Im feeling really sad and lonely and not sure what to do. I have had period like pains pretty much my whole pregnancy so far, but today has been a lot more intense and I had like stitch across my stomach for half the day. This evening I have got some blood. I currently have covid and have been coughing a lot. I’m so worried, I have previously had 7 miscarriages and this is an ivf pregnancy. I am on lots of drugs to try prevent miscarriage again, but it all just feels so familiar. I’ve been really struggling with believing this could possibly turn out ok as it is. I have already had two scans and my last one almost two weeks ago was fine. I’m not going to able to go for one tomorrow as i’m still positive and hoping I can on Thursday. I don’t really know what I want from this post, I just feel so scared!
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Im really sorry you are struggling at the moment. The covid alone is miserable but bleeding is the worst. I know that when I had bleeding in my first trimester this wasn’t hugely helpful because my previous experiences of bleeding were always of miscarriage but it isn’t always the end, especially if it stops or doesn’t get heavier.
It might be related to the coughing? Esp with all the hormones and the pressure on your cervix from coughing etc.
The feeling it might not be ok I don’t think goes away (it hasn’t for me) but it sounds like you are doing what you can and keeping my fingers crossed you are covid free by Thursday for a scan.
Thank you, this really is a tough journey. We’ve been doing this for 9 years now, but this is our first IVF and my first time on all of this drugs. I just know I can’t go on after this, the drugs haven’t agreed with me at all. So I just have to keep praying for now that this turns out ok. I have my first session online with a fertility counsellor today, so hopefully that will help.
I know it’s way easier said than done but please try not to worry too much. It could be a haematoma (I had bleeding with this pregnant I’m 20 weeks and my last pregnancy my little girl is now 4) both times I bled where due to haematomas. Rest up today lots of fluids call the early pregnancy unit and hopefully they can get you in tomorrow.
thank you for your advise. I’ve had no more blood today and this cramps are so much better. And my covid test is a lot lighter, so hopefully I should be clear for my private scan on Thursday.
I had counselling with a fertility counsellor provided by my ivf clinic clinic too and she was the perfect fit and the kindest most empathic lady. She’s helped me a lot and I’m feeling like I’m not going crazy and my feelings are valid now.
Your feelings are totally valid because you've seen that things can not be ok and right now it's so hard to trust that it's anything but bad news. I get it, I'm 20 weeks and I'm still nervous this week simply because my baby girl was moving less last week at my scan. My mind just gets so carried away.
What I will say is that I had cramping up til 8 weeks and also I had some light bleeding/spotting between 8 and 9 weeks and I went and had a scan and they said that it's common to get bleeding at this time because the placenta is starting to attach. I felt so instantly relieved because they gave me another valid reason for bleeding. I also had a small hemotoma and they said to expect I might have some light spotting when it comes through again.
With covid as well it's a lot to have on right now. I did a lot of distracting myself during this time, I watched a lot of TV and wasn't immensely productive at work. We just have to get through these days xx
I wish you all the best and I hope you can get to your scan Thurs so you can hopefully get some reassuring answers 💕
thank you for your reply, it has reassured me a bit. I wish the cramps and random bleeding would stop, would be a lot easier. My covid test is clear, so I can go to my scan tomorrow. At least then I’ll know where I’m at for the best two weeks until my next scan. I am working with a miscarriage clinic, but they are unfortunately two hours away. So I’ve decide to do my scans private as I have one 5 mins from my house. Husband can’t take a whole day off every two weeks and I don’t want to go to them without him. So I just go to my midwife appointment there at 16 weeks, where I’ll get signed off and all my drugs are finished. And I’ve got my first midwife appointment where I’ll be having the babies next week. I think I just can’t believe it’s real, I want to stop just waiting for something to go wrong and enjoy it. It doesn’t help as I haven’t worked through this whole process, as I’m a long haul flight attendant. So way too much time to think. I will be starting work in the office in June, so hopefully that will help.
Thank you for your advice and I’m sorry you are finding it hard too. It really is a difficult process x
thank you, we have two little wrigglers. Heartbeats perfect and perfect size for both of them. It feels like an actual miracle. Thank you for asking ❤️❤️
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