Failed first cycle

[Queenr]

Morning all,

I have had a failed first cycle as I’ve tested again on otd and it was negative. I have been asked to stop the progesterone and meet with them next week for a review.

Any ideas about whether we should go again so soon or just wait a few months before we try again?

Thanks just feeling defeated as I felt this would be it for me. It is hard when you feel your own body is rejecting something you’ve wanted for years. Is this because I had too much sugar this month? Or is it because I didn’t exercise that much or was it cause my job was too stressful. It’s all a bit difficult right now.

Ahh trying to stay calm. Xxx

[JoyfulStar]

Oh so so sorry to hear this 😢 I was hoping it will be positive. Please don’t blame yourself. It is an extremely difficult journey full of disappointment

It is a very personal decision on whether to go again as there are many factors- emotional well-being, finances, waiting lists, future plans etc.

I personally always knew IVF working first time was a long shot so I was ready to go again quite quickly but did not rush into a decision as I had to consider all the factors I just mentioned above.

I also spent some time researching clinics attending online webinars etc.

They say IVF success increases with the more rounds you do but I am also aware people who have done 6 rounds and more with no success. 😞 So you have to decide what works for you!

Sometimes I am amazed at how we keep going with the odds stacked up so much against us. I know it is hope and that strong desire to be mums but how many times do we allow our hearts to rule our heads? 🙃

Once again, I am so so gutted it did not work for you 💔

Take some time to process and grieve; you don’t have to decide straightaway.

[Queenr in reply to JoyfulStar]

Thankyou for reaching out. I’m just thinking should I spend the next three months or so focussing on losing the weight I’ve gained during this cycle and looking at this Mediterranean diet or should I rush and try again? I just want to get pregnant as quickly as possible but I know the best decision would be to wait it out and then try. I’m going to see what the consultant says but it’s just so financially draining! Xx

[JoyfulStar in reply to Queenr]

You’re very welcome. They say age is the biggest determining factor in IVF but other things such as your mental well-being play a role.

Why don’t you speak to the hospital about their thoughts re; weight diet etc. Have they offered you a post cycle consultation?

All the best dear x

[Queenr in reply to JoyfulStar]

Evening hun,

Yeah I’ve got an appointment with them next week Tuesday. What’s happening with you? How are you?

Love xxxxx

[JoyfulStar in reply to Queenr]

I am doing quite well thanks for asking. Enjoying my brief respite this month before 3rd and final ivf cycle next month. I have a baseline scan on the 19th booked. That will be the catalyst for what happens next.

Also have other things occupying my mind at the mo. We will be moving house so that is another potential stress factor but I am determined to not panic or get too stressed 😩 😅

Good luck with your appointment next Tuesday! ❤️

[Queenr in reply to JoyfulStar]

I thinking doing 3 cycles and collecting as much embryos possible is a good idea! Did your clinic give you a deal to do this? My clinic is charging me over £7000 for one cycle and so having another two isn’t really something we can afford. I’ve thought to do the frozen transfer and then if that fails that’s it. Thanks hun! Good luck with yours too!

❤️❤️❤️

[JoyfulStar in reply to Queenr]

Thanks dear.

Where are you based? Lots of clinics in London offer discounts for multi cycle packages. This is the only way I could afford a 3 cycle package. I can send you a private message with details. Please note that any advertised costs are just base costs and there are always extras for medication, tests, add ons etc!

I have paid up to 15k for a 3cycle package- I have not totted everything up but that is my guesstimate. To be fair, I am paying for ICSI and on quite high doses of Gonal F which is like £450 a box 😒

PM me if you want more details.

[Loraine7]

All my positive thoughts going your way, hun. I'm sorry you've got it failed. You're currently trying to recollect all the negatives which could have had impact on the outcomes. And this is natural. I guess this is what we all do when facing bfn. My story goes like following. Yrs ago my sweet dr diagnosed me on severe heart disease. He prohibited me to even think about pregnancy as it was gonna kill me. Sounds disasterous, doesn't it. Anyways, I had/have some perfect eggs. Dh's swimmers are good enough to deal with too. But we had to turn to surrogacy and use the precious 'material' there only to get our baby#1. BTW, Ukraine turned out to be really a great destination for this purpose. Son we came back for the sibling. What I want to say is that nature plays some really bad tricks on us. And nothing is left but find ways to get through infertility by different means. I'm hoping you'll get the best of the results in a meanwhile. And, I believe your dr knows better when's the optimal time to try again. Wishing you the best of luck!