My daughter has basically never got potty training. We did initial training when I thought she was ready at 2yrs & 9months old, we thought initially that she understood but just kept getting distracted. Then she started preschool and it seemed to get worse so I took her to the doctor's who agreed to send her for scans. They all came back as ok for bladder kidney etc.
Then I didn't get any further we went on holiday with family and we went back to nappies as my mum pointed out that we were all me and my daughter and hubby exhausted from the constant accidents. My daughter seemed happier and didn't ask for knickers or why she was in nappies and other kids at preschool weren't. Preschool were supportive but in hindsight I think I should of pushed for referral to incontinence nurse then.
So we stayed in nappies for about 8 months then tried potty training again. Just after she had turned 4. We still had all same issues and still do agree just turned 5.
We finally got referral to incontinence nurse but that's now delayed with lock down.
Issues include refusing to go to toilet to try for wee, getting off quickly so not really trying, wetting in small or large amounts and hiding and lies about being wet, has battle to take off nappy in the morning which is always full. Also regularly has poo accidents.
We've been trying to make sure she has drinks more regularly now we're stuck in, as at school she would go with full bottle and come home with full bottle. Tried setting her challenge to drink and school tried remind her but didn't make much difference. This just seems to have increased the accidents but I know that drinking more is important so we will keep this up.
Today I found her soaking wet and soar I just want to give up put her in nappies. Generally I'm goodat preserving but I think I'm getting to the end of my tether. So I'm looking anyone else experiences, or suggestions or insight.