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[JiannaSimone]

My 4 year old is under the child continence team but does not seem to be making progress with day wetting and day soiling. He does not tell the school when he has had an accident, they usually discover it sometimes hours later. Is there anything that people have tried that have reminded their children when they need to go to the toilet? He says he pushes the feeling away so that it doesn't end up in his pants. I have reached breaking point, where I am thinking of pulling him out of school and home schooling him. I just need to know anyone who has been through this and got to the other side where their kids have gotten through this. I am a mother in crisis.

[JamesParkin]

Hi,

You may like to try reading my short blog for children with him which tells of my own problems with withholding poo and soiling when I was a boy. It doesn't deal with wetting issues as I didn't have this problem as a child, but it does try to show kids that they cannot make their poo disappear and it will end up in their pants if they don't go to the toilet. Of course, the same applies if they avoid using the toilet when they need to wee. Good luck in helping your son!

theboywhopooedhispants.blog...

[JiannaSimone in reply to JamesParkin]

Hi James! Thank you so much for being so open with your own experience. My son wants to read your story. He's currently on laxatives and it's recommended that he's on it for a while. Did that ever happen to you?

[JamesParkin in reply to JiannaSimone]

Hi Jianna,

I didn't take any long-term medication for my soiling. Occasionally when I was badly constipated and hadn't used the toilet for several days my mother would give me a laxative, usually chocolate Ex-lax. This did make me poo, but unfortunately the urge was usually so strong that I didn't have time to reach the toilet, resulting in very messy accidents in my pants.

In addition to my blog for children, I have also written a blog for parents in which I write in detail about various aspects of my soiling problems, which you may find useful:

childhoodsoiling.blogspot.com/

[Heidi_hi78]

I feel your pain .I have a 6.5 year daughter never been dry day or night I've been pushing and fighting with the n.h.s for 3 years we had to have a 2nd opinion to get to Cardiff this was last may 26 weeks on waiting list to see a consultant then we now on another waiting which is 36 weeks for urodymanics we only on week 23 at moment . Did go back to g.p to make her urgent that was a month ago and not heard yet it's years and years of this still with no answer .I wouldn't pull him out of school there the other side to that making friends social skills e.c.t I know schools are not much either with a no touching policy e.c.t .we try a school nurse it failed your school nurse might be different .all I can say keep fighting x

[JiannaSimone in reply to Heidi_hi78]

I will keep on fighting. Thank you so much for your encouragement to keep moving forward.

[Frustratedmum1]

Hi ya. To be honest from my experience children don't seem to progress very quickly when they have got these issues. It seems to be one step forward and threes steps back.

I would perhaps consider a discompaction programme as the wetting won't improve if they are full of poo.

I considered home educating my son and at the time I had a good consultant. She advised me not to do it. Her reason was you may get him better at home but when you reintroduce school they could relapse. She felt it was better for the child to deal with there issues even tho it is an extremely hard road. I have left him in school I'm glad I have but it is a hard road.

What I'm also finding useful if you are really concerned with your child. Is try and get continuity which gp you see. If you feel you need to see the consultants sooner. They can write a letter requesting it and it hopefully brings those appointment fwd. You may have to fight for it.

We found a toilet routine helpful but where ever your child is everybody needs to be doing it. If our child goes it will probably be when we put him on the toilet after meals.

[JiannaSimone in reply to Frustratedmum1]

Thank you so much. I took him to the GP today and he's on laxatives now. Hoping that clears whatever backlog there is.