First ever Lap in a few days, really nervous! Any tips?

[RedNeville]

Apologies for the long post.. I'm feeling super nervous about the surgery that I've waited so long for 😖

It's not the surgery itself I'm particularly worried about, it's that I have convinced myself that they're going to "find nothing". (This is probably fueled by the years of gaslighting from Dr's about my pain and other symptoms 🙄)

Worryingly, at my pre-op assessment, I asked "if they find something that isn't endo, like a cyst or a lesion or something that would explain my pain etc, will they remove that?" She said no, only looking for endo, they might not even remove that if found... 😳 I'm sorry, what?!

Is this the norm??

She also said that I would have the coil fitted which I absolutely did not consent to and she said I'd have to tell my surgeon on the day that I don't want it.. is that also the norm?

I just feel super deflated and extra worried now 😞

Does anyone have any tips/advice for the day of surgery and maybe some questions that I should be asking?

Thank youuuuu 🙏🏻💖💖

[Emc1992]

hi lovely! Sorry that your feeling like this getting the op is nerve wracking enough without feeling extra stress

In terms of removal I can only go off what my consultant did (I had mine in December) he went in initially looking to remove cysts and found stage 4 endo when he was in there so removed everything that needed removing. Maybe speak direct with your consultant on the day and ask this question and give your consent that he can remove the tissue etc if they find it

Coil wise….it’s absolutely your right to say no! Again on the day just tell every person that speaks to you before the op that you do not want it etc - they do make you sign something before your op so double check that the Marina coil isn’t on there etc

Hope you’re ok!

[RedNeville in reply to Emc1992]

Hey, thank you so much for taking the time to read and reply💖

Aw that's really helpful to know that I will get to speak to the consultant before the surgery and explain what I want/don't want.

I'll be sure to take my notepad and carefully read everything before signing too 😅

I don't think I would feel as nervous if this was all discussed and done in advance 🙄

I hope you're doing okay and recovering well from your op in December. I'm sure it was a shock to wake up to that news ❤️‍🩹

Did you have to stay in hospital after that or did you still go home that day? I want to be prepared for every eventuality xxxx

[Bagel96]

Hey! I I know when I had my op I initially agreed and signed to have the coil fitted in surgery, however I then walked away and decided not to have it. I just told the surgeon on the day I didn’t want it and there was no issue. In regards to the surgery is it someone who specialises in endo doing the surgery? This could determine whether they are able to remove the endo etc. Might be worth asking if that’s the case. As ideally you would want someone who specialises in endo that knows exactly what they are looking for and able to remove in the same surgery. Don’t be afraid to ask the questions! All the best x