Hysterectomy neglect

[amygrubb]

Girls l'm struggling today I don't know how tofeel or what to do, so I had a mri done 3 years

ago showed extensive endometriosis organs

stuck together organs covered inside and out

and 7 cysts on one ovarie. Got told my only

option was a hysterectomy i was gutted I

wanted another baby but i did what I thought

was right, had my hysterectomy in July 2022 after it

I got told the mri was wrong and all my

organs were fine no live endo only places

they found it was pouch of douglas and that

was scarring. Pathology even confirmed no

evidence of endo on any of my cervix womb

tubes so ie could of had a baby. I'm angry

they performed a hysterectomy knowing that

things were fine inside should I be angry

upset annoyed? I honestly don't know what to

I'm really struggling with my mental health and i feel im not coping very well still, I don't know how to feel I know it's been nearly 2 years but it still really upsets me. Thanks xx

[Rainbow2468]

Hi there sadly I've heard of this happening a lot or they say people have cancer. There are reasons that are mot great, they offered me a hysterectomy but i refused as I'm a carer and scared of anything medical. I'm so sorry to that you're in this situation. Sending you a big hug too, please feel free to ask anything or just have a rant xx

[amygrubb in reply to Rainbow2468]

Thankyou so much for replying it really means alot I'm finding things really hard these days don't feel like me I once had a job and was volunteering working with kids which I loved now I feel like who am I besides doctors and hospital appointments my daughter suffers with health anxiety due to her own health problems and scares so I'm trying to be strong but honestly I'm scared and angry. How are you now? Thanks Amy xx

[Thistlegirl49]

Hi, sorry to hear this. Did they explain why they went ahead with the operation? Was there another reason they needed to perform the hysterectomy - eg pain etc? Make a list of questions, get your records and you could contact the hospital complaints team?

[amygrubb in reply to Thistlegirl49]

They said the hysterectomy was because of the mri and when they went in and seen hardly any they thought the best thing after 12 surgeries was to take it all away unfortunately the surgeons that did my operation no longer can get hold of them one has retired and the other one moved to Canada not long after my hysterectomy when I confronted one of them he had his head down throughout the whole appointment and didn't know what to say to me I started crying and he got up and said I have to leave, this has broken me I lost my job my volunteering working with kids and me as a person I'm angry scared and even now its hospital appointments doctors appointments and not knowing again. I really appreciate you replying to me it really means the world to me it makes all this a little bit easier. I hope your ok and in a good place xx

[ValerieVal]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I just want to validate your emotions here, as this is such a traumatic event. You have every right to feel angry, upset, numb - it's such a shocking and awful thing to happen. Have they offered you any counselling or other after care? They should be supporting you with your mental health. If you feel up to it, it may be worth contacting PALS if you are in the UK, as they can help you navigate next steps and advocate for you if you decide to make a complaint. Sending you love x

[amygrubb in reply to ValerieVal]

Thankyou for replying it truly means alot and makes this a tiny bit easier to deal with and process I have had counselling and I was doing OK but recently feel like I'm slipping again I'm trying to be strong for my kids and partner but I keep thinking what if and why. Before this I had a job I volunteered I had a life now I feel like I don't know who I am anymore. I have taking it to a lawyer but its hard going through it constantly and feel like am I wasting my time. Hope your well xx

[ValerieVal]

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[astitchintime]

Although I do not have personal experience of taking the nhs to Court I would advocate this for you. At least with financial compensation there is something rather than just having to put up with the situation. I would go to a Solicitor or even the Citizens Advice Bureau for first step advice. A lot of Law firms do not want to take on the nhs, Councils, Housing, Estate Agents but there are Law Firms that have taken the nhs to Court.

[amygrubb in reply to astitchintime]

Thankyou I have reached out to a lawyer and it was hard relieving it again but after talking to such lovely people on here I know I have to do something for closure. Thankyou I hope your ok with your health xx

[AlexaMac]

l cannot relate to you completely as l was over 70 when my complaints were finally taken seriously but, if it helps to unload then we will listen. I had horrendous bleeds age 72+ and my first gynae did not take me seriously. Passed onto the next surgeon when the labs from my partial came back showing a large malignant tumour embedded in my womb lining, hence periods post 70.

At all ages it is good to think someone is listening, so please unload when ever you feel the need.

Hoping you soon have the answers you deserve 🌸

[amygrubb in reply to AlexaMac]

Thankyou for replying it really means alot and makes me feel I'm not alone right now, I'm so sorry to hear what you have been through it's shocking these days how long it takes to be taken seriously you know your own body but even screaming that dosent get you anywhere untill sometimes it's too late. I hope your ok and on the road to recovery physically and emotionally xx

[Redhill88]

Hi AmygrubbSo sorry about your experience

I had something similar

I was told I had cancer even though the biopsy showed no cancer they still forced me into having a hysterectomy

I had to give up my job

Even dough I'm a single parent..when the gave me the hysterectomy the put a hole in my bladder and did not realize it..they told me to leave the hospital because they wanted me out..I was in terrible pain but they didn't care

I had to go into a&e a couple of days later and they discovered I had a fistula

I had to wear a catheter for four months and then do bladder surgery which was unsuccessful and now I have to repeat it again but a different way which is more difficult to recover especially as I do a physical job

The reason the love and basically puts wemen into hysterectomy is because they get the most funding and they use it to train doctors

It's all very corrupt

I was also very depressed what happened to me

But basically I am on such a healthy plant based diet which has really help me recover and get me back to normal life

I would never use the NHS again

Because they doctors are all so protected and pals don't care if you get injured they will always support the doctors, it's very hard to get compensation ..no law form wants to go up against the NHS unless you have money to pay for it yourself

I hope you will recover and feel great again and you will☺️but it is a terrible thing to go through

Best wishes

[amygrubb]

I'm truly sorry you have gone through so much its heartbreaking to hear just awful stories the hospitals and the doctors have alot to answer for, I'm so pleased you are in a better place now I have my good days and bad still have alot of health problems and alot more appointments to attend in the future just trying to take it one day at a time. I'm here if you ever want to talk best wishes Amy x

[Redhill88 in reply to amygrubb]

Hi AmySo sorry I didn't reply sooner

I haven't been in this site for a while

My son was ill at his school

I wonded how you have been getting on

And how is your health since you have been going through all the terrible stuff with the hospital

I still did not get a reply from pals about my damaged bladder

No hospital appointment to fix it.having to buy my own pads because the district nurse told me I'm not entitled to them

Leaking urine constantly and not been able to even go to my son's music concert because of my situation

I'm also waiting to hear from my solicitors..I will never give up fighting the NHS for there pure evil as they put wemen through so much pain and suffering just for greed and greed only

Ever woman must complain because these gyno clinics know exactly what they are doing

The scare and intimate you and push you into surgery that you don't need and then they all back one another up when they do wrong

My mp is involved now

Anyway I hope your in a better place

Take care for nowX😊