Can't stop crying !!!

[Skinead]

My sister just told me she 12 weeks pregnant with her 4th child ! God this is hard, how to be happy for someone you love but all u think about is urself !!! Fed up on this waiting and waiting, waiting for thyroid to come down so we can start treatment, another 3 weeks !

Someone give me advice on how to cope with this please !

Thank tou

[hopes_dreams]

I'm not sure I can find anything to say other than its OK to feel like its unfair sometimes and that you just need a good cry. When you've had the opportunity for a good cry try to think of the good things in your life at the moment, as small or as big as you like. Sending a big hug.

[Skinead in reply to hopes_dreams]

Thank you, I've a lot good things and an amazing wonderful husband x

[hopes_dreams in reply to Skinead]

That's great. I've not had family pregnancy announcements but all but one of my close friends is pregnant or has babies/children so in time we've been TTC there's been numerous pregnancy announcements. It doesn't get easier I just find ways to deal with it in private and make the most of the good things in my/our life including spending time with my very supportive friends and their lovely babies x

[Hidden]

Skinead I've been where you are and I know just how much it hurts when my sister conceived whilst we were having difficulties. Literally a few months after me and hubby started ttc my sister also ttc fell pregnant whilst happy for her I felt heartbroken it wasn't us. Seeing preg pics of her (she lives in Canada) was very hard and I felt so broken by it and couldn't believe it wasn't happening for us. It was like a bad dream. Hard for my mum too coz she could see how hurt it made me. Not my sisters fault just vile situation that we are in. When my niece was born And I saw pictures of her it didn't hurt anymore aunty love took over . she's now coming up 2. A right character lol! It will get easier I promise. Don't feel like a bad person for being upset by it I used to feel like that when my sis was preg and jealous too. We all have bad days where it feels too much I've have one hell of a bad day today. Like you I've cried it out coz it's better out than in. 2morro is a new day and hopefully we will feel a wee bit better. Give yourself a break most of the time you do well it's such a cruel unfair thing for any woman to go through. Just getting up is doing good! It'll be worth it Hun once you get that BFP. Hope you get some good news about your thyroid. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. You deserve some good news. Hope you feel better soon xxxx

[dorwyl]

So sorry to hear of your situation, it's all so unfair and horrible. I think you'll find it easier if you allow yourself a good cry, without feeling bad about it and don't feel guilty about feeling jealous, resentful, etc. Having those negative feelings and thoughts are a totally natural response and don't make you a bad person - you're a good person coping with a bad situation as best you can. Hope things improve for you soon.

[Wuezy]

My husband and myself are both only children. We will never be an aunt or uncle to anybody and if we dont manage to have children our parents will never be grand-parents. I know this is difficult for you, as it has been for me when friends have announced their pregnancies, but maybe you could take something positive from being an auntie again and having an extended family with lots of children?

[Jen364]

That is such a hard situation to be in and it's ok to think about yourself. It's so hard when people around us announce pregnancies, especially family. My sister started TTC at the same time as me and she now has a 17 month old. It's really really hard, I know. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to be upset. I'm so sorry your having a hard time, I really hope you get good news soon x