to support her because we are the only ones who can give it to her. I think that she is opting for it for a reason and to tell her that her husband is evil is not something what she needs. I think that we should accept everything and everyone. If it is her own decision than why not to give her an advice or two. We can help her make her ivf tx easier and not that scary. So she will be thankful to get all of the support we offer her.

[alexa258 in reply to fertilverra]

Thank you, but I myself doubt whether it is a good idea. My hubby I know he wishes the best to me but he says that we should have a son till 2018 and I basically do not have time to think about it.. I do not even know how it is even possible to command the clinic to get me a boy..

[fertilverra in reply to alexa258]

In my clinic we did the pgd test to know the gender of our babies. We said that we want twins and two boys. And voila!

I am sorry but this is not something I would tolerate, it was first of all my initiative to go for it, even though I had nothing to do with the tx but my dh. I think that he is hurrying too much. Can I ask you about your age, honey?

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Top 10 Crappy Things They Don't Tell You About IVF | Mama Deux / Two Mamas

Have a look on Google for this blog or on my profile.

You husband has no idea honey, he never will💕💕💕💕

[alexa258 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for sharing! That will definitely be helpful to me. Because I can't find myself a place I am too worried and scared.

Of course he won't even know how hard it will be for me but the thing is he is the only one who wants me to go for ivf tx... I do not..

[Hidden in reply to alexa258]

Hon.

If you don't want to don't. It's the worst thing I've ever been through. Wouldn't wish it on worst enemy.

You both need to really want it and be there for one another 100%

It's just too hard otherwise

[alexa258]

Okay, thanks. I have been told that there are numerous sites where I can get more info on the clinic to choose so I guess I will look there and live US as a reserved option. But what are those services you are talking about? Can you be more precise on what I will have to look for when looking for the clinic?

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It is your body going through it and if you are not comfortable with any of it - don't do it. It is your choice too x

[Datak]

I think there needs to be a genetic reality check here .... no one can guarante beauty. What happens if the child 'disappoints'? I recognise the need to support everyone here but it would be remiss of us to not also point out the likely abusive nature if your relationship. This very much sounds like coercive, controlling behaviour .... there is help and support out there for you. You are not alone and should not feel like this is a reasonable request - it isn't. Fertility should not/can not be a pawn in your relationship, there are welfare of the child issues here you have to take into account. I reccomend strongly counselling is needed for you both before you start this journey