Where should i start from ?

[Akexact]

Hi I am a 32 year old I have been having weak erection for quite a long time I really believe half of the problem is physiological because I haven`t had ever a partner. Low confidence issues I guess. How can i even start to get myself out of this mess. I do have mild hypertension since I was 25. And not knowing what to do i started my medication at that early age which I realize I should not have. I am overweight. Do you think reducing weight will do anything for me or I should go see a doctor right away?

[Shezad12]

I don't know your medical history but have you seen your Dr about this problem? If it's physiological, they can prescribe you Viagra or Sildenafil. The 2nd works quicker.

If it's psychological, then you may need therapy to address your concerns with a sexual counsellor.

Being overweight can be a factor, and it helps to do exercise regularly to keep your blood flowing and metabolism active. Erections are caused when blood flows into your arteries in your Penis and release of nitric oxide. This causes your arteries to contract giving you an erection. If you don't release enough of nitric oxide, medicine can help.

I have been in your position too, never had a girlfriend (although found many girls attractive) but had an arranged marriage. Been together nearly 13 years now.

I suffer from epilepsy and the meds cause underlying problems like loss of or reduced sex drive and anxiety.

All in all, I would recommend you talk to your Dr about this.

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Viagra is sildenafil.

[Tom-slick]

Control what you can control. Yes, lose weight. Set some goals, exercise, and eat right. You’ll feel better if you are getting stronger, and looking better. Take pride in yourself. Regarding sex. The first thing to do is have sex to remove the mystery of it all. To accomplish that mission I would get a prescription for Viagara. You can try it out by looking at porn and masterbating. If that works then go have a session with a sex worker.

If all works out well, then you can just let nature takes it’s course when dating. You’ll likely find an understanding partner who you can have a sexual relationship with. If you start getting firm erections without viagra...great! If not, you can use viagara as a aid. Good luck!

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If you are a smoker, stop. I know it is easier said than done but start an exercise program and eat healthy. You'll feel better about yourself and your confidence will grow. You can do it.

[markh57]

Are you on any medication for your hypertension? Some antihypertensives are known to cause problems. Would be worth discussing with your Dr or pharmacist

[mikamori]

I tell you how i am tackling it i am 34. I have been told its psychological for me. I am fit and healthy so the docs said any vascular issues relating to ED seem to be ok. I still talked to a counsellor and psychologist and it did help figure a few things ou. Will definitely help with your confidence issues.

Definitely see a doctor to rule things out. Then take it from there. Working on fitness goals can only help overall.

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Been in the same boat mate all psychological, still have good and bad days though.. you gotta find what works for you and stick to it.

[Captaincrunch01]

Same issues for 30 years!

Used the meds with good results, At 70 years old now I use trimix injections and should have been doing so for years! Amazing erections for as long as you want, just get the dosage right.

[mark32]

Hi , sorry to hear about this , without knowing a lot , excercise will help as will loosing a bit of weight but the physiological part can be a big part , talking to people will help but try your doctor, just to rule out any possible problems. Low self esteem or confidence can affect your life & health- again- talk & get doctors advice & a lot of good advice on this site- good luck

[Shezad12]

I also agree it's mostly psychological. Although underlying health conditions like diabetes, and prescription meds can cause ED. I improved a little early this year but lately not been sexually active.

I'm married and as much as my wife is passionate about sex, she prefers that I take the lead which isn't easy with other distractions in our life. As she is more temperamental and I'm more sensitive, it is more challenging to stay positive.

I get confused due to my epilepsy and meds, and she gets increasingly tired and annoyed having to explain.

Never had a girlfriend before her or close male buddy's so I didn't develop life and relationship experience as I have naturally been shy and fears of having a seizure held me back in my childhood from making friends.