Nocturnal eneuresis

[Donnabetts82]

Hi all. My daughter is 6 and still wet through the night. Health visitor performed a bladder scan and all was well. She suggested going without a pullup and we duly did but shed wet the bed, the bed and pants were often dry by morning and her skin started to get sore so she asked to get her pullups back and i thought this was the best idea.HV suggested an eneuresis alarm but my husband isnt keen as he had used one as an infant and it only ever woke the household up and never him and they are quite pricey to have to buy one and have it not work so they prescribed desmopressin,3 weeks in, no dry nights and she started having headaches and nausea daily so we stopped them. She got chickenpox soon after so im unsure if it was the meds or the virus making her feel unwell.

Have any others been in this situation amd can offer advice as to what i should do/try next? Id be very grateful!

Thanks

[Noodle6]

HI. Sorry you have this situation and your daughter has the uncomfortable nights ... I can only tell you my story, My son was NEVER dry from being a baby and although we tried wearing pants around the age of 6 and taking him to the loo in the night, it never worked, he got soaked and so did the bed, duvet and all, so we went back to pull-ups. We were referred to hospital and because he also wet during the day occasionally they weren't keen for him to use an alarm. They said they wanted to sort daytimes out first before trying to sort nights. Is your daughter dry in the day? Anyway, we also were offered desmopressin as he was going on a Cubs camp for 2 nights, but alas this didn't work for him and they said it either works for you or it doesn't...so that was the end of desmopressin for us. The daytimes GRADUALLY got better, accidents fewer and far between. He was also on Movicol as had soiling issues at times which they said would mean the bladder had pressure on it and so had to sort the bowels out before the bladder ! Finally as he grew up things improved, with the help of Movicol. We didn't try the alarm until he was 10 years old! The hospital kept saying it can do more harm than good if they are not ready for it. But when we finally did, I was amazed, and still am to this day. Within about 2 weeks he was dry throughout the night and has been ever since. ( he is 12 now) Not one accident! We were so amazed and grateful it had worked. So from my experience I would definitely recommend an alarm but only when your doctor/specialist recommends that your daughter is ready for one. Part of me wishes we had tried sooner, but then if it had been too early for him we might not be in the position we are now. Yes, they are expensive, but when I worked out how much we spent on pullups, sometimes more than one a night...it would be worth it in the long run. I researched the different types and went for a Malem one that had different alarm sounds that would play in random order as he is a very heavy sleeper and I didn't' want to risk him getting used to one sound and it not waking him. I hope you get good advice and your daughter is soon dry, I really understand what pressure it puts on all the family. ( And yes the alarm sound was loud but my younger son slept through it and so did my husband. It woke my son wearing it and he switched it off very soon so it only sounded out for a short time by which time I had heard and gone to him also. I also slept on the floor initially in his room so I could be there immediately to ensure he woke properly and switched it off himself) Good Luck!

[Donnabetts82 in reply to Noodle6]

Thanku

[SallyandPaul]

I'm surprised that no one has suggested that she simply might not be ready. We tried for a few nights in the school holidays until our daughter was seven when her body was finally ready. It can take longer. I suggest that you take the pressure off every one and go back to pull ups,enjoy life and chill !! Take. Care x

[Donnabetts82 in reply to SallyandPaul]

Thanku for your help x

[Jfraser1]

I personally don’t think 6 is that old to be wet through the night. My son is almost 7 and I know a few children his age are going through the same thing - the ones that will admit it!

We tried the alarm 6 months ago, I bought it from amazon for around £20. I never thought it would work as my son is a v deep sleeper and produced a lot of wee overnight. It did work though, and he was 100% dry within a month. Don’t stress about it, your daughter may just get it in her own time but it might be worth trying the alarm in the school holidays perhaps? The one I had vibrated as well as alarmed wich helped wake him - I know loads of people that have had great success with it. Good luck x

[Donnabetts82 in reply to Jfraser1]

Thanku

[MrsSquirrel]

6 is still little - don't worry. Our DS is 8 and has accidents often in the day and 1 x at night.

What we find helps is - buzzer... but DS hated it (sensitive to noise), we borrowed it from child continence service - as you say they are costly.

Continence nurses have now lent us a buzzer which vibrates so we are going to try.

We lift usually at about 10pm - not recommended by the docs as a solution as child usually not waking up - but it does save on washing. We use pull ups as and when needed - when he was wet 2 x a night at 6 and 7 we went to pull ups as it was too much for us all.

I think he did come to reply on pull ups...so where possible we try to do without these days.

He finally had a friend to sleep over this weekend, and didn't wet the bed! It was a fluke but a nice coincidence not to have to go in to them at 2am!

Good luck - and maybe ask for referral to child continence service if nothing improves in next 6 months to a year. You can often do phone appts to chat things through xxx

[Donnabetts82 in reply to MrsSquirrel]

Thanku

[MrsSquirrel in reply to Donnabetts82]

3 nights with no wet beds here - wooo hoo! He actually woke to buzzer one night, got on the pot to wee and took buzzer off all on his own stars on the chart (chart covers everything from kindness to good listening, continence stuff he may have some control over just part of what he gets rewards for) xxx