Feeling horribly guilty for not enjoying my 3rd trimester 😣💕🙈

[minnesota_girl]

Has anyone else felt a terrible guilt for complaining about the onslaught of discomfort and pain that is the 3rd trimester when you feel so incredibly grateful to have the chance to be here at all after all the pain, trauma and heartache to get here??I feel bad for even complaining but in the last week (I'm 33 weeks now) my pregnancy has turned from relatively easy to being super uncomfortable and painful - insomnia, intense tailbone pain, acid reflux with every bite, swallow and drink, inability to breathe, swelling, tiredness and rhinitis all playing up at the same time and I'm so hot to boot!

But I feel so horrible about complaining at all 😔😔😔😔

[Purpledoggy]

The way I looked/look at it is we go through so much to get pregnant, why do we then have to suffer pregnancy in silence? As if we aren’t allowed to feel crappy? We deserve everything we get because we asked for it? Absolutely not! Being pregnant is absolutely rubbish at times. Yes, complaining to someone who can’t get pregnant is really insensitive, but feel free to complain to anyone else who’ll listen 😂 Late pregnancy is hard-the insomnia, backache, piles, pelvic pain etc etc. Going through fertility treatment 8 months earlier doesn’t make those things any more pleasant. Please don’t feel bad for complaining. Once you get pregnant you should be able to have exactly the same experience as anyone who got pregnant easily. Xx

[Jonesy84]

Hi lovely, I totally get the feeling of feeling so lucky to be in this position vs being scared and ungrateful for complaining about anything pregnancy or baby related.

Please don’t be hard on yourself. We are so blessed to be in this position but this doesn’t stop us from being human. You have a lot going on so having a whinge or a cry or a shout about how rubbish you are feeling is normal and fine.

My guilt started more when baby was here. I was sooooo exhausted and didn’t let my emotions out as I felt so blessed to have this beautiful blessing so felt I wasn’t allowed to say certain things. In the end I had a chat with myself and allowed myself to be true with how I was feeling which made me feel good and let my husband know how I was feeling too.

Not too long now lovely….all the best xxx

[Asha82]

Hi! Don't be hard on yourself I know that if I make it to that stage I will also complain because like you said everything hurts can't sleep etc that's just normal feelings, I remember when I was pregnant with my 2 adult kids I always complained in the first trimester, your doing a great job, sending big hugs your way❤️xx

[Eloquentia]

Hi! In third trimester too (39 weeks) and going through the same symptoms, though the acid reflux and breathing have gotten a bit better in the past couple of weeks since baby's head engaged, so a little reprieve to look forward to..You definitely shouldn't feel bad about complaining! Verbalising is our way of processing emotions and it is totally normal to have many of those in the third trimester. We also need the emotional support and understanding of those around us and the best way to get it is to ask for it. Hang in there, not long now!

[Shirazlover2013]

Oh my gosh yes me too! I’m 33 weeks and feeling very rough now. I’ve been very careful who I complain to as I am surrounded by friends who haven’t been able to have their rainbow baby. But you have to let it out somewhere! I have always told my other friends it’s ok to feel incredibly lucky but need to complain at the same time, those feelings are not mutually exclusive. We’re on the home stretch now and I’m trying to make the most of the nice bits as I know this will be my last pregnancy. Xx