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Radical ED issues post radical prostatectomy

Hello everyone I'm new here and am grateful to find this online support community.

Since my radical prostatectomy in June 2014 I have had very challenging ED issues and would greatly appreciate any help or information to help ease the anxiety isolation and lack of confidence that I am experiencing. So far my surgeon and friends have said my only recourse is a penile implant. Thanks you all for reading this and your ideas and suggestions.

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Tim, We really need more of your story to help you. Penile implants are typically the last choice. What else have you tried? There are vacuum pumps, viagra/cialis, muse, and injections which typically are tried first: what were your experiences with them? Also there are a few ED specialists who sometimes find treatable conditions that your average doc will miss. Have you seen one?

Note I'm not negative about implants, they work fine for several friends. It is just a rather expensive and permanent solution, so all other options should be explored first. Tell us your whole story.

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Thanks BerkshireBear for your reply. Cialis/Viagara have not helped nor has a cock ring. I will try the vacuum pump thanks :-) Injections work but only for up to 2 hrs and the anticipation of the needle puts me out of the mood but still it is an option that I often do not act on. What is muse? I will research an ED specialist yes for sure. Something needs to shift in favor for me with the ED and again thanks for your help.

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Talk to your doc. about TRI MIX, it is a compounded injection, like Caverject, in fact Aprostadil is one of the three ingredients.

The cost is waaay less than Caverject. 5ml. costs me $85.00. I use a 20 unit injection, which comes out to 5 injections per ml. x 5 ml= 25 injections @$3.40 per injection.

Actually I recently found out that some docs start you on it early, after surgery.

I missed out on that, three and a half years ago.

This is an example goodrx.com/caverject.

Tri mix, peoplespharmacy.com/2015/05...

Do some research on it. You can even get an auto injector to put the syringe in, to not have to watch the needle go into prized possession.

If your doc. doesn't know about it, see someone else.

This is new to me also, but it is much better than everything else I have tried.

Good luck with your future recovery

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Not expensive, its actually covered by medicare and many other insurance plans.

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Hi Tim. I had my surgery in August 2014 & felt much the same as you. You are not isolated totally, there are a lot of us out here, it’s just that we wouldn’t recognise each other if we ever met.

And that’s what is so weird. No-one else would ever know that we have these ed issues, yet we feel so anxious and it certainly lowers our self esteem and knocks our confidence.

I assume from what you say that no medication works for you? For me the 2 years came & went and nothing was happening except that Caverject would create an erection. We considered an implant & researched it thoroughly but decided not to go ahead but keep it as a last resort if the caverject ever stopped being effective.

3 years came & went too, and still nothing. But in the last couple of months I have regained the ability to achieve an “enlargement”. I could never call it an erection but it’s so nice to see some growth & it’s great for my wife that she can cause some reaction .

My point is that if I’d gone for the implant none of this would’ve been possible. So please don’t give up hope - not yet at least.

As for your anxiety etc, I have no words of wisdom to help. Except to say that you’re not alone, there are many men in the same boat as you. I struggled & still do as I’m a long long way off functioning normally and every day I have bad moments all because of ed.

So many people asked me what I hoped 2018 would bring & I lied to them all - I couldn’t say my biggest wish was for an erection!

Sorry I can’t be more help but I hope this has at least confirmed that you’re not alone. All the best

Neil

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Hello Neil! Thank you for your concern and feedback I really appreciate it!

Question, what is Caverject I am intrigued and will google it but would love to hear from you what it is and how it still works or not?

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Hi Tim. Caverject is a trade name for the medicine alprostadil which inject into the cavernous tissue of the penis & it then creates an erection, bypassing all the nerves etc which no longer work following surgery.

It works well for me & it’s not as horrific as it sounds. The needle is very small in diameter and the result is that a small prick makes a big prick! It’s great to sit back & watch it grow

I had assumed you’d tried all the usual avenues, but maybe not. I have a vacuum pump & use it daily. I have Cialis tablets to take twice a week to promote blood flow to the damaged nerves. And the Caverject

If you haven’t got these, speak to your doctor. If I can help any more, please let me know. Finally, as others have said, implants should be used a last resort when all else had failed. Good luck, Neil

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Wow Neil thanks so much for your fyi and encouragement! You are very proactive and I need to become more so me thinks. Again thanks and hope to stay in touch.

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Btw Im Tim

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Hi I know where your coming from i live on my own and due to ed i am reluctant to get involved with a lady even though i get hinted at about asking ladies out ,You do become isolated .Does any one have any ideas about the cost of the implant .Thanks

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Tim, I agree with Berkshirebear. One of the most important items men forget to include when asking questions about Prostate Cancer issues and how to deal with them is YOUR AGE. While I am certainly not an expert and don't pretend to be, I am a 24 year PC survivor having had surgery, radiation, and hormone treatment via Orchiectomy (testicles removed) and a facilitator at our local PC Support Group. The other options suggested by Berkshirebear do work for some but not all. Vacuum pump worked for me, but was uncomfortable and not the same, especially for my wife. Viagra did not work, injections did. So keep trying and good luck.

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Thank you Sir I really appreciate your fyi and support here!

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I agree with all of the above post. An implant is the absolute last resort to achieve an erection. Make sure that you have tried every possible recourse before getting an penile implant. I have an penile implant, am very happy that I have it, with no regrets at all, but it was my absolute last resort.

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Thank you Dale for your fyi and support. I really do appreciate your help and experience here.

Tim

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I had radical prostatectomy in 2005 and no erection but now I get a semi erection. I had tried the various pills, which had different side effects that I did not like, plus the pump which was a pain and the injections worked great but I just stopped using it, the one I like best is the cockring you can get a the sex store which I fine works the best.

But I am still cancer free.

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Thank you James for your fyi and experience. I really appreciate your support and sharing.

All the best and even more,

Tim

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Had open RP June 2011 after a failed da Vinci a month before. Surgeon issue another long story. But, after years of trying pills I finally settled at injections. They worked great at first but kept having to increase the dose over time. I finally graduated to a prosthetic cause everyone in my PCa group that had it, said they wished that they had done it sooner. That was about 6 men and I have yet to hear one guy have a negative remark on theirs. My issue is I had a lot of scar tissue which made it hard for the doc to insert the normal size. He had to insert a slim model. Now I am going in again this year for a larger to be inserted but will still not be what I had pre cancer. 3inch loss including the inch from when prostate removed. What I am getting at is yes, it should be a last option. However, if it is a possibility, don't wait like I did. Wife is happy. She could be happier.

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Thank you, Bill.

Appreciate your fyi.

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I don't know who told you this, There are several altrenatives other than penile implant. Try Caverject (very expensive) or some generic form of the same. It works without the trauma of having these plastic devices in your penis.

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Talk to your doc. about TRI MIX, it is a compounded injection, like Caverject, in fact Aprostadil is one of the three ingredients.

The cost is waaay less than Caverject. 5ml. costs me $85.00. I use a 20 unit injection, which comes out to 5 injections per ml. x 5 ml= 25 injections @$3.40 per injection.

Actually I recently found out that some docs start you on it early, after surgery.

I missed out on that, three and a half years ago.

This is an example goodrx.com/caverject.

Tri mix, peoplespharmacy.com/2015/05...

Do some research on it. You can even get an auto injector to put the syringe in, to not have to watch the needle go into prized possession.

If your doc. doesn't know about it, see someone else.

This is new to me also, but it is much better than everything else I have tried.

Good luck with your future recovery

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Hi, there is one question that I didn't see asked, and that is how old you are. I ask because my surgeon explained that the age at surgery was a big factor in what to expect for long term recovery. I am currently 52. I had my surgery just over 5 years ago. I had almost no luck with oral meds, and hated the sensation of the injections. My experience with MUSE was unpleasant as well. I am on a disability check, so haven't bothered to try orals again, since I couldn't afford to use them anyway.

But, gradually, over the years, I had more and more success using an adjustable tension band, available in any sex shop. This past year especially. It took some practice to find how much tension was needed to attain an erection, and then I back off the tension because less is needed to maintain it. I like this because with a slight adjustment I can go from a raging hard on like I had as a teen, to something more gentle.

For the record, I actually attained an erection without assistance once last summer. It was an isolated event, but hell, I was floating for a week on that high.

Just wanted to give you another perspective. Good luck

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Thanks so much Jude. Your kindness is much appreciated. 60yo.

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Btw what is MUSE?

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My dear Sir, I too had the opeation , have tried all the ED "treatments" the only ones that work are the penile injections TRI-MIX, is one of 3 meds that will do it but it is a medical procedure (alcohol swab, streatch cock out, inject the right place, wait 5-10 minutes, hard, don't inject to much or your will have a painful erection that will not give over 4 hours. The penile implant has complications. Two of my friends have had it implanted 1) lost sensation feeling, reduced orgasm 2) took 2 x as long to have orgasm 3) One man had a problem with the resouver that holds the saline solution and it will not drain out of his cock , leaving a constant partial hard on 4) Their cock were shorted another INCH in addition to the INCH they lost from the PC surgery, Thus, their cocks were over 2" shorter. Not cool. The pump is painful. Etc. I have not found the answer. To me at this stage, I have not had sex in over 5 years with anyone. If I found a man who was relationship available, I would make it work. I go to the gym 3x a week keep myself in shape which helps dramatically to boost the sexual libido. If you want to talk more about this off line, let me know

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Yes Mr Vitruviusman I would like to talk more with you off line. We are both in alignment on a very similar journey. I go to the gym 6x/wk and having lost 90%+ of my sexual confidence; have not had sex in 4 years. Like yourself, if I found an emotionally available man I would make every effort to get to know him and date him if there was mutual interest. I really like your confidence and moxy!

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