I am 45 years old. I have been through two failed IUIs and two failed IVFs. One of the failed IVFs (2nd one) was with an egg donor (aborad) and it was a day 3 frozen embryo transfer (my first failed IVF was with my own egg and was a day 3 transfer). I am led to believe that both were good quality embryos. We are not sure why it failed on both occassions suffice to day that on the first IVF with my own egg, it could have been the egg quality given my age. However when the egg donor transfer failed, I took it really bad. Even though I had high hopes with my own egg because the embryo was good quality, I was really taken back when the egg donor transfer did not implant. Everything else seemed to tick the box. My follice size was around 20mm, my endrometrium lining a few days just before transfer was 11mm. Both failed IVFs were on a natural cycle - even though I had a surge on the egg donor cycle, the only medication I was given was the trigger shot to ensure ovulation would happen (even though it would have happened) anyway and also prostegrone and aspirin -post transfer. However I started to bleed 9 days post transfer (which would have been the day of my period on a normal natural cycle). I then soon got my period. I was devasted. I really thought this time it would work. Anyway, I have 3 frozen embryo's and we will try again. I am again tyring natural cycle but the clinic I am with, have been trying to push me to have HRT medication and all the rest, which basically will put me on a temporay menopause . They have infomed me it will increase my chances even though they think it was the egg / sperm quality that could have been the reason why it did not implant. For me this poses, several questions - how do i know the other embryos, will not have the same problem ? does anyone else suggest temporary menopause and how would it increase my chances of implanatation??
I really am clinging on to anything to be frank right now but I have to think of the money - each scan I have is £150 and I really want to make sure I am on the right path
Look forward to any help and sharing any other similar experiences?