Trying again after miscarriage

[Mai94]

Hi ladies, thank you so much for your support over the last few weeks.

First FET pregnancy resulted in miscarriage, as this is my second miscarriage (first natural conception) we have now been referred for tests which I’ve been told can take up to 8 weeks for results meaning out next transfer won’t be for a few months.

I don’t know whether to try naturally in this time, I’m torn between worrying that if I conceived naturally I’d miscarry again! I wonder if the quality of my eggs/ a potential embryo may be poor having relaxed a little post egg collection and things and with having pco! Also just really unsure how I feel a about actually trying, only miscarried 9 days ago and not wanted to BD at all, Husband is really understanding! It was an early miscarriage at 5 weeks all very quick abs physically I feel totally fine.

In the back of my mind behind all of this is the worry of missing an opportunity and what if this was “the month”!

I know there’s no answer as such just wondering I guess how others in similar situations felt x

[Loraine7]

Hi honey. Sorry for this late reply of mine. I'm so sorry to hear the situation you've found yourself in. I'm sorry you first FET ended up with mc -must be a painful experience. Anyway, you should be kind to yourself. And if you feel like you need just rest and nothing else - then do it! Let your mind and body 'recover' if it's ok to say so. I want to share my personal story with you. Years ago I was dx on severe heart disease. Meaning I've got some perfect eggs. Dh's swimmers are OK too. But all we could is use them through IVF in surrogacy. This way we got our first ever child into the family (passed the procedure in Kyiv). Now we're back for a sibling for him. The route is the same. I used to blame myself if not to say worse. I blamed my weak heart restricting me from carrying the baby myself. I used to hate everyone saying ''Adopt''..because of the problems in my head. Now only I understand my babies need a healthy mom to take care of them. So he best thing you can do is keeping sane and optimistic. Your rainbow's ahead, hugs.