Hello

[Emmylou212]

Hi everyone. I am new to all this. Me and my husband are hoping to start Ivf in dec privately once I have lowered my bmi.

I am finding it all really hard to accept and feel at breaking point.

I am not even sure I want to go through with this.

Very stressed xx

[Lynnr54]

Hi Emmylou212,

Welcome to the forum. It's a difficult time isn't it trying to get your head around what's going on and accept that you need IVF. Lots of ladies in here have been through exactly the same thing and you'll find that there are always people willing to answer any questions you have.

Good luck with your journey!

[Daisy14]

I remember feeling like that, I in my first cycle of IVF and still keep thinking 'I can't go through with this'. All you can do is take one day at a time for what it is. Some days are exciting, some are crappy and at times it all feels grossly unfair. There are lots of lovely people here to ask and empathise too.

Good luck to you xx

[kirdrew]

I remember initially feeling really angry and how unfair it was I had to go down this road especially as everyone around me seemed to get pregnant with ease. Family and friends try to help but there comments wound me up.

I think it is having to accept that this is your cards that have been dealt and the ivf have given you a direction and hope. I wasn't that comfortable with ivf for a number of reasons but as I said it does provide hope.

You do need an emotional support system if possible and learn to focus on each stage individually and not the whole process.

Take care xxxx

[WeeMrsH]

Hi honey, as the other ladies have said these feelings are completely normal- you are NOT ALONE! xx

Have you thought about counselling? I've not had this per se but I did have some Cognitive Behavioural Therapy- referred by my GP. It teaches you techniques and coping mechanisms for dealing with your hopelessness and stress. It isn't particular to infertility but it does help you better handle your feelings and take back (or feel like you have) control of your emotions and behaviours. It really helped me. Lots of love xx