I have just signed up for the eric website because I am totally at my wits end. weekend I dread and school holidays I want to stay at school and not come My 7 yr old son has a bowel issue where he holds poo then gets severely compacted and continually soils during the day especially at weekends. No matter how softly I approach he will never admit that he has done this and then follows major shouting screaming refusal crying and just an awful hour. Which I keep saying I know it is not his fault he has soiled but once it is in his pants he has to deal with it. He just point blank to admit it is done and is incredibly stubborn and then he literally sees red and ends up getting himself into all sorts of trouble whilst telling me he hates me and anything he can think of. He is just so angry and no one seems to understand. He is seen by a pediatrition who we see every 6 months over the last 2 years, we use a tens machine every day and we use picosulphate when he has not been for three days. But he is going and soiling. It feels like no matter what I cant help him. We have had early help to try and help us manage him at home, he has a school nurse who has recently started working with him and school have a play therapist that he sees every week. This is not helping him stop every home because I know what happens next. How can I turn this situation around without my family falling apart. His 10 year sister finds this all very hard even though she has been to the hospital with us and seen for herself his x-ray she hates the anger and seeing me upset. I feel as a mum I have failed them both. Just need some more advice what else can we do?