5 year old girl - struggling to stay dry at night

[MumsterT]

My little one was potty trained and dry in the day by 18 months however I cannot get her dry at night, I followed my mums advice of ' wait until nappies dry at night' but this never came we have tried unsuccessfully since age 3 to transition, I think at the longest we managed just under 2 weeks of dryness around several Months ago. Now I getting exasperated, sick of washing duvets, really don't want nappies anymore but had to at times just to stop laundry. Used pyjama pants and bed mats. I do try and get her to drink more water through the day but at times this has been hard to do.

I feel awful that I am perhaps making her this way and not doing enough to help. I have yet to go a doctor but feel maybe I should.

Daughter is 6 next month, I feel so downhearted when my friend is talking about her 2year old being dry for 3 weeks at night.

[LouiseD2100]

It's not your fault or your daughter's. You could see the doctor but they are not concerned about bed wetting for a least a couple more years. My son it nearly 9 and we saw a continence nurse earlier in the year as he still wets at night. We have been keeping a drinks chart but he struggles to drink. We were advised to get him to drink 250ml at a time to increase size of bladder. So bored of nappies too. His sister is 5 and she is dry.

[MumsterT in reply to LouiseD2100]

Thank you - may try the water

[77mummy]

It is not your fault or your daughters. It is to do with a hormone that hasn't developed yet. My son who is 9 (10 in Jan) is still wet, and his younger brother is dry. We have tried different medication, it was only last yr our GP referred us to a consultant as they do not see bed wetting as an issue until they are 7/8. Have you tried a bed wetting alarm? My biggest concern for my boy is the week long residential he is going on next July with school! He has yet to have friends over for a sleep over or go to one because of the bed wetting. I feel your pain and frustration but it's something that will take time and as hard as it is, we just need to go with it. Yes, the constant washing is a nightmare, but the alarm has helped. It doesn't always wake him, but if we hear it at least we can go in and wake him before he is soaked. Good luck x

[MumsterT in reply to 77mummy]

Thank you for replying - I am just looking at alarms wasn't sure if it would be worth it, but I also booked the docs as I read somewhere I should seek that from age 5???... now I am thinking that they will probably tell me not an issue

[SallyandPaul]

I can only agree with the previous two comments. I have had three boys and 48 foster children. I now have an eight year old daughter and realise that they are all different and it is definitely to do with hormones. I tried her in the summer holidays for a few days from the age of five but she didn't manage until she was seven, others take longer. She certainly didn't have a dry nappy either. I would go back to nappies even though they're a pain. Just give yourselves a break and forget about it for a while. Take care x

[MumsterT in reply to SallyandPaul]

Thank you and I appreciate it - I just never know what the best is - I hadn't really worried but it's when I hear all the good stories about how early children stayed dry - it's just I was never sure if I was holding her back as a few times she wee's in the nappy cos she knows it's there as well

[MumsterT]

I have booked in for the doctor with her - so do you think they are likely to just tell me to get over it lol