Depressed

[Babydust30]

Hi,

I have not had periods for 1 and a half years. I have been to the doctors, they referred me to a local gynaecologist who gave me tablets to induce a period but that didn't work. They decided to refer me to a gynaecologist at the hospital, so many test I have been thru and still got to go thru more. He has given me tablets to make me have a fake period so I can have a HSG examination. I feel as tho I have no support. Me and my husband have been trying for a long time to have a baby, I don't feel like a women. All my friends and family are having babies and I feel so upset hearing it when I should be happy for them.

[Hopeful1982]

Hello Indian-30,

I am sorry to hear you're having such a difficult time. When you're trying to conceive and it doesn't go as planned it can feel very stressful and incredibly isolating. It's also difficult when it feels like everyone around you is falling pregnant at the drop of a hat while you're stuck in limbo!

You're doing the right thing by being referred to the gynaecologist for tests. Once you know what's happening it's much easier to have a plan in place to move forward. This site is also a great place for support.

Good luck! I hope everything goes well for you x

[Babydust30 in reply to Hopeful1982]

Thank you for the message. It's good I joined this site, maybe I may not feel alone knowing that many people are going thru the same.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Indian-30. So sorry to read that you are feeling so down at the moment. This is quite understandable when you have been trying for a baby for so long. However, now that you have been referred, hopefully they will be able to get to the bottom of what’s the matter and decide on the correct treatment for you. Once you do get to the treatment stage, perhaps you would benefit from a session of counselling, so that you can talk over your fears and worries. The clinic/hospital should be able to arrange this for you. There may be a support group near to you as well, or attached to the hospital. If you have a look at our website infertilitynetworkuk.com you will be able to access a list of support groups to look at. It’s never easy either, when it seems as if everyone around you are having babies, we can’t do anything about that I’m afraid, but maybe you could keep your distance from them just until you feel more able to cope. I do wish you both well with all of this, and let’s hope you don’t have to wait too long to get sorted out. Diane