Help with my 5 year old please!

[Mariemcdonald11]

Hi

My daughter has just turned 5 and I still can't get her to pee for me! She pees for both grans at my house but not for me. I have been to health visitor who passed me to family support worker who doesn't know how to help so has today passed me back to health visitor. The continence team in our area is not in use as the continence nurse is on long term sick so another dead end! In between times my gp says I am not making it relaxed enough for her to pee compared to grans and said to stop talking about it all to her. So that is what I am trying to do just now. I do not feel like I am getting anywhere and just wondered if anyone had any advice/suggestions. Thanks.

[ERIC-Charity Partner]

Hi Marie,

As what's happening for your daughter is more behavioural than a continence issue, you could ask if there's a play therapy service in your area who can offer some strategies to help your daughter relax and do a wee when it's just the two of you. It's really important to make sure she keeps drinking plenty (6-8 drinks of water based fluid spread throughout the day is best) and avoids holding on to her wee as this isn't good for her bladder muscles. I hope the situation gets better for you both soon. Alina@ERIC

[Mariemcdonald11 in reply to ERIC-Charity]

Hi. Thanks so much for your reply. Unfortunately my nursery/school had a look for play therapy classes and came back with nothing, as did my gp. But thanks for taking the time to reply as I do agree that it is more behavioural/physocological. I just dont know how to break down the barrier😔