Our little boy is 5 and was diagnosed with kidney problems (only one works- the other is duplex and both have hydronephrosis) and bladder problems (over-muscular, possibly due to a ureterocele, which was operated on just after birth). Generally a normal, happy, bright boy. However he just can't stay dry at school (definitely not dry at night - no point trying yet).
He seemed to manage it at nursery to stay dry there all day (7:30-5 a couple of days a week) but never at home, and now not at school. Each day we walk home and he will wee on the way home, even though I ask before we leave whether he's had a wee. We have small leaks (probably a few ml) during the day at home, but also bigger.
He doesn't seem bothered, and no-one's mentioned it at school but I worry his friends will pick up on the wee smell over time and he'll become ostracised. I'm also worried about him getting sore because of the wetness. He did seem happy to wear 'pads' when we used to go out and about, to catch the drips, but now doesn't use these and they wouldn't last all day at school without leaking anyway.
Not sure what to do to help him. I find myself getting frustrated as he doesn't seem bothered by getting wet and doesn't want to take notice of us if we suggest he goes for a wee. I know we'll have to talk to his consultants, but it's a while until we see them again. Does anyone have any advice on what we can do to help him? Thank you x