I hope this is allowed as it's not about the UK. I recently moved to Portugal and needed to see a gynecologist to discuss next steps. I've never had an experience like this before and I just wanted to vent/share.
For context, I don't speak Portuguese YET but I am doing everything possible to learn. We contacted the reception to ask if the gynecologist spoke English and were told she did so we booked.
As soon as I walked in I asked if English would be ok, if not my husband would come in to translate. She said English was fine. As soon as the door closed she immediately started berating me for not speaking Portuguese. This went on a few minutes.
I then explained my situation which includes a fear of taking HBC because of the potential mental health side effects, due to my mental health issues. She informed me that no hormonal medication has an effect on mental health.... I know this is false, and I told her so. She proceeded to explain that any side effects are simply psychological because the medication only has ingredients that are found naturally in our bodies, and therefore cannot have negative side effects towards mental health. She was very clear in her opinion that there would be zero impact on my mental health.
I was in shock, I wanted to leave but was too stunned to do anything so we went ahead with the internal scan. She then asked if I wanted my husband to come in so he can share his opinions. I said no, he's happy with whatever I choose to do with my body.
She asked three times if I want children, each time I said no. She then asked what my husband wanted. I said he wanted a vasectomy so he got one. She pulled a face and was very clearly disapproving.
She told me I have to try hormonal medication and wrote a prescription. She didn't tell me anything about the medication, not even the name. She spoke over me, and very sternly.
She then called my husband in and immediately switched to speaking in Portuguese. She told him to make sure I took the medication for 3 months. She was adamant on that. Now, because he didn't know what had happened, he assumed she meant that because I was nervous he was to help me and be there for me. He also just assumed she switched to Portuguese because he speaks Portuguese, not so she could speak to him without me understanding (I'm 100% certain this was the reason).
I left, I told my husband everything, we did not pick up the medication. He was incredibly angry and wished he'd known what had been said before he left.
I've never felt so judged and dismissed in my life. And I've had some BAD experiences with doctors over the years. I'm writing a formal complaint about her. I didn't include all details of her behaviour because the post is already very long but I included the worse.
arguing with myself day in day out, other opinions please! (It's a big long winded) 
Mind your own womb
End of my patience really unsure what to do feel completely alone and like nobody is listening Consultant confusing me what is wrong with me
Cannot get a diagnosis. Please help 
Feeling fobbed off after 1st gyne appointment
