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[mollysue123]

I have posted two posts I think now and just feel I am being a right pain. I am not coping very well with everything I am going to see the school nurse in an hour, and I want to go but want to go being strong not weak and end up crying as usual. I want to see it as a positive thing and it will be to have the school on side (hopefully). How do parents manage to talk to there children on here about soiling or wetting because my children get angry don't want to listen so that in itself is a block in the way. I have tried writing my son notes to communicate so he may he wont be as embarrassed. I mean I do talk just used the notes as a less intrusive way.

[ERIC-Charity Partner]

Hi mollysure123. I hope you had a good meeting with the school nurse. Believe me you are not being a right pain! Everyone struggles sometimes and has moments of feeling low and like they can't cope, that's why you can come on here and vent that frustration or sadness with other parents who know what it's like.

Our community is still growing and will get stronger and more active over time and you'll see more responses to your posts.

I hope you get advice from other parents about talking to your children. Have you tried showing them videos that explain what's happening to their bodies? ERIC's Youtube channel has a few which might help youtube.com/user/charityERIC

Rhia @ ERIC

[Alibee75]

Hi just to say I hope it goes well and do hang in there - it sounds really difficult and emotions running high for everyone but hopefully the nurse will have some great suggestions. Good luck.

[Luella19]

Hi, as others have said I really hope you came out of the meeting feeling positive. I, like the others reading your messages will have great empathy with what you are going through as we are in similar situations, and we want to help our children. I have a daughter who is six who has struggled with withholding, constipation and soiling issues for the last 3 years. It's under control now and we see a specialist at our local hospital who is a wonderful support. We still have a way to go and I often feel anxious about it all which I know is normal. The school nurse will be a support to you and the more open you are with school the better. Getting medical people on board always helps. I can remember when I was a teen I would often write my Mum notes if I was too embarrassed to discuss something and it worked. Try what ever feels right for you and your family. Forums like these are a great source of support. And don't worry about crying in front of people, I have cried down the phone to a health visitor once and she didn't mind, said she was used to it! Stay strong and positive x

[fuzzalert]

Use all resources on offer to you. This is an emotional subject for parents and children involved. The school nurse will be used to dealing with these situations previously. I have a nearly 8 year old boy with an overactive bladder and I would recommend having all your Qs for the school nurse written down before you go in, take heir contact number so you can further Qs inthe future I'd also ask if they'd mind visiting your school along with your child's teacher and TA so you can all sit down together and help your child get through this knowing they have all this support but it will be kept u see the radar as I've found keeping my sons dignity has been the most important thing for us. The teacher may come up with suggestions on how to send your child secret signals to your child in class time when they need to visit the toilet My sons teacher used to sign' capital T with her hands. Also worth investing in a Wobl Watch and you can set vibrating alarms to remind your hold to visit the toilet

Any Qs I'm more than happy to help out if I can as I know it's tough watching your child go through this and your trying to being strong for them but with the right support for you you will get through this. It's a long road, we've been persisting with good drinking habits, cut out dark drinks etc and now I've take the pressure off my son when he has an accident and try to reward when he makes he effort and gets changed (have bag of spare clothes at school! Hope that helps and good luck

Amy